Invited to birthday party but there's a catch 🙄

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

At least we got an answer… feel bad about joking around now

Nah, don’t feel bad. Ppl die every day and you can still have a laugh!

She clearly knew we all were interested with the “popular” comment.

 

[standupsitdown]

Nothing wrong with asking for a negative LFT. It’s sensible and logical and I hope becomes the new normal where people are gathering, at least until cases have dropped . I’ve been invited to a wedding and the hotel wants everyone to send a photo of a negative test result on the morning of the reception.

But as for the food and drink - rude! The whole point of hospitality is to give your guests good food and drink, I think us Brits forget that sometimes. My mother just can’t get her head round the fact that sometimes people are asked to bring their own food. Equally she never turns up empty handed, always brings a bottle. Just good etiquette on both parts, guest and host. I’d bring wine, or flowers or an nice pudding just as a gesture of appreciation. Not if I was told to though

 

[rainbowlemon]

Nah she's been active since and still not updated, clearly one of the many attention seekers tattle attracts!

Can you make a new advice thread for us with a satisfactory ending?

 

[Elsass]

I went to an event last week where we’ve all ended up isolating because someone came up positive. I won’t be attending anything else where LFTs aren't mandatory. No they’re not as good as PCR but they do work if they’re used properly.

As others have said, maybe other guests have asked for them for whatever reason. It’s easy to do, and if you feel so strongly, don’t go

 

[lemonlime]

They should just arrange a zoom drinks event and call it a day. I totally understand being cautious or anxious about crowds or Covid but the solution isn't this. Simply don't throw a party? That's what I'd do anyway but if I did decide to have people over, I can't imagine asking them to bring their entire meal with them, that's so odd. If you are the host, then be the host. If you can't afford it or if you don't want to take the responsibility, then don't bother. It's not an obligation. I'm not bothered about the LFT, I don't think it's a bad idea but the food thing is a stretch and having to arrange that for something that isn't mandatory is a faff tbh.

 

[Rxt156]

Can I just on this. I’ve recently been invited to two children’s parties (with my kids, I’m not a weirdo!) One at a farm and one at soft play. Now I have to pay for me and my kids to attend both of these events, the farm will cost £65 for all of us to go. On top of that we will have to buy food there and we will be expected to bring a present. In my eyes this isn’t a party, it’s the mums way of avoiding a party. I get everyone cant afford big dos, but surely just a pass the parcel and musical statues in a garden can be done on the cheap. Is this the new way of children’s parties?! At £65 a pop just got entry my kids won’t be going!

LOL

HOW have some people got the nerve?!?

 

[Treesy19]

Her word then, if you’re terrified of Covid don’t have a party. What about if you’re unwilling to do a little test that takes minutes to help out others then don’t go to a party.

 

[Sea]

The adds on this thread

Endings you never knew you wanted!

Balloon arches = your kids name and DOB as a tattoo on your arm/bosom/nape of neck

 

[Rocknrolla]

Inbox me hun xx

 

[Merpedy]

I think it's somewhat normal to ask people what to bring tbh. Makes it all a bit more organised and there's no risk of people bringing the same thing. Presumably the hosts will also be supplying stuff

I think as long as everything is fairly, or seems to be fairly, priced it's fine

 

[Base2019]

I think the lateral flows are a good idea, whether you feel annoyed by her asking or not. We don’t know what other conversations she’s had with others wanting to go e.g maybe there is someone going who, for the first time ever since the pandemic is socialising and they’re understandably very very anxious. We don’t know what other strangers are going through. I know several people with blood cancer atm and to look at them you’d never know. With everybody going having done a neg lateral flow that massively eases someone’s nerves and anxiety.

As for the food instructions - now that’s cheeky the way it has been done! When we host a BBQ we lay it on ourselves and if guests say what shall we bring we usually say just yourself thanks! Or usually a few will insist on bringing something they’ve made to add to the food buffet! Her demands on the food front are a little annoying yes. Digging further though maybe she’s hard up but at the same time desperate to see all of her friends. Is she like this usually?

Just wanted to say thank you for being so compassionate towards others. I think it’s so lovely to see. I’m only starting to socialise again after having treatment during lockdown and it’s so nice to see that some lovely people do understand and like you say about your friends, to look at them you would never know! People say the same about me. We really never know what others are going through!

OP, you sound like you don’t want to go so I’d just leave it. You sound like your not going to enjoy yourself if you do go so that’s all you need to know.

 

[If you say so...]

@Inforapenny Keep us updated on how the party goes! (if you go) I feel invested now

 

[Giggling Squid]

It sounds to me like she’s very nervous about COVID. I’ve a friend who is similar, she will have people round, but always uses disposable plates and cutlery. We tend to get takeaway when we’re at hers because she’s more comfortable with that than with sharing food/making people bring their own. She also likes people to LFT beforehand.

she’s struggled a lot through lockdowns, and I do t think many people know this- so to them it prob is quite excessive but it’s what she needs to do to make herself feel safe. Perhaps this is a similar situation - or someone she’s invited is nervous or vulnerable so she’s doing this to make sure they’re safe

 

[rainbowlemon]

Seen as @Inforapenny has been MIA for quite a while now we can probably expect the Netflix documentary soon.

I'm going with the title 'Party of nightmares'

Ah I can picture it now Making a murderer : party of nightmares.

 

[rainbowlemon]

Just noticed the OP posted on another thread! We might get an update!

 

[JoeBloggs]

I just came here to ask what the heck is a lateral flow test?

Have you been living in a cave and missed the pandemic?!

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I did the same in the baby names you hate thread!

Can we keep this thread going though?

What would your ideal birthday party look like? LFT's to attend?

I also think balloon arches are naff.

LFT’s all the way I am too scared of getting sick.

Btw we need answers @Inforapenny !!! Don’t be that chick who’s all like “You know who you are and what you did” on social media and never tells. But will be like “I’ll inbox you hun xx”

 

[rainbowlemon]

I hope it's because she's writing a detailed response!

Why am I so invested? I feel lonely in real life and dossing about here makes me feel connected to people.

#Letitgo

 

[rainbowlemon]

A) We hope we are welcoming to our Amish friends.

B) Welcome back Alan. "What year is it"?

 

[rainbowlemon]

We need to know if you went

THIS - don't leave us hanging!