I've met Princess Anne on a number of occasions and she is very normal, and also clearly tough. She is much like a farmer's wife in all the right respects, compassionately pragmatic, straight talking, no time for nonsense. She walks around her estate at equine events dressed down and striding along with a big stick. She's formidable, and an incredible sense of fair play. If she led a squadron of marines I would be afraid, very afraid.
As for the constant racism shouts. Nobody here denies there is a minority racist coverage and some truly nasty stuff written about MM (though not in most of the newspapers I've ever seen!). I can also seeing aristocratic circles being snooty about this (the older generations), but they're a fading breed. Their last interaction with the real world was probably never but also likely to be at uni forty or fifty years ago. Their opinion does not represent the British world view.
When we look at this objectively, Meghan came to the family late as a fully fledged woman with big ideas and off the back of what she saw as a career high of Suits and international fans. She thought she could handle the media, she couldn't. The media is full on, I couldn't do it. But. Let's look at her past history; she has cast off her siblings (many do, not suspicious), her childhood friend(s); some of us outgrow them, but rarely a cold cut off, then her marriage. She comes to the UK openly wanting to try and make it into the rich set and date a well off man. She has friend and agent meetings trying to forward her agenda. She casts these off cold when she meets Harry. She casts off her father. She casts off the press. She casts off Will and Kaye, the man who walked her down the aisle PC, the Queen, multiple staff.
To lose a few people in your life is clumsy but to lose so many, so definitively, is a concern. It represents rapidly changing life circumstances in which your old social connections, support, conversations, principles, no longer fit up close with the new stage you have entered. Few of us enter new stages so completely, so frequently, and so late in life. The trail of discards represents that moving forwards is more important to MM that these people, their feelings, and their "voices". The only people she will allow close are those who say saccharine things. There is a conflict between her actions and what her PR says she is feeling. That is because she is not an authentic human being, she is a chameleon, trying best to fit the background she is currently seen against.
These behaviours are not because she is black. They're not because she is American. They're not even because she is a non royal suddenly overwhelmed by being royalty. Other non royals have not seen a need to cast off entire social circles over and over. Autumn Phillips managed, and Mike Tyndall. These are the actions of a narcissist. She is able to orchestrate entire fan fictions and barely leave her mansion. The key thing about sociopaths is their inconsistency. Words don't meet actions, they take money and don't come through. They don't even acknowledge that they have done so. Any suggestion they have hurt someone or don't something selfish, makes a bomb go off.
I find it fundamentally bizarre that people think we would find the above behaviour acceptable in a white spouse. What on Earth does her colour or her race have to do, with her blatant compulsive selfishness? Her "goodness" is a veneer. I can't think of anything about Meghan that is genuine and sincere, and not stage managed. Whether it's her handwriting, her teeth, her hair, her desire for "connection", her desire to commit to "duty", to uphold the Queen's values...none of it is sincere.
She is consistently inconsistent, self promoting, lacking in empathy, aggressively manipulative of the press, consistently discards people close to her, wouldn't stand up for JM who has aggressively defended HER in the press, invited celebs she barely knew over nearly all family members to her wedding...spent her year married into the royal family either on maternity leave or extended holiday - there was very little service and very little respect to be earned on the trust that was eroded by the constant bickering. Even the Fiji tour, trying to say she supported herself through college...that just isn't true. Her lies catch her up. She is just shamelessly manipulative and probably extremely charming in person. You can't really diagnose people without meeting them, but she truly is a narcissist. It is outrageous people would fall for the racist tag line rather than look closely at the series of troubling incidents that have occurred as reported by people who know her well/she admits to. This woman is an odd woman. An odd human being. It's nothing to do with gender or colour.