I really think Hen dos really show people’s true colours! I didn’t want a hen do my best friend persuaded me, said I needed a last hoorah. I didn’t have many friends and felt a bit ashamed. You always see Instagram photos of big girl gangs in Marbella having an amazing time and that’s not me.
Well best friend started to organise, it problem being I only had a few close friends which she doesn’t like as they are older than me and not into the party scene like my best friend. So she didn’t invite them I wasn’t aware and in the process offended them all by telling them that maybe they were a bit too old for it. She told me she would take care of all of the organisation. I’d heard nothing for weeks asking the girls but they kept saying I don’t know I just thought that they were keeping it secret. Wrong. In the end I got added into the whatsapp group as said friend hadn’t organised anything at all! now don’t get me wrong, I’m not a bridezilla (our wedding was small and chilled), I would have happily organised my hen do from the start but the fact she said she would do it and then didn’t bother or let me know that she couldn’t organise it I would have stepped in and sorted it.
With only three weeks to go, I had a nightmare of trying to find availability, confirming numbers etc. I found a great deal and asked people for deposits, well the amount of people that said yes I can go then no or I can’t because my cat needs me or just didn’t give me an answer and ignored me. It really effected me and got me down that maybe some people in my life who I adored didn’t feel the same about me, I know we all have commitments but if it’s a no just say no! Some paid me deposits and rest promised payday so I put it all on my credit card with the promise that they’d pay me nearer the time. We booked to go to Barcelona for the weekend nothng too fancy just basic accom and cheap flights. I ended up paying for myself and two other people who still haven’t paid me back or offered to pay me back.
On meeting at the airport my best friend decided to get very drunk and loud. I was terrified we wouldn’t be let on the flight. First night there we went to a bar and she went off with a group of lads called me boring for not wanting to go off with them (she also had a partner at this time) and then worried what if something happened to her! Luckily she made it home that night.
The next day I’d organised a nice meal but everyone was moaning and didn’t want to go as they’d rather get drunk fair enough! It honestly didn’t feel like my hen do, it felt like I was on a school trip
trying to please everyone.
one of the girls I didn’t know very well we met through my daughter (now like a sister to me). Bless her she organised a makeup artist and a private area in a bar for me. My actual sister, best friend and Friend from school hadn’t bothered with anything not even a novelty sash. On arrival at the bar my best friend suddenly disappeared. Didn’t see her for most of the night then my sister stated that she’d seen her leave with the lad she pulled the night before. I didn’t see her for the rest of the hen which I suppose was a good thing.
All I can say is it’s made some of my friendships stronger and really highlighted one sided friendships. My best friend did apologise but I wouldn’t call her my best friend today. If I could go back, a nice meal and a club in my hometown would have been amazing! No pressure.