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Shall I try this one at work?

LaLa 247
Executive generic job title (ba hons)
+44 (0)7123 456 789
Pronouns: Pitter/Patter
I dare you to do this! :p

My work have now included our email signatures to include pronouns for those who choose to put them in

head desk

im not going to.
 
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if anyone decides to ask me about it.
I think this is important. Surely, realistically nobody is ever going to ask you about it. They're making it out to be an issue when it really doesn't exist. In my job I get literally hundreds of of emails a day, lots of which are cc (which I do need). I'm lucky if I even get a "hi first name" before the bulk of the email let alone pronouns.
 
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I’m sure there was a similar sort of case with an elderly woman in hospital who was confronted with this very scenario and when she and her daughter complained, the staff (or it might have been “the NHS”) essentially told her to stop being nasty and bigoted and to get over it
There was one with a grape survivor and she got called transphobic for wanting a natal female to do a mammogram.
"Brighton and Hove News » Hospital apologises to grape survivor for branding her request for same-sex breast-screening medic as transphobic" https://www.brightonandhovenews.org...me-sex-breast-screening-medic-as-transphobic/
 
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I think this is important. Surely, realistically nobody is ever going to ask you about it. They're making it out to be an issue when it really doesn't exist. In my job I get literally hundreds of of emails a day, lots of which are cc (which I do need). I'm lucky if I even get a "hi first name" before the bulk of the email let alone pronouns.
I work in a male dominated industry (although quite a few women in my team) and the points made about drawing attention to being female potentially being an issue struck a chord. I am so used to being considered less capable than men - I’m not going to stick she/her in my bio to make it even worse.
 
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There was one with a grape survivor and she got called transphobic for wanting a natal female to do a mammogram.
"Brighton and Hove News » Hospital apologises to grape survivor for branding her request for same-sex breast-screening medic as transphobic" https://www.brightonandhovenews.org...me-sex-breast-screening-medic-as-transphobic/
I doubt there are many women who would want a man scanning her breasts, so the hospital need to get a grip and stop chastising patients.
 
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I work in a male dominated industry (although quite a few women in my team) and the points made about drawing attention to being female potentially being an issue struck a chord. I am so used to being considered less capable than men - I’m not going to stick she/her in my bio to make it even worse.
I'm a freelancer, so will never be asked. But if anyone did, I'd 100% put

Female first name surname
He/him

No explanation, no debate.
 
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I’m sorry this might not add anything intellectual to the discussion but this just came up on my fyp and I cannot believe people are genuinely engaging with this person in the comments

edit: just noticed the pronouns pitter/patter 😭😭 howling
I think you'd describe this as 'otherkin', which is a bit like furries in the fact it's basically a sexual fetish. I think this group of people are trying to shoehorn themselves into LGBT off the coattails of gender ideology.


 
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Hang on - LGB are sexualities and nothing to do with fetishes. People need to stop equating kinks and fetishes with sexuality because that leads the belief that gay = child mole which has hopefully been completely consigned to history
 
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Otherkin sounds like something out of the The Witcher or Skyrim. I just can’t with it all. Absolute nonsense.

What is it with people making their kinks into some kind of personality trait? It’s gross, keep it in the bedroom.
 
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I'm confused how the pronouns pitter/patter are even used in a sentence? Going off a she/her template, is it like, "Jennifer has taken the day off, pitter has to take patter dog to the vet."

Makes heaps of sense!
 
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Oh duck this tit. Seriously, duck this. This "you're just afraid and therefore the problem" gaslighting is the language of abusers.
Catching up, so this may have been said but it is absolutely bizarre that a woman would say this without any self-awareness. Has she no idea of current grape and SA statistics? I'd argue almost everyone knows someone who has experienced male violence. There are very legitimate reasons to be afraid of penises. Why is it that society is so big these days on consent (rightly so) in sexual situations yet suddenly in a changeroom it doesn't matter?
 
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smart, worldy, liberal men
Generally sheltered men from nice backgrounds who went to posh schools, don't play any sport worth a tit and who've never ever been in a physical fight and would shrink from one if offered. Tell me I'm wrong. The street toughs get it way, way more than the so-called educated class of men who often tend to be enamoured of fashionable intellectual theory.

Any man who has ever been in an actual proper fist-based fight or trained in any contact sport or martial art knows size and strength is pretty much everything and also knows and fears what it's like to be physically humiliated, dominated and subjugated by another man. You will never get this fashionable nonsense past any MMA fighter or boxer btw. Guys in that field were the first to call the idea of trans 'women' in sport out for the dangerously dumb and unfair rit it is. Say what you like about Joe Rogan, he nailed that one years ago with the Fallon Fox fiasco. He was downright horrified that any woman should be put in the ring with a natal male. He stuck up for the female MMA fighters who were getting thumped to rit by that piece of work who hid the fact he was trans and the women only found out when they got hit harder than they'd ever been hit by any female sparring opponent or in the ring. They all described it as being hit with a strength and intensity they'd never ever considered possible before. People who fight know the difference between a man and a woman exists and is important.

Most men I know get it implicitly regardless of age - the ones that don't tend to be the type to look down on football fans as subhumans, have been to university for far too long and become overly enamoured of the works of say, Judith Butler. Call themselves feminist but won't listen to women about their actual experience and have too little brutal life experience to understand living in fear themselves. The chattering classes haven't a bleeping clue about many of life's realities.
 
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There was one with a grape survivor and she got called transphobic for wanting a natal female to do a mammogram.
"Brighton and Hove News » Hospital apologises to grape survivor for branding her request for same-sex breast-screening medic as transphobic" https://www.brightonandhovenews.org...me-sex-breast-screening-medic-as-transphobic/
How is this happening, I would wager that there are far more femal grape victims than trans people in the uk, yet still a small minority are taking precedence

I'm a freelancer, so will never be asked. But if anyone did, I'd 100% put

Female first name surname
He/him

No explanation, no debate.
Or better yet “he/her” just to add to the confusion 😂
 
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