It's hard (or manybe confronting is the right word?) to be gender critical, especially for those of us who in many other ways are to the left politically and have found that suddenly anything except absolute adherence to 'trans women are women' is blasphemy. Know you're not alone.
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This is like a breath of fresh air, and thank you for these resources too I’m definitely going to take a look at these today.
And YES. I’m very left wing, like I’ve never had a job where it’s not been a thing people are surprised to learn the extent of and joke about. So I’ve always felt like there’s something wrong with me or I’m missing a piece of the puzzle, and I’ll admit I get very confused by the “penises aren’t male” discourse and the stuff I see lesbian Twitter going through with “you’re transphobic if you don’t want to sleep with a woman with a penis”. How have we become so disconnected from the violence men and their penises inflict?
My turning point where I don’t want to accept it is having a daughter. It really worries me that she could be in a swimming changing room and be exposed to an adult’s penis because they self ID as female. Similarly I don’t want rapes or family annihilations or murdered (all the male crimes) recorded as being carried out by women.
I don’t feel like a hateful or horrible person but everything I read on Twitter suggests I am both.
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this post. I am the same in my industry. Its male dominated and there a forums and networking events for women. Or rather there was , now the networking events are for 'anyone who identifies as a woman'. Now I think they should be inclusive but I don't identify as a women, I am one. But there is no option for that on the booking forms for these events. I feel like I have been erased.
I’ve read your posts before so know what field & would definitely say it’s an incredibly similar situation! I’ve only just got to the point in my career where I’d gain any real benefit from going to these sorts of events and I don’t want to now. I get DMed on LinkedIn asking to go on podcasts or speak on panels and I don’t want to because I worry about who I’d have to share a platform with and missteping or being visibly uncomfortable. I couldn’t take them seriously discussing their career history because sorry but if I could sink beers and do lines with the right people I’m sure I’d be on your salary rn too hun x
I don’t understand how transwomen can’t see how it would feel for us as younger AFAB women who’ve endured the shit they’re just going through lifetime to date (although they’re not, sorry but in the gender hierarchy it’s male > transwomen >>>>>>>> AFAB women >> trans men). Also acknowledge the absence of sexual harassment they’ll face? My 20s are coming to a close now but the number of uncomfortable situations you have to endure that make you wonder if it’s worth it at all, that they simply will never be exposed to. I know it’s different for trans women in sex work, but that’s the very dangerous nature of sex work so not 1:1.