I hate the empty "we/I love you" ...when you question what they mean by that because their actions dont show it.As a newlywed every time we left his mother's house from visiting..his mother would say to me "we love you" I thought why did she say that, it didn't even sound like she meant it ...she didn't . lol that *itch. I learned to keep my distance from her. Abs knows the difference between her mother and others that mean real affection.
I think P thinks loving Abbie is physically kissing her hovering over her...trying to hug her and get her to hug her..smothering her... she could "love" Abbie by respecting her space, not forcing herself on her, treating her like a human being instead of a possession, helping her be more functional in the world... ie ..potty training, discipline, ADL's...etc