I'm sorry, too. My family is so messy and would have been if my brother had been NT. As it is, he was not. He isn't the reason my parents were the way they were. And he is stuck with me as a sister, too.
I'm sorry if my post made you feel bad.It was not my intention to hurt anyone. I do know there are autistic people who post here and provide very valuable insight, which I appreciate a great deal. I didn't say Abbie was "unlovable"; I said she was hard to love. I think the thing is she just seems so unreachable. Who knows what she is thinking or feeling? Her IDD+autism makes her seem very far away to me. As for you, you are clearly highly intelligent. Even I, an internet stranger, can connect with you in some way. But with Abbie, she just seems so very locked inside her own mind that it must be very hard to bond with her on any level.