I totally agree, my twins at their age were using hands and starting to use a spoon, I always encouraged it and let them try themselves with cutlery from around 10 months? I don’t know if this is the norm and my god was it messy but it makes life easier for everyone. I also found they ate more if I let them explore for themselves. She bangs on about baby books, insta mums health visitors nct friends other twin mums etc. She’s got a wealth of knowledge and advice givers to ask but hey, Nikki knows best!My daughter would have her fingers in the food. It would be all over the highchair. All over the plastic sheet that I had to put under the highchair. All over herself. However that’s how they learn. I would then with holding both her hands walk her around the house. Before than I would be on the floor with her encouraging her to crawl. We all start out as new mums for the first time and you do learn as you go along but Nikki surrounds herself with other new mums etc so there’s no excuse. Someone needs to tell her for the boys sake that they need to explore - they need to learn things themselves x