It's never about them and their needs, always about her.
They start getting up earlier, she *needs* to fix it for her. .
They are ready for potty training, she didn't bother because it didn't suit her.
They don't need their hairs cut for them, rather do she thinks they look satisfactory enough for pictures.
Otherson clearly has issues over the hairdresser, but she ignores that and powers on. Then gets pissed off with him. A toddler.
They clearly are getting past needing a nap, she locks them in their room anyhow.
It's never about changing her life to satisfy their needs.