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Currently listening to the audio version of Invisible Women by Caroline Criado Perez. Thank you so much to whoever recommended it. If you're in Ireland the Borrow Box app is fantastic for borrowing eBooks and audio books. You need a library card to join but after that you have free access to a huge range of books and you can request anything that's not there.
 
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Well what a surprise:

But…but…but…This Never Happens!!

god, that email from the spa is so bleeping reasonable, but it’s never enough 😡

I have a question that’s never been answered. Where do handmaids think all the pervs and voyeurs of yore went? Did they all just vanish? or are we all so “sex positive” now that its just not a thing?
 
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This got shared on my Facebook - done my best to anonymise as much as possible but “serious sexual assault” and it’s a TIM. The thing that never happens is happening again

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Well what a surprise:

Frankly - if I were the spa owner I'd sell up.

Women won't take advantage of the "female only" nights, and I doubt that TRAs will for very long when there are no women to intimidate.

I can't see the problem with a "pen-night" and a "non-pen-night", but what do I know? - I'm only a tina-owner and we all know what we are like.
 
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Are you actually joking 😡
"a tenant of your business"?

Ignorant ducks.

And stop dragging black women - who are female - into your specious arguments. mats.

How the hell did this ever take such a strangle hold on the so-called "civilised" world?

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Genuine question, maybe someone who is much better educated than me on this topic can chime in: why are black women so often dragged into this topic?

While I cannot claim as a white woman to understand or even realize all, the acts of racism and prejudice black women have faced their entire lives, I haven’t seen any spaces that want to exclude black women. Men yes, of any skin colour. But not because of their skin colour obviously, but due to the fact that they are men.
Of course black women ( and men, I don’t want to downplay this) still sadly face racism, but I’d be interested why this particular matter is always connected to black women. And I’d also like to know how black women feel about being taken as a „helper“ to shoehorn men into women’s spaces.
 
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I wonder if it ever occurs to these head handmaidens that you never, ever see the special lady types standing up for the rights of actual women. Never.
Loads of women would crawl over broken glass to push the needs of the non women over that of their sisters. Yet it never occurs to them that it only goes one way.

To misquote the Usual Suspects once again, the greatest trick the patriarchy ever played was to convince women that some men are more vulnerable than they are.

Who do I petition to get an "Oh duck off" emoji? I'm old and I'm tired and sometimes I just can't be bothered to type it out. It would be much easier to just click a button. If we can't have an emoji, can we just assume that's my reaction to most things?
 
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Genuine question, maybe someone who is much better educated than me on this topic can chime in: why are black women so often dragged into this topic?

While I cannot claim as a white woman to understand or even realize all, the acts of racism and prejudice black women have faced their entire lives, I haven’t seen any spaces that want to exclude black women. Men yes, of any skin colour. But not because of their skin colour obviously, but due to the fact that they are men.
Of course black women ( and men, I don’t want to downplay this) still sadly face racism, but I’d be interested why this particular matter is always connected to black women. And I’d also like to know how black women feel about being taken as a „helper“ to shoehorn men into women’s spaces.
Some people think that Black women aren't as feminine. It's a disgusting trope and is rooted in racism. There are women in every race who don't present as 'feminine' as some others, for some reason in this instance it's Black women who've become the victims of male prejudice.
That's my take, anyway.
 
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Genuine question, maybe someone who is much better educated than me on this topic can chime in: why are black women so often dragged into this topic?

While I cannot claim as a white woman to understand or even realize all, the acts of racism and prejudice black women have faced their entire lives, I haven’t seen any spaces that want to exclude black women. Men yes, of any skin colour. But not because of their skin colour obviously, but due to the fact that they are men.
Of course black women ( and men, I don’t want to downplay this) still sadly face racism, but I’d be interested why this particular matter is always connected to black women. And I’d also like to know how black women feel about being taken as a „helper“ to shoehorn men into women’s spaces.
Because they have no valid arguments for men in women's spaces, so they have to grab onto something that they can piggy-back on, in the same way that they initially piggybacked the "T" onto "LGB".

They are parasites - like leeches.
 
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I wonder if it ever occurs to these head handmaidens that you never, ever see the special lady types standing up for the rights of actual women. Never.
Loads of women would crawl over broken glass to push the needs of the non women over that of their sisters. Yet it never occurs to them that it only goes one way.

To misquote the Usual Suspects once again, the greatest trick the patriarchy ever played was to convince women that some men are more vulnerable than they are.

Who do I petition to get an "Oh duck off" emoji? I'm old and I'm tired and sometimes I just can't be bothered to type it out. It would be much easier to just click a button. If we can't have an emoji, can we just assume that's my reaction to most things?
Who do I petition to get an "Oh duck off" emoji?

I hadn't thought about it, but a "V" sign would be handy.
 
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Some people think that Black women aren't as feminine. It's a disgusting trope and is rooted in racism. There are women in every race who don't present as 'feminine' as some others, for some reason in this instance it's Black women who've become the victims of male prejudice.
That's my take, anyway.
Yeah forgive me if I’m speaking out of turn here as a white woman (I’d be furious if a man said something like this about women, for example, that was uninformed) but all the nastiest stuff about black women all seems to be from men? I’ve never even heard a woman of another race hint that they thought black women were less feminine or didn’t belong in their space. I have heard subtle racism about other aspects of blackness. This trope where they try to make black ladies similar to trans men 100% came from a man 😡
 
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Yeah forgive me if I’m speaking out of turn here as a white woman (I’d be furious if a man said something like this about women, for example, that was uninformed) but all the nastiest stuff about black women all seems to be from men? I’ve never even heard a woman of another race hint that they thought black women were less feminine or didn’t belong in their space. I have heard subtle racism about other aspects of blackness. This trope where they try to make black ladies similar to trans men 100% came from a man 😡
For sure, I've only ever heard it from men. I'm also white but it grinds my gears when men make up things about WOC. Another one I've heard is that East Asian women have sideways vulva/vaginal areas.
It makes me sick, they fetishise these women yet look down on them at the same time.
 
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