I hate saying this (and I apologize in advance if this offends anyone) but in my experience at least, often the loudest people in these communities tend to be very unattractive people inside and out, and I honestly can't help but feel like they want to use the whole trans thing to get attention and as an excuse for why people dislike them, instead of taking a hard look at themselves. It almost reminds of me of when companies started using "real bodies" (which is another topic onto itself, but I think it's good that they have a variety of body shapes instead of just tall, skinny, models, although being thin is also normal) and the people that were most hateful towards thin models were not the healthy, "normal" women with regular bodies but the super obese who clearly had medical issues, and deluded about this reality. Classic cases of deflect and attack.So so much this. Honestly I think even bio women who swallow this guff have more internalised misogyny than they could ever begin to realise.
The healthy LGBT people I know are honest about their preferences/situation, and just live their life like normal folks. They might donate to or occasionally bring awareness to major events in the LGBT community but they're not aggressive about it, and they accept that other people may have different opinions. They also don't impose their opinions onto others.