Invited to birthday party but there's a catch 🙄

[Dot_Cotton]

People commenting on here would surely give them a notification so you would think they would look and just address this!

 

[Bitofthebubbly]

Can I just on this. I’ve recently been invited to two children’s parties (with my kids, I’m not a weirdo!) One at a farm and one at soft play. Now I have to pay for me and my kids to attend both of these events, the farm will cost £65 for all of us to go. On top of that we will have to buy food there and we will be expected to bring a present. In my eyes this isn’t a party, it’s the mums way of avoiding a party. I get everyone cant afford big dos, but surely just a pass the parcel and musical statues in a garden can be done on the cheap. Is this the new way of children’s parties?! At £65 a pop just got entry my kids won’t be going!

Nah that’s not on. That’s not a party that’s a play date.

Ive taken my kids to farm and soft play parties and hosted them myself and the parents have never paid for entry or food. The cheek!

 

[Mrs Cucumber]

I did the same in the baby names you hate thread!

Can we keep this thread going though?

What would your ideal birthday party look like? LFT's to attend?

I also think balloon arches are naff.

Balloon arches anger me! I have no idea why. They just piss me off

 

[Mrs Cucumber]

The LF wouldn't bother me, they have become 2nd nature to me and I would probably do one of my own accord before a gathering anyway.

The food situation is weird though, I was brought up to never attend someone's house empty handed but I would never take my 3 course lunch, just some sides, snacks or a pudding.

The whats app group would possibly me off though!

 

[rainbowlemon]

In her absence- she went to the party:

and found out her married best friend was having an affair with the butler.

 

[Sven]

I wouldn’t mind doing an lft
With the food I think it is a bit strange, you’d expect mains to be served and if you wanted any particular drink or side you could bring it. It doesn’t sound like you’d like to go, so just tell her and leave the WhatsApp group if that’s the case.

 

[Very traditional]

I commented on her post in the Secret Celeb Gossip thread yesterday asking her to come spill, it didn't work ... I don't think she's coming back

People commenting on here would surely give them a notification so you would think they would look and just address this!

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[Blahblahahaaa77]

Well, that took a turn!

 

[blossombloss]

I hope it's because she's writing a detailed response!

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

It’s when people post cryptic stuff on their socials and then never tell you wtf is going on #sameenergy

 

[If you say so...]

It’s when people post cryptic stuff on their socials and then never tell you wtf is going on #sameenergy

“PM you hun xxxx”

 

[Treesy19]

How rude not to divulge the outcome

 

[Inforapenny]

I think the lateral flows are a good idea, whether you feel annoyed by her asking or not. We don’t know what other conversations she’s had with others wanting to go e.g maybe there is someone going who, for the first time ever since the pandemic is socialising and they’re understandably very very anxious. We don’t know what other strangers are going through. I know several people with blood cancer atm and to look at them you’d never know. With everybody going having done a neg lateral flow that massively eases someone’s nerves and anxiety.

As for the food instructions - now that’s cheeky the way it has been done! When we host a BBQ we lay it on ourselves and if guests say what shall we bring we usually say just yourself thanks! Or usually a few will insist on bringing something they’ve made to add to the food buffet! Her demands on the food front are a little annoying yes. Digging further though maybe she’s hard up but at the same time desperate to see all of her friends. Is she like this usually?

I actually disagree about the lateral flow and having to take them because of potential others health or mental issues. I've spent 18 months desperately trying to protect those the most vulnerable in society we all have but at the same time I can't constantly worry about all the possibilities and others illnesses. I have an under lying health issue and wouldn't dream of expecting strangers to constantly think about me.

I get your point but I know it's a request by my friend because of HER worries. She's the one that is worried for herself, again don't organise a party and then put these stipulations of you're so worried.

She definitely not hard up. She's got a big inheritance and a house that's all.paid for her.

If she was hard up then she could've organised say a picnic in the park surely that would mean guarantee guests bring food.

An LFT to go to your friends house? Why are they even bothering if they're that fussy. They're not known for being 100% accurate anyway.

Sounds like quite a draining, domineering personality they have. Having fun in her way.

This has been noted befoee ...very much always a one way dialogue and very draining

 

[Rxt156]

Negative to the balloon arch. Saw someone selling a second hand arch …. “Paid £240 and it’s been up four hours… £75 Ono” WTF

 

[Scorpihoe]

Can’t imagine attending a party and bringing my own food lol…might as well eat my own food at home

 

[rainbowlemon]

I commented on her post in the Secret Celeb Gossip thread yesterday asking her to come spill, it didn't work ... I don't think she's coming back

I did the same in the baby names you hate thread!

Can we keep this thread going though?

What would your ideal birthday party look like? LFT's to attend?

I also think balloon arches are naff.

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Omg I need to know what happened!! Surely they must be getting sick of the notifications from this thread as they are clearly active on other threads? TELL US WHAT HAPPENED

 

[glitter tits]

The food thing is strange - if you’re hosting then you provide the food and it’s a bonus if guests bring anything. In my friendship group we naturally take turns hosting things so it’s just swings and roundabouts.

i do think you’re being unreasonable about the LFT though. I understand you are double jabbed but others might not be (not talking about antivaxxers but younger people who might not have been offered both doses yet) so it’s a bit selfish for you not to do one or to use the fact that you’re double jabbed as a reason not to do one because you could still pass it on. Obviously we haven’t seen the tone of the message the request was made but I do think it’s a totally reasonable request. I’m not very anxious about covid at all but I’d happily do a LFT to try and eliminate the risk of unknowingly passing it on!

 

[N0s3yr0s3y]

The adds on this thread

 

[Alexaj]

The LFT is neither here nor there for me. I'd find it a bit OTT but I suppose you don't know what conversations she's had with other guests...

The food request on the other hand would ensure the BBQ gets a hard 'no.' Completely unreasonable. You host a BBQ, you buy the food. I usually turn up with some cakes or biscuits to be polite, but it's not as prescriptive as 'bring your own main and side.' F that.