Escape into the Tea & Sympathy Support room.

[Chita]

Get some Tesco Sleep Aids. They're herbal and really help



Make sure you make time and space to care for yourself even just little things can help.

I don't have problems sleeping, kittenattack.
But Im sure those who suffer from insomnia will welcome that suggestion.

I have read that valerian root helps aid sleep.
I bet our hedge witch friends will know some other remedies too.

My heart goes out to those of you who can't sleep.
I get really ratty if I am sleep deprived. I sympathise with you all.

 

[Nuttynana]

It might help to listen to Robert Peston ask a question on ITV news. Takes him that long to get to the end of it most people will have fallen asleep by then.
And his hair is almost as bad as Boris's!!!! Bloody scruff.

What a long winded old fucker he is, zzz already

 

[Chita]

What a long winded old fucker he is, zzz already

He swaggers about like he's a rock star!
Can't be doing with him.
I stopped watching the Daily briefings for covid last year because of the stupid questions asked by him, Kuenssberg and Beff bloody Rigby.

Awful.

 

[kittenattack]

I don't have problems sleeping, kittenattack.
But Im sure those who suffer from insomnia will welcome that suggestion.

I have read that valerian root helps aid sleep.
I bet our hedge witch friends will know some other remedies too.

My heart goes out to those of you who can't sleep.
I get really ratty if I am sleep deprived. I sympathise with you all.

Yes, valerian root is great. My cat's love valerian and we give them tea bags with it in.

 

[Just_me1954]

Im sick of Harry's blackmail.

so,

what else can we talk about?
GB News was just saying how many people have put on weight during lockdown.
Im guilty of that.
I just had a look to see if WeightWatchers is operating. I dont want to do it online. Ive got as much willpower as a dead wasp, so thats no good for me.

There's one 'in-person' meeting in my nearest town, so I now have to psyche myself up to attend it.
Can't find any prices though, but I figure that if I stop buying naughty snacks I will be able to afford the meeting fee.

Chita, if you stop buying the naughty snacks, you may not need to save for the meeting fees, win, win. I do low carb and it seems to keep the weight somewhst under control. One little vice is a cherry ripe, but i cut it into 6 pieces snd have a piece after dinner as my treat most nights.

 

[Pom Bear]

I'm lurking on this thread for the time been xx.
I'm really glad it's helping so many people on here. I'm more for doing my little Photoshop pics then talking so I be lurking in and out of the thread daily to see how it goes and how everyone is. xx

 

[MaineCoonMama]

I'm lurking on this thread for the time been xx.
I'm really glad it's helping so many people on here. I'm more for doing my little Photoshop pics then talking so I be lurking in and out of the thread daily to see how it goes and how everyone is. xx

I love your posts on the H&M thread! I'm usually on Jack Monroe's thread so I just lurk on others but your pics always stand out. Thanks you!

 

[MaineCoonMama]

I thought I'd add the mental health website for Australia in case there's a fellow Aussie or two needing support. https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/mental-health-helplines

 

[Melian]

What time are you there? Waiting for results is crappy, sorry you have to go through this.

9.30am.

And thanks

 

[Doodlebug005]

It was called a Mary in our house. I’ve never heard it called that since

My friend taught her daugher to call it a wanny , like a w sounds better than an f , it stuck with all our group of friends , not a great code word

 

[HairyWeeTerrier]

I have a sister who has been struggling for years now but is so against anti depressants it’s so hard to convince her to keep trying them. She has tried them but can’t stand that brain freeze sensation and just stops takINg them. I have suffered also in the past so I do know what it feels like to wake up every day feeling hopeless and sad but after therapy and taking anti depressants I have managed to clear the darkness. I would hate to ever feel that way again but I just don’t know how to convince her to keep trying. It’s difficult.

I think many people view being on anti-depressants as something to be ashamed of. I know when I started, I felt that way.. But depression is not a weakness, it’s an illness. My doctor asked me if I would feel ashamed if I were a diabetic and had to take insulin. Of course not. Depressants have a chemical imbalance that has to be treated with medication, no different from other conditions.

Not sure what age group you are, could it be hormonal? I started night sweats about a year ago , emotionally fine, but things were stressful at the time so took not a lot of notice, anyway, trip to gp, yup needed a mild hrt...which was great, but they stopped making it. On another one now, doing ok. Might be worth making an appointment.
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Exactly.


think of them as a new friend.

My daughter is a carer and she adores her clients.

 

[Louk]

My brothers ex is a witch, all the nasty messages she sends to my brother and my mum and Dad is pure projection, she judges people by her own actions, she calls my mum and alkie, yet before lockdown was in the pub all the time, so maybe that's what the messages are, hope you are ok x

Yep, this also sounds very familiar!

 

[ProfessorColdheart]

Hope this is allowed on this thread, it’s very personal but I thought it’d be nice to get some thoughts/advice anonymously

Basically I think I’ve got depression. I’ve felt it for a while, like there’s something just not quite right in my head. I have off days so does everyone but for me, it’s more than that. The tiniest thing is enormous to me. I cry because there’s plates that need cleaning, my brain can’t cope with more than one thing, even something like booking a dentist appointment along side booking a doctor app, it’s too much for me to handle mentally. I feel like a failure, a failure in life and to my family, every day just feels like a massive struggle to me and I very much have a ‘what’s the point’ mindset. My mood swings are horrific too. That’s just a small part of what I feel. It’s not every day, some days I’m really happy, but most days I’m not. I reached out to a doctor last week for the first time and it took a lot. I haven’t yet plucked up the courage to call the phone numbers they gave me (Mind etc)

sorry it’s a bit of a ramble and possibly a bit off topic but it’s nice to get some things off my chest as I haven’t got many close girl friends x

@peachhes Just wanted to say I have felt *exactly* like this lots in the past. I have cried because there was washing up to do and it just felt too much and then cried because that made me feel so pathetic and then hated myself for sitting on the floor crying about trivial things. You're doing so well to keep getting from day to day because I've been there and I know its a bleeping heroic effort to keep just existing. It definitely sounds like depression, feeling like a failure or letting people down is a big part of it for me too and a known symptom. But you aren't a failure and they won't feel like that, I promise.

But it sounds like you know you don't want to stay how you are and you're willing to reach out. I didn't have much help with doctors, athough recently one was quite helpful, but I found a private counsellor (obviously this costs money) a few years ago and spent a long time working through some issues that were my "root cause". I'll always have ups and downs because a) thats life and b) I went through a lot of stuff that I won't "get over" but I don't feel that bad very often anymore so please know there is hope it can improve for you. I didn't personally go down the medication route but I know loads of people who have and it really helped them so thats definitely an option too.

I am a list person so I tended to break things down into what absolutely had to be done. I would do the dentist first, get it out of the way, then the doctors the next week or longer if it could wait. If you achieve something from the boring "must-do" list then you must then do something nice that you enjoy. Listen to some music you love and have a dance, or read a chapter of a book, whatever floats your boat. I'm guessing you're not letting yourself do enjoyable stuff much because when we feel like we're "failing" we think we "don't deserve" the nice, good things in life. Thats crap. When you're struggling you deserve and NEED that stuff all the more, so make sure you fit in as much as you can. If you can enjoy little bits of things here and there it will help list the "whats the point" feeling, even if its just for a short time.

Hope this helps x

 

[Chita]

@peachhes Just wanted to say I have felt *exactly* like this lots in the past. I have cried because there was washing up to do and it just felt too much and then cried because that made me feel so pathetic and then hated myself for sitting on the floor crying about trivial things. You're doing so well to keep getting from day to day because I've been there and I know its a bleeping heroic effort to keep just existing. It definitely sounds like depression, feeling like a failure or letting people down is a big part of it for me too and a known symptom. But you aren't a failure and they won't feel like that, I promise.

But it sounds like you know you don't want to stay how you are and you're willing to reach out. I didn't have much help with doctors, athough recently one was quite helpful, but I found a private counsellor (obviously this costs money) a few years ago and spent a long time working through some issues that were my "root cause". I'll always have ups and downs because a) thats life and b) I went through a lot of stuff that I won't "get over" but I don't feel that bad very often anymore so please know there is hope it can improve for you. I didn't personally go down the medication route but I know loads of people who have and it really helped them so thats definitely an option too.

I am a list person so I tended to break things down into what absolutely had to be done. I would do the dentist first, get it out of the way, then the doctors the next week or longer if it could wait. If you achieve something from the boring "must-do" list then you must then do something nice that you enjoy. Listen to some music you love and have a dance, or read a chapter of a book, whatever floats your boat. I'm guessing you're not letting yourself do enjoyable stuff much because when we feel like we're "failing" we think we "don't deserve" the nice, good things in life. Thats crap. When you're struggling you deserve and NEED that stuff all the more, so make sure you fit in as much as you can. If you can enjoy little bits of things here and there it will help list the "whats the point" feeling, even if its just for a short time.

Hope this helps x

I bet this post resonates with a LOT of us.

The old molehill feels like a mountain to climb situation is very familiar.

My psychologist told me to think this way when I felt I was confronted with a mountain -

When people climb Everest they climb it one bit at a time.
They make a base camp and climb for a little while and then make camp again and continue this way until they reach the top.
That way it doesn't feel like one huge trauma to deal with.

 

[NorthernValkyrie]

Helloooo!
I've just finished catching up on the pages here - thank you @Chita for starting this! So many times on H&M, I've felt like sliding into off topic, so I'm glad we have a space here.
all round!

 

[spangly]

Morning everyone Let's hope Tuesday is a good day!

 

[Cassandra333]

Hi Everyone, I'm just going to lurk for a bit. I'm triggered so I have to withdraw and concentrate on getting out of it. I've got a whole day of 'My Kitchen Rules' lined up, I'm going to sit on the sofa and not do a thing. If that doesn't work, I'll move on to stage Two.
I've got lots of tips for getting out of the horrible moods but I'll type them out in a couple of days. It's taken me half an hour to type this...ridiculous. Back soon

 

[The Wicked Lady]

Hi all, I am visiting from the other thread to say that I think this is a great idea. Tattlers have a lot to offer to each other in terms of support. They say laughter is the best medicine, but it's probably talking - closely followed by laughter. To be able to talk anonymously to people that are kind and supportive will hopefully be a really positive experience.

 

[KeriRhys]

Hi Everyone, I'm just going to lurk for a bit. I'm triggered so I have to withdraw and concentrate on getting out of it. I've got a whole day of 'My Kitchen Rules' lined up, I'm going to sit on the sofa and not do a thing. If that doesn't work, I'll move on to stage Two.
I've got lots of tips for getting out of the horrible moods but I'll type them out in a couple of days. It's taken me half an hour to type this...ridiculous. Back soon

Take care of yourself!!

 

[turkeydinosaurs]

Do you ever feel stuck. No motivation, tired, can’t be arsed. Adult life just seems hard. I’m 31. Feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. I’m just tired. I’m sick of bills, my step mum has cancer and waiting on results to see how bad it is and if it’s spread etc. I’m tired of working hard on a tit salary. My friends are all on at least 10k above me. I don’t begrudge them, they work hard. But so do I.
Sorry I know it’s nothing compared to what some people deal with.