Very good point.
I wonder if it is due to the affects of the years of ABA therapy, that Asa loves so much (yet so many actual Autistic people hate and despise)?
Abbie seems to dislike and become anxious doing even simple tasks, maybe she does see everything as a chore? ABA therapy seems very chore oriented, even though there are "reinforcements" and rewards, it doesn't look as though Abbie enjoys their approach, to me. She seems to function in a mode like: being asked to do something = chore = restraint = frustration = anger = unhappiness + candy + breaks + treats
Somehow she has to try and get to the plus items, sometimes it means just doing the chore, sometimes it means tantrum or meltdown instead.
She is now has a horrible addiction to candy, constantly seeks "breaks" or "bathroom" as an escape, and used to meltdown, cry and/or run when she saw Brandi or her car, at the old house.
Even in the new house, I recall at the end of their holiday break, they were sitting on the couch and Asa told Abbie that Brandi would be coming in a few days...... Abbie looked straight at him and started pointed shaking her head "no" and her eyes looked fearful. I felt so bad for her.
Many Autistic people feel that ABA is abuse. Many families look to their children's response to the therapies and then try and decide what's the best for their children.
Is that what Asa and Prissy did?
I think that they enjoy the chore system and are hoping a day will come when Abbie can do all the laundry, vacuuming and dishwasher chores. Prisilly hates doing them and their laundry room from the old house until now has always been a mess, even though she doesn't work. Asa doesn't seem to do any chores around the house unless he's pretending to fix something. They also enjoy the break that they get when Abbie is at ABA school and in her therapies.
Needing a break, Understandable.
But is ABA the only option? Is ABA the best option for Abbie? I think that they should reevaluate that, and I am only just learning about these things.
Someone here recently mentioned being an Autism specialist and that at their school ABA was an option and that most parents didn't choose it.
Isn't it bad enough that they are exploiting Abbie on the internet for money and using her and "Autism" as a brand to get rich off of? They also want her cleaning their house and doing their chores?? I understand the need for life skills, but there are so many essential things being neglected regarding her (ex. communication, her obvious health issues, personal hygiene, sensory needs)
Is this why Abbie cries when she has to return home from being away? Is never excited about going to her ABA school?? Requests candy and break during and after everything she does? Is she equating everything to the ABA system she has been trained in??
I don't know, but I wonder. Can anyone give any insight on this?
Assy's arrogance and narcissim is so blinding that he can only see things in terms of what he wants and what validates him. He doesn't care how many Autistic people hate ABA, he doesn't look at how it affects Abbie. It was his decision to get her the ABA therapy and he is sticking to it because he is always right. The latest video about her loading the dishwasher without heavy prompting, had to become a "see I'm right about ABA" plug.
What else have they explored? Autism is different for each individual, her IDD is a big factor so one cannot make comparisons. However, it is interesting to see other families using simple schedules, calendars, amazing sensory rooms, the recent post here about the two twin boys with their unique therapy.....
All the money that Abbie brings in for them goes to DD, big meals and take out, vlog equipment, useless trips, a pyramid scam, Holly Lobby, big cars, an untrained live-in caregiver (Summer) that doesn't do any therapies with Abbie, only tickling and laughing AT her in my opinion.
Of course they didn't bring in a trained professional to live with them and help with Abbie. No, they found their match in a young lady who they know and can easily manipulate and train to do things THEIR way. Plus Sum-thighs-bum prances around half naked, loves the camera and is into their "show", that's gotta be a plus, right Doughboy
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What planet is this train wreck of a family on, they think that they are on track of success, they are on the track of failure and they are too arrogant to see it.