So many of them would have benefited from working for a year before going to uni. I was only a few years older than most of them and there was a big gap in maturity and general life experience.
So many of them would have benefited from working for a year before going to uni. I was only a few years older than most of them and there was a big gap in maturity and general life experience.This makes me so sad. I'm an academic and first years fill me with absolute dread, the silence, the disinterest, empty 9am lectures and general can't be bothered attitude. It gets better when they've specifically chosen your modules in second/third year etc but honestly I'm not sure why half of these kids bother going to uni, it seems so many just want to scrape through without engaging much. Tbh I think too many people go to uni now without thinking about it, what do you think @judgejohndeed? It's like it's the next natural progression from school, and has nothing to do with career choices etc.
I do think some sort of retail / customer service focused paid national service would be good - it would give people the opportunity to learn how to behave professionally and stop people who otherwise never would have done those jobs being such dicks to employees.So many of them would have benefited from working for a year before going to uni. I was only a few years older than most of them and there was a big gap in maturity and general life experience.
This. I've worked in customer facing positions and a bar and it was always painfully obvious when dealing with customers who has and hasn't done similar work- as a general rule most people who have done similar know the shit you can get so they treat service staff with respectI do think some sort of retail / customer service focused paid national service would be good - it would give people the opportunity to learn how to behave professionally and stop people who otherwise never would have done those jobs being such dicks to employees.
It would also be really handy for those who didn't do great in their exams, and who struggle to get an entry level job because they don't have enough 'experience'.
Though I don't think it would work in reality. People would just never turn up.
Our juniors at work are all early to mid 20s and I have to say apart from one who enjoys pushing work into other people including upwards a bit too much - all of them are a pleasure to work with. They take constructive feedback, they have a good attitude they aren’t off sick a lot and they are eager to learn although it’s very hard doing professional exams and a full time job. It’s a big firm so they will have gone through a process to get here and they can see the rewards to come but not all the kids are a problem.My hairdresser was talking to me about apprentices the other day, he said he liked one of them, she had a good attitude and personality. I said is that unusual. He said yes, a lot of them don’t have a clue. He says they all have “ issues” - he did the quotes. I asked him what he meant. He said some of them are insolent, and back chatting in front of customers, even when asked to do the most basic thing. (He reprimands them later.) And he said he is tired of them treating him like a parent rather than an employer. He has to sit and listen to them - they all want to tell him about their anxieties. He said they say they have anxieties when you ask them to do X (basic stuff) and if he says do you have anxieties when you do something you enjoy, they say no. He tries to tell them that feeling nervous about new stuff is a normal part of life, and using anxiety as an excuse not to do something is not on, but they are all on planet Me. He just wants to go home and see his own kids and has to act as some type of parent to other people’s kids. He is in his late 30s, so not methuselah.
Wow... So how will this work with the doctors affirming it instead of assessing? As I know that's happening in the UK too....Maybe the tide is changing
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I can’t read the whole article because it’s behind paywall but just from this headline I would guess this would also mean that it’s illegal to tell trans children they’re the gender they were born…or am I understanding it wrong?Maybe the tide is changing
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how are any of these people going to cope in the real world?! God as a teacher the idea of standing in a lecture room in silence as no one answers fills me with dreadI have to say my experience as an academic was the same. When I was an undergrad (not even that long ago to be honest) if we had turned up to seminars without doing the key reading we would be kicked out of the class. The tutor would pick on random students and expect us to know key cases (this was an LLB degree) and if someone was obviously unprepared they’d be asked to leave. When I was teaching, we weren’t allowed to pick on students to ask questions because it ‘causes anxiety’ so you’d often sit there in silence waiting for someone to answer a question. You’re encouraged not to fill silences to encourage students to have a go at answering, but I found this irritating and frankly painful. Same with deadlines for essays, and even exams. When I was an undergrad you needed a medical note to get an extension. I hate to sound all ‘back in my day’ but honestly I do think academia has gone up shit creek without a paddle these days, it’s sad to see in such a short space of time.
I agree, I think also part of it is that there are a few (in relative terms) wildly successful influencers who are basically raking i money for doing nothing and this is seemingly what a lot of young people aspire to. I mean I would love money for nothing (wouldn't we all) but I didn't grow up with that even being on my radarIt’s definitely shifted in the past 5 -10 years. When I was at uni 13-10 years ago I had literature seminars and you were the odd one out if you DIDN’T have anything to add to the discussion - studying and keeping up seemed to be the order of the day. Facebook Twitter etc were around of course but we weren’t being advertised to/groomed at the same level. I think schooling is failing kids and not preparing them for the world of work or higher education to be honest. I know of a couple of 21 year olds who have been looking for jobs for 3 years each and they only last a few weeks at places because they have no work ethic, they don’t want to do anything, they don’t participate in bringing solutions or helping others etc. These are family friends and they are to be quite honest, pathetic. I think something has happened in the last 5 years where kids are coddled too much and given false entitlement and it shows. They also don’t seem to know how debate and polite discussion works.
Makes you wonder how the 39 year old man who says his girlfriend is "threatening" to marry him is going to cope with parenthood when he's apparently not mature enough to have a conversation about marriage with the person he's willing to have a child with.Dadchelor can fuck right off along with the trend to invent cringey words. I'm sorry and I know I might sound judgey but if that's honestly their biggest worry about becoming a parent then I'd wonder if being a parent is for them
Becoming a parent requires huge sacrifices, financially, emotionally, mentally, sacrifices I'm not up to. It should be the least of their worries
this is just another way companies have found to make money. When people started going on a "babymoon" etc... just a commercial exercise.Dadchelor can fuck right off along with the trend to invent cringey words. I'm sorry and I know I might sound judgey but if that's honestly their biggest worry about becoming a parent then I'd wonder if being a parent is for them
Becoming a parent requires huge sacrifices, financially, emotionally, mentally, sacrifices I'm not up to. It should be the least of their worries
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