Thought's on last night's vlog
Long Post Warning (
again, lol)
So, P didn’t go to Abbie’s side of the car in the previous incident because she wanted to avoid Abbie beating on her.
P asks Brandy “Ok so, at what point do we say we’re not going to do this for fifteen minutes every day?”
Brandy seems to think about this for a moment, then says “Right, so, I think…(Asshat interrupts with “I mean, it’s 85 degrees) Brandy replies “And it’s only going to get hotter.. umm… *jump cut* I mean, so what can we do to motivate her consistently to get out.”
I noticed that Brandy was displaying one of P’s nervous habits of having her hands on her face, wiping her fingers across her face. It seemed like a way, a non-verbal way if you will, for Brandy to express feeling uncomfortable with the situation, or uncomfortable with having Asshat literally looking over her shoulder and talking over her. I really don’t understand how Brandy has put up with it for all these years.
In general, it just seemed like Brandy was talking a lot of nonsense and not really serious about things. Kind of a ‘whatever’ attitude. To be clear, I don’t blame her. With A&P as the “parents” you’re dealing with, Asshat being the one who pretty much heeds NO advice and feels his opinion is the right one and the one that needs to be heard at all times. I would have a ‘why bother’ attitude as well.
I still think Abbie gets irritated by everybody talking about her right in front of her as if she isn’t there. Again, she doesn’t need to be intelligent enough to understand every single word, she can understand enough to know that everyone around her is talking about her and very minimally actually talking TO her.
I don’t buy Asshat’s bullshit excuses as to why they talk about her like she isn’t there. His explanations were completely and total BULLSHIT. Lame excuse after lame excuse. You know you’re doing something wrong and you can’t admit it.
Princess P was SO happy that she had a zoom meeting and got to leave. I wouldn’t be surprised if she made that up as an excuse to get out of there.
I agree with what others have said that going overboard with praising Abbie for doing things is not the greatest idea. I mean, I’m sure that it is appropriate and does work in certain situations, but to use it every time in all situations it loses it’s effectiveness and it also becomes a game for Abbie because she’ll learn that if she fusses and resists etc they will reward her with a lot of praise (and possibly even a treat). She’ll get rewarded for bad behavior.
P actually asks “So, now what do we do?”. You’ve been her mother for 16 years now. You should have SOME idea how to handle her. You’re acting like you’ve just met Abbie only recently and all of this is brand new to you. You’re a very
crappy excuse for a ‘mother’.