I'm lousy at putting in words how I feel sometimes. So forgive me if this doesn't come out sounding right.can't believe I'm about to do this but here goes..
I'm 50. I was born with hydrocephalus. my parents were told I'd be nothing more than a piece of flesh. as I was growing up, I met and beat every milestone thrown at me. I don't think my siblings resented all the attention that I got but I know my father resented not me but my health issues and he never took the time to show me how to do things or he'd try but get mad because I had dexterity issues and wasn't doing it to his liking. I learned how to do things by watching him and not by him doing hand over hand with me. I do have an older brother who was the star athlete and then there was me.
Reading this made me sad for you, but also happy.
It is horrible to feel resented by a parent. My mother resented me for being better at things than her son. At the same time she needed them for her self worth.
I'm really glad you're here.