Exactly it's so messed up, some will say it's just a cat but it's actually her responsibility to take care of him and respect him. Imagine if this was a child and she treated him/her the same way. It's so disgusting to even think about but seeing as she sees her cat like an actual human child, I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't understand what boundaries areOmg. Poor cat. This is more disturbing than she realises. Stop. Leave him alone, treat him with respect and dignity, he's a living, breathing being who does not want that from her.