Absolutely this.
In Abigail Shrier's book, one quote really stuck out at me (paraphrasing her as I don't have it to hand). LGB people want to be accepted for who they are. Trans people want to be accepted for who they are not.
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In Abigail Shrier's book, one quote really stuck out at me (paraphrasing her as I don't have it to hand). LGB people want to be accepted for who they are. Trans people want to be accepted for who they are not.
Funnily enough it isn't the feelings of sex offenders I'm bothered about.
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Colorado Board Scraps "Sex Offender" Label Due to "Negative Impact" on Sex Offenders
The Colorado Sex Offender Management Board has voted to change the way sex offenders are labelled in the state in favor of "person-first" language. The Board, which primarily mandates treatment standards, voted 10-6 on Friday to advance a controversial proposal to replace “sex offender” with...
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Jesus bleeping Christ, the constant bastardisation of language to obscure reality.
Personally I'd prefer "men who commit sex offences" but what do I know?
Personally I'd prefer "men who commit sex offences" but what do I know?
I've said right from the start, paedophiles have piggybacked on this latest failure of safeguarding to further their cause of being accepted in the mainstream. It's a slow drip-drip but it's happening. Once again, gay people have to suffer being tarred with the same brush as perverts and n o n c e s. It's a bleeping disgrace. Stonewall should be closed down.
Imagine we went back 10-15 years when Stonewall did not include trans people
Stonewall 2012: Some People Are Gay. Get Over It
Stonewall 2021: Some People Are Gay. They Need to Get Over It and Stop Being Same Sex Attracted Bigots
We had an anti conversion therapy talk at work today - part of inclusion I guess. Voluntary so I didn’t take part. 1. I’m busy
2. I don’t agree with conversion therapy already so I don’t need education on that. I think the trans lobby want to ban anyone interfering in the medicalisation of kids. This is not the same as trying to make someone not gay.
2. I don’t agree with conversion therapy already so I don’t need education on that. I think the trans lobby want to ban anyone interfering in the medicalisation of kids. This is not the same as trying to make someone not gay.
Pure and utter attention seeking. Also if you're married to a man why do you need to come out as bisexual? It seems a bit like being a meat eater and coming out as vegetarian
And it kind of makes it appear that the current relationship is temporary.
Definitely. If you are not defining your dating preferences to a (hopefully) eager prospective date or dates, it’s really no one’s business and no one gives a tit. If you have to be defined by your relationship it should be the one you are in at that moment.
are there so many people that agree with conversion therapy that you need training on why it is bad?! (obviously I have no idea where or in what industry you work... but there are so many more issues that people don't know about that deserve training (imo) like gender based violence/discrimination of various kinds...
It seems it's not just young people who have been influenced by the 'straight, boring, married' narrative. I've heard of women who claim to be bisexual but 'coming out' while married takes the biscuit! Also a friend casually dropped it into the conversation that he was bisexual, in the 20 odd years I've known him I've never known him to be with a man and he has always had serious girlfriends. He's even living with a woman now. Gay people must want to roll their eyes at straight tourists, I certainly do
I am a bisexual woman in a heterosexual relationship - I am not queer/ do not call myself that/ my relationship is 100% heterosexual and not queer. I don't understand "coming out" as bi on social media when in a long term relationship with someone of the opposite sex (mainly because I don't really do social media other than as a way to see cute animals) but I do get saying you're bi when you're in a heterosexual relationship just as additional context.
This is not a thing I make a big deal about, but when I talk about having a crush on a female celebrity I want people to know that this isn't a "girlcrush" but it is a "I am sexually attracted to this woman" kind of crush. (Rosamond Pike was one of my earliest crushes and so with her new show this has been on my mind recently - I definitely don't talk about this all the time).
And also when I was (trying/ unsuccessfully) to date women, that was part of my life, it's easier to say, casually, "As a bisexual woman, this was my experience on dating apps etc". It just situates me, the same way saying I'm from this city and my parents are from these places. It's just a fact about my life. But like any information about you, not everyone in my life knows it, nor do they need to. I have really good friends where it's just never come up, and not from a "this is a deep dark secret" way but just we've never talked about it and they don't need to know-we don't talk about dating or crushes, we just don't have those relationships.
But even while being bisexual, I am 100% not queer and would never/ have never claimed to be.
This is not a thing I make a big deal about, but when I talk about having a crush on a female celebrity I want people to know that this isn't a "girlcrush" but it is a "I am sexually attracted to this woman" kind of crush. (Rosamond Pike was one of my earliest crushes and so with her new show this has been on my mind recently - I definitely don't talk about this all the time).
And also when I was (trying/ unsuccessfully) to date women, that was part of my life, it's easier to say, casually, "As a bisexual woman, this was my experience on dating apps etc". It just situates me, the same way saying I'm from this city and my parents are from these places. It's just a fact about my life. But like any information about you, not everyone in my life knows it, nor do they need to. I have really good friends where it's just never come up, and not from a "this is a deep dark secret" way but just we've never talked about it and they don't need to know-we don't talk about dating or crushes, we just don't have those relationships.
But even while being bisexual, I am 100% not queer and would never/ have never claimed to be.
Ok I’m on the strictly thread - and someone mentioned David Paisley from Holby and I thought isn’t he that arse that has the police on speed dial for hurty feelings? Apparently he is pretty ?! And also outed Joe McFadden (from Strictly so there is the link) as gay on Twitter but deleted it but then told everyone why he had deleted it. And this was years ago - so yes always a prick on Twitter.
But what if I want people to acknowledge that I eat vegetables and enjoy some completely meat-free meals quite often? I need to know that my vegetarianism is valid even though I’m having a cottage pie for dinner tonight.
(Please note that nothing about my post was euphemistic
)I think coming out while married is a pretty strong indication you are about to leave your husband/wife for someone of the same sex
Personally I think it's a pretty strong indication of attention seeking!I think coming out while married is a pretty strong indication you are about to leave your husband/wife for someone of the same sex
Yup, I have absolutely zero issue with people in opposite-sex relationships saying that they're bisexual. They are bisexual, the same way that bisexual virgins are bisexual. The whole straight women saying 'My boyfriend is non-binary and has long hair and therefore I'm a queer woman' stuff can get in the sea but sexual orientation is still a part of someone's life, even if they don't/haven't actively had sex with someone.
Plus, in the cases of a lot of older women it may have been a part of their life that they didn't feel safe exploring when they were younger because of family/religion/society and eventually met a guy they loved and settled down. But it's still a part of them.
No one is saying you can't be bisexual in a straight relationship, it's more about the very specific type who claim it for attention seeking reasons!
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