Yeah this is rich coming from Grace considering how much family support she has with her child. But honestly I do get the vibe that Lee is there but not really There. I can totally believe that Grace does all of the actual child rearing between the two of them. I remember their pre baby vlogs back in the day and Grace did all the cooking and cleaning on top of being the breadwinner. I can’t imagine much of that dynamic has changed.
But this is a situation that Grace herself has created! Lee has never been a particularly committed or active partner. And having his baby was never going to change that. That is a mistake women have been making since time immemorial. She actually reminds me a lot of an old friend of mine. She also has a very lukewarm barely there boyfriend. He was never particularly passionate about her but she clung to him, got him a job at her dads company, moved him into her flat, pressured him to save up for a mortgage with her and then had his baby (he told her to get an abortion but she insisted).
And like Lee he obviously loves his kid, is somewhat fond of my friend. And more importantly - massively benefits from the material comforts that he gets by being with her and living in a two income household. But he’s completely useless, my friend does basically everything she’s the household manager, does all the child rearing and home making on top of working and paying everything 50/50.
But the thing is, both my old friend and Grace have the same issue. They’re control freaks. So as much as they huff and moan about their situations, they’re the ones who actively sought them out. They subconsciously go for these passive unenthusiastic men because it allows them to call the shots and make all the decisions.
If Grace actually met a man who was strong willed, committed and passionate she’d run a mile. She loves the Simon and Lee types. A real relationship would involve compromise and sacrifices that I could never see her making (in her current state). So she’s stuck in these shallow nothing-y relationships with men who use her and have no vested interest in meeting her needs.
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