BIB
I still wonder what Hazza did, said or threatened in order to marry her. I just saw that Wild About Harry cover of hers again the other day, with her pouting like a screenshot from that burger-grilling video she did. And that was right before the engagement. I can't believe Hazza wasn't told to get rid right there and then, any threats to call the family racist be damned.
When W & K split, she was offered huge amounts to do an interview and she always refused. But imagine if she'd got back with Will and then gone and done a sultry cover story like Smeg - hair all over the place, bare-shouldered and a huge headline "Why I'm Still WILD ABOUT WILLY". William would have absolutely been told no way was he getting back with her. I know the stakes are higher for William, obviously. But Hazza was still going to be a senior Royal and the probable choice of Regent for George if something awful happened. So, how on earth did the RF let their guard down so badly? And why?
And your second paragraph, particularly about the children, concerns me too. After Oprah, and Smeg trashing Kate, those little Cambridge kids, above Hazza in the LoS, were getting death threats, along with their mother. But the Harkles were still referred to as "much loved family members", and even now there is talk in other places that the RF themselves are going to be very low-key about Kate's 40th to avoid upsetting You Know Who. Why????? Any sort of concession to Hazza is not going to protect any of them from the venom he'll unleash in that book. He's being paid big bucks to spill the tea, all of it, and he'll have to deliver because he needs that cash.
Grey-rocking is an effective approach, but only up to a point. And we're there. As soon as your silence is viewed as passivity, and you're getting into the realm of death threats to kiddies, someone actually breaking into Windsor Castle with a crossbow on Christmas Day to do harm to HM because RACISM, and the nasty side of Twitter cheering the intruder on and mocking the RF, you've crossed the Rubicon, and need to change strategy fast.
JMO.