SqualorVictoria
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Check this out. Again, this proves this issue is against women. Utter misogyny is at the core of the modern trans ideology.
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If I was a kid growing up today I think I would’ve been transgender and be on the hormones already! I grew up playing football, hated wearing dresses or makeup, always had messy hair and to be quite honest, I didn’t have any female friends but that wasn’t a problem back then (albeit only 15 years ago). I refused to wear any clothes from the girls section cos I just felt more comfortable in football shirts, joggers and trainers and that was that but nowadays I completely agree it has been massively overblown. If you do anything remotely masculine you are therefore not regarded as a woman anymore and vulnerable young children are now lead to believe that there must be this “misalignment” between their brain and their body and it’s so so harmful it’s actually reversing the old fashioned gender stereotypes women have fought for years to reverse!! I actually think we’re going backwards instead of forwards in society in acceptance of people for who they are and I wouldn’t want my future daughters to grow up in this society. Call me a trans-medicalist but I truly believe that wether you were born a man or a woman you should be free to be as masculine or feminine as you want without feeling the need to change yourself and people who are transgender have a genuine condition where they feel strong dysphoria and distress against their own body which can only be relived by surgery! Sorry for the long rant but I completely understand what you’re sayingJust wanted to post some self reflective ramblings because I’m still reading and formulating my own opinions on this subject so I don’t want to make sweeping statements just yet
But in terms of myself, I feel like gender is a load of bollocks? I was born female, haven’t really questioned it before. I present as a woman because women’s clothes fit better because I’m petite. I don’t wear make up, or style my hair, and rarely wear particularly girly clothes. My interests are gender neutral. Basically I’m trying to say I’m not ‘feminine’ at all in society’s limited sense of the word
Also, I’m not especially masculine and I don’t want to be a man. And declaring myself agender/gender fluid (or whatever term) just seems pointless and I’d hate the attention/questions etc
I did a Google search to find out how to know if you’re cisgender and what seemed to crop up a lot was basically ‘feeling comfortable with your assigned sex’. Do most women feel comfortable with their sex??? Seriously, because even pushing my negative experiences aside, there’s my friends experiences, statistics and research, the whole way women are socialised, our biology meaning we generally suffer more pain. I cannot imagine being comfortable as a female. By this definition, do most women have ‘gender dysphoria’?
Just thinking out loud to be honest
Yep, yet men still get to hold onto their group identity with a firm grip.I kind of feel woman are losing their own group identity because we have to be inclusive of the trans and non-binary community.
It's not just woman in Africa and Asia though, it's woman globally including the UK.So campaign to help those affected in Africa and Asia.
But, no, making life more difficult for trans people, women especially, is more important to some uk feminists atm.
Can I ask a serious question here?The phrase I used was "the language of transphobia".
JKR said in her piece that she had read widely on this issue and sought to present herself as a neutral outsider who had read stuff from "both sides".
However the language she used was a red flag that this was not the case.
If you read FB post and the poster repeatedly said "moslem" instead of muslim would that set of alarm bells? Their defence would be that it is a correct alternative traditional spelling. If you suggested they were racist they may say "Islam isn't a race". I have only seen racists insist on using the term "moslem". If they insisted they weren't racist I think oh I got it wrong . I don't think that racists get to self define - someone saying they are not racist is not going to persuade.
Similarly someone saying "I'm not transphobic but..." does not mean I think that person could not possibly be transphobic.
As for the language - I haven't got the blog to hand but JKR's repeated references to trans activists (posting on twitter, especially posting offensive insults is not activism) and her saying "biological" and "natal" women. This is not neutral language. It is the language of "gender critism" aka transphobia. The term Rowling wants is cis. Cisgender is in the OED. The refusal to use a neutral non loaded term is, again, to me indicate that JKR has being read transphobic material.
Comments on "people who menstruate" are dishonest. How often have you seen that or similar terms in the wild? The phrase is used, as I'm sure you all know, to be inclusive. What should it be replaced by? Women? But we know not all women menstruate so discussion of, for example medical research relating to those who menstruate then being relabelled as about women would be wrong and the conclusions would be wrong. Do you think it should be replaced by "women who menstruate"? But that, as I am sure you know would not include trans men and non-binary folk, so again would be misleading and change the meaning re the group the research related to.
Some may think what I've said is absurd.
I think the idea that "terf" is a gendered insult used to silence women is absurd. "Shut up terf" is the equivalent of saying "fuck off racist". Many think you shouldnt "debate" racists. Many feel that there is no point debating "gender critical" feminists. Their views are legitimised by being deemed worthy of debate, those views are very entrenched and not open to change and you will end up exhausted, hsving wasted your time and possibly given platform to a trsnsphobe in the process.
Apologies for all the typos/wrong tenses used above - had only just woken up and didn't read it back before posting.
Thank you for this. I think you sum things up well. There is a massive difference between someone who is trans and someone who says they are non binary or gender non conforming.It's no surprise I share different views than the majority in this thread, but having seen the video above, it reminded me of some things that have always bothered me.
I think a lot of the world outside of Twitter and so on don't have a total understanding of the trans community and what it means to be trans due to all of the... add-ons. I support and actively try to use my voice to help the community, and I listen to my trans friends to understand their struggles and to hear their voices. However, I find that the trans community it is often mocked by the idea that trans is an umbrella term for gender non-conforming and non-binary people. They are not the same. I know a lot of people online who identify as non-binary and go by either all pronouns or by they/them, etc, etc. I will always respect their pronouns and encourage them to identify and express themselves in whatever way makes them happy, but I have had trans friends express annoyance at them thinking they can speak on behalf of trans people as if they are trans themselves. I often find nb people trying to include themselves in the trans community... which the majority of my trans friends and peers find insulting, as to be non-binary is not to experience gender dysphoria, nor is it to have your biological sex not match your gender. While I know there are a handful of nb people who would say they experience gender dysphoria, I know the majority don't and that's where I've noticed a lot of tension from trans people who feel like their experiences and hardships are mocked and downplayed by others who may just feel like one gender or another one day, and then something else the next. For me personally, I do find that is more to do with self-expression, and from my understanding of the people around me, none of them seem to experience the genuine struggle and pain with their biology that trans people do.
I've seen many nb people insert themselves into the agony that trans people face, with their inner battles, but then their only "struggle" per what I've heard from many, is that they do not feel particularly feminine or masculine one day, or fluctuate between the two or feel androgynous. I find it belittles the people who struggle terribly with suicide, depression, body dysmorphia, gender dysphoria, etc., due to the sex they were born into.
I was definitely the same in my twenties. Because (and this is maybe embarrassing to admit) I believed that being a leftie was simply what good people chose to do.In my younger years, I was definitely more left in politics, from about 18-22. I am now 28 and would say I am more centre, and a little right. Def not right wing but absolutely not left. Fed up of women being trampled on by the extreme left and extreme right. They are both as awful as each other.
I’ll decide what I’m called, thanks. Not cis, fragile or silly. Just womanFragile femininity because a lot of people on here seem convinced that trans women are going to take away their womanhood. Crying about being called a “cis” woman. It’s just silly.
You don't know why people object to "cis"? Because it's bullshit, that's why. There are two sexes/genders - male and female, determined by X and Y chromosomes. They do not need to be quantified or qualified. Anyone who decides, for whatever reason, to transition to the opposite sex/gender to what they were born is a "transgender man/woman", anyone else is a man or a woman. Simple enough?don’t know why people are so averse to that word. I don’t always use it out of context, only when I talk about trans stuff.
I’m lucky enough that I’m able bodied and don’t have bladder/bowel issues (actually I have IBS but I know my triggers) because I’d hate to be forced to reveal myself just for the privilege of using the loos if I’m in public. That alone would be absolutely humiliating.
just being curious, what’s your (everyone here) stance on trans men using men’s bathrooms? assuming they pass as men. wouldn’t you be weirded out seeing a trans man using women’s loos in that case? is it suddenly ok if they have a vagina? see how all of this seems illogical to me.
ETA: trans women don’t feel safe using men’s loos, so I guess possible solutions would involve including unisex bathrooms for those who feel comfortable using them, or a designated trans/NB bathroom (which would invite violence too, imo). I suppose they can use disabled loos but I can’t see disablity companies doling out keys for trans people to use?
Have to say one part of the trans activism side of this debate seems to reek of white privilege. They still haven't addressed the issue of Muslim women in women only spaces, and they didn't give a rats ass about statistics about poorer women or PoC, both in the UK and abroad. I've seen black women in the UK who are doing a lot of work to fight FGM be abused for calling it F!!!GM. Sickening. Privileged white women are not all that matter, and seem to be the only people taken into account when saying trans rights don't diminish women's rights. Makes sense though as some of the loudest people speaking over and abusing JKR are straight, white, rich males who have never had to acknowledge their privilege.