Fathering Autism #24 Pullups, messy hair and dirty feet. Hambeasts can’t parent but they sho can eat!

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Is that Sentara?
As horrible as it sounds you may have to go up peninsula, maybe as far as Salisbury
Sentara has most of the hospitals in this area. I also have Chesapeake Regional, which is not affiliated with Sentara (much to their dismay).
 
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I hope the best for Isiah. He has grown up in that household and doesn’t know any other way of life. Daddy suddenly got money filming their family on YouTube. Isiah stepped up and played his part. He learned his lines and stepped up to his marker. I’m sure the swim scenes in the pool are for the humpers. Good job Isiah.
 
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Sentara has most of the hospitals in this area. I also have Chesapeake Regional, which is not affiliated with Sentara (much to their dismay).
I often wondered how they escaped Sentara. I hope everything works out for you.
 
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This totally looks like a crime scene. 🤷‍♀️

Seriously though, the only crimes here are the three inches of her diaper showing (still no potty training) and her dirty, nasty, gross feet that probably weren't washed until the next morning. 🤢🤮 👣


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Exactly!

Y’all do have to realize, just because surgery can be done to correct issues, doesn’t mean it will be done... Same thing with her teeth and orthodontics..

Hold on, before I get bashed...

When you take your child to the doctor, specialist, dentist, etc., they don’t just look to see what is wrong and fix it. They have to look at the overall being of the child, current health, mental abilities, etc, If they feel that with a treatment or surgery, that follow up won’t be able to happen or that this is something she couldn’t control and will go on to undo the surgery, they will not recommend having the treatment or surgery.... Even if a parent pushes it, a doctor or surgeon can just say no....

It happens every day...

My youngest child has a severe overbite and horrible teeth alignment. He needs spacers and eventually braces. The problem, he cannot even lay down to let the dentist work on him. He has had horrible issues at dentist offices and even bite a dentist before. We have been working for years, at a new office, to overcome his younger years of horrible treatment but he still gets scared and if we get a new dental hygienist, it is like a back track.. The dentist wants to send him for braces but he isn’t ready and we don’t know if he will ever be ready... It happens and is something we have had to accept...

Also, Abbie feels pain different (so does my youngest) and unless she is showing severe pain, they aren’t going to jump and do anything either...
Your an awesome mom, you have such patience and a nice way about you!

Asa is vast! He must have the same waist measurement as P. Check out his massive gut when doing the gardening.
I took a snapshot of it, but it’s too big ( no pun) to upload on here! I just tried to do it lol
 
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I hope the best for Isiah. He has grown up in that household and doesn’t know any other way of life. Daddy suddenly got money filming their family on YouTube. Isiah stepped up and played his part. He learned his lines and stepped up to his marker. I’m sure the swim scenes in the pool are for the humpers. Good job Isiah.
I keep hoping that as Isaiah grows and fully leaves the nest he will get proper counseling. He needs it desperately. His whole life has revolved around Abbie. He has been Asa's little puppet/ mouthpiece for years. Everything is about autism and awareness. Nothing is ever his own. And someday, someone will ask him the right question and the dam will break. If I had the chance to work with him I wouldnt ask him things like "What do you want people to know about Abbie?" Or "What does autism awareness mean?" I'd ask point blank "How has growing up with Abbie affected you?"
I dont think anyones asked him, because in their world Abbie is the sun they all orbit around. When he matures he will see a lot of things differently. I hope it will be manageable for him. :confused:
 
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Her neck and back is painful to look at in that pic. I would think physical therapy would be a priority for her.. and the violent rocking.. there is nothing to protect her neck and I can't even imagine how her spine is. I dont recall if she was like this as a young child.

When she does her rocking her head comes forward in an unnatural way.. almost like a chicken moves their head forward.

I have read that kyphosis can be really painful, is usually corrected with surgery and can affect breathing and could also cause weakened muscles in the lower body.
I have moderate kyphosis and can vouch that it is painful. I'm thankful that it isn't more severe.
I think PT would help Abbie a lot but, sadly, we know how A&P are when it comes to properly taking care of her needs.
 
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Yup. My teeth are crooked as hell but since I struggle just to brush my teeth once a day and have to be knocked out even for checkups/cleanings, braces were never going to be an option. I definitely can't see this being a viable option for Abbie, either.



At 36, I already have knee replacements in my semi-near future (could be a couple of years on the wait list yet) and I am genuinely not looking forward to it. P's legs could genuinely be strong, being fat doesn't necessarily mean you'll have bad knees, but I would definitely be doing a leeetle more exercising if I was her.
If she had a real job on her feet I’m sure her knees would give out
 
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I think Isa. knows he’s wealthy now & has been enjoying every penny. I don’t feel sadness for him. He even acts like he wants a career immersed in autism. All his cameras, computer screens, drone, photography sales from leghumpers...he’s lovin’ it!
 
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Is it worth trying to be fancy if you have to do this?

I have never understood why people set their tables with dishes they don’t use. Department stores do this to show how pretty a dinner party will look with dishes or the table (it’s an ad) so you buy them. Use the dishes P or put them away.
 
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Is he trying to say thank you is redundant for Abbie and others like her, or in general? Either way it’s ludicrous, but I’m curious

That would make us look so bad trying to contact anyone who knows them personally or has (had) a relationship with the family, it’s different giving a thumbs up to a leghumper that starts to see them for who they really are, but reaching out not acceptable
I am trying to find actual vlog he said it in because he gave a reason for why he thinks it's redundant. From what I do recall, he was saying it was redundant for Abbie. I think he meant it in the sense of because it isn't a concept that she can grasp - what does thank you mean, why do we say it, when do we say it etc... that she responds better to more tangible things. He insinuated that saying thank you is something society expects from people, no matter who they are - his tone of voice and facial expressions suggesting he thinks this is ridiculous - so therefore he makes Abbie say Thank You.
 
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This totally looks like a crime scene. 🤷‍♀️

Seriously though, the only crimes here are the three inches of her diaper showing (still no potty training) and her dirty, nasty, gross feet that probably weren't washed until the next morning. 🤢🤮 👣


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You think they’d have a little respect for her since she is a young lady now. I know they feel she doesn’t get embarrassed but a typical 15 year old would be embarrassed by those diapers. They actually make diapers that look halfway decent now. I don’t understand why they wouldn’t buy her those and give her a little dignity.

And letting her walk on that grass with no shoes on. I live in Florida and we were never allowed to walk on the grass with no shoes because of the type of grass that grows down here and there tends to be more bugs that burrow than you find up north. My mom had half the lawn replaced with Astro turf because our one dog would constantly roll in the lawn and he was getting those weird bugs I forget the name burrowed in his skin. So gross.
 
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Not sure why they allow Abbie to run around barefoot on that grass area where their cleaning up the bushes. She can easily step on thorns or even a bee. She seems to have enough issues hurting her feet without them being careless. What the he**.
 
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I have moderate kyphosis and can vouch that it is painful. I'm thankful that it isn't more severe.
I think PT would help Abbie a lot but, sadly, we know how A&P are when it comes to properly taking care of her needs.
I don't know much about idd but would Abbie know about pain and how to tell them if they taught her the sign? Not that I am holding my breath that they will as you said they are known for not properly taking care of her needs.
 
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That is crazy letting her walk around barefoot while they are digging up bushes. Its like they just dont give a tit.
 
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I keep hoping that as Isaiah grows and fully leaves the nest he will get proper counseling. He needs it desperately. His whole life has revolved around Abbie. He has been Asa's little puppet/ mouthpiece for years. Everything is about autism and awareness. Nothing is ever his own. And someday, someone will ask him the right question and the dam will break. If I had the chance to work with him I wouldnt ask him things like "What do you want people to know about Abbie?" Or "What does autism awareness mean?" I'd ask point blank "How has growing up with Abbie affected you?"
I dont think anyones asked him, because in their world Abbie is the sun they all orbit around. When he matures he will see a lot of things differently. I hope it will be manageable for him. :confused:
I have a lot of affection for Isaiah. I think he's basically a good kid that has had both way too much (caring for Abbie) and not enough (being micro-managed by A&P) responsibility in his life. I definitely worry that the longer he spends with his family he'll start to become more and more like his dad.

He reminds me a lot of my oldest nephew who also grew up in a home with narcissists for parents. As soon as he finished up high school I told him to move out and never look back - two years later he's got his own place, a job, a girlfriend, and is planning on going to university within the next couple years. This is the future that I am really, really hoping for with Isaiah.
 
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