I think her answer also shows how privileged she is. I don't know for sure about Brighton or UK in general, but I know here (especially during covid times) not everyone can afford the hair salon multiple times, hell even to to buy a box of hair dye as much, paint more than once, move more than once, etc etc
Her recent changes are all cosmetic (house, her) and at a superficial level. Obviously we can't diagnose, but armchair therapist opinion is she's constantly looking for the next best thing because she's not currently fulfilled the way she's living but isn't changing anything.
Changes to me would be like you had to move (I did last year, needed a bigger place and it's such a pain the ass I am not moving again for a long time), losing a job (I lost one due to covid), having a kid, getting a new job, maybe a partner, making new connections, working on yourself, going to school, etc
Also I think her "Embrace Change!" is toxic positivity. Some change is bad. I don't think there has to be a positive with everything. That's when you hurt yourself emotionally. Sometimes tit things happen, there doesn't need to be some mind-blowing lesson in all of them and people are allowed to feel the way they feel and it's valid.
Last thought "ask me questions but I'll answer you with a passive aggressive" answer. Also does she not realize that everyone is not Neurotypical? That even the slightest change could result in a meltdown because their brains work differently? (Talking from a place of experiencing it with my child who is in a grey area for certain diagnoses but has others.)
Maybe I'm bias but all I see is PRIVILEGE.