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Our beloved cat passed away on the weekend and his little brother is really missing him. It's so heartbreaking - he's crying a lot, really clingy, and very unsettled. I don't know how to make it better and can't stop crying as I miss him too 😭
So sorry to hear that. I understand exactly where you're coming from. You just have to allow time. And cry as much as you want to. Crying is good for you, it releases all kinds of endorphins which help lower your stress and other stuff. So cry away. And keep the brother cat close. Sending hugs to you.
 
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Our beloved cat passed away on the weekend and his little brother is really missing him. It's so heartbreaking - he's crying a lot, really clingy, and very unsettled. I don't know how to make it better and can't stop crying as I miss him too 😭
Oh that's so sad, our furbabies are such a big part of our family aren't they,? We adopted 4 yr old sibling moggies 3 years ago and realised quite soon on we would have limited time with our ginger Tom. He's still with us for now and I'm dreading the day he isn't ..his sister will be bereft . I can't really give you much, in terms of advice - just go with the flow. Our last much loved kitty's ashes are buried under a rockery in the garden with a slate paw print to mark the place . Even now I'll go sit by the rockery with a cuppa and have a chat with her. My oh thinks I'm barmy but as I said earlier ..just go with your emotions . Much love to you, your family and surviving kitty.. ❤❤
 
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I've got to admit that I don't pay much attention to my nails. As soon as they show any length, I cut them down short again. Long fingernails irritate the hell out of me. But I have noticed that when I type all day (writer) they grow much faster and much stronger. I touch type and I'm quite fast but don't know if that makes a difference.
II think it's all the sanitizer usage during covid that has caused a problem.
I keep them relatively short but the forefinger and middle finger of each hand seemed to be bendy whereas the rest are quite strong and unbending.
So I thought I'd try and get the bendy ones to strengthen up to match the others.
The bendies kept breaking and I wanted to rectify that.
I don't want them all really long but I would like ten nails that are neat, strong, and equal length and condition.


Ooh thanks for that Chita, I've got some cuticle oil so will look into the Burt's bees balm ❤💅.

It's lemony. Feels nice but I have no idea if it will feed the nail bed. I've used Burt's bees lip balm before and it is very good, so Im giving their cuticle balm a go.
I've got almond oil because I have used that for years on my hands but I just read that coconut oil is best for nails so I've ordered some of that from good old Amazon.


But no more clear polish or hardeners or rejuvenators etc for me. They have made the problem worse.

Our beloved cat passed away on the weekend and his little brother is really missing him. It's so heartbreaking - he's crying a lot, really clingy, and very unsettled. I don't know how to make it better and can't stop crying as I miss him too 😭

Oh no!

The little cat can't understand where his sibling has gone.
All you can do is give him lots of cuddles. That will help you a little, too.

Love to you xxx
 
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Our beloved cat passed away on the weekend and his little brother is really missing him. It's so heartbreaking - he's crying a lot, really clingy, and very unsettled. I don't know how to make it better and can't stop crying as I miss him too 😭
So sorry to hear that hun. I really feel for you. Sending big hugs xxx
 
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Tatty, you are an inspiration. You have so much to deal with but you keep on fighting.
You are wonderful.
To be honest, I felt like a fraud when you said that - that's why I backed-off for a bit.
Inspirational, wonderful?
I don't consider myself to be either of those things, but thank-you 💖
I've had many difficult circumstances in my life, I've also had a lot of love - especially the love I share with my Mum, my husband and our children.
I'm just me, and life goes on x
 
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To be honest, I felt like a fraud when you said that - that's why I backed-off for a bit.
Inspirational, wonderful?
I don't consider myself to be either of those things, but thank-you 💖
I've had many difficult circumstances in my life, I've also had a lot of love - especially the love I share with my Mum, my husband and our children.
I'm just me, and life goes on x
You have posted a lot about what you have to deal with in your every day life.
You keep going no matter how hard it gets.

I know people who whine and moan about how unfair life is and how things get them down. Negative people.
They have to deal with only a small fraction of what you have to deal with.

So, yes, you are inspiring.
And I see today's exam results have been amazing in your house.

Well done all round!
 
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So sorry to hear that. I understand exactly where you're coming from. You just have to allow time. And cry as much as you want to. Crying is good for you, it releases all kinds of endorphins which help lower your stress and other stuff. So cry away. And keep the brother cat close. Sending hugs to you.
Aiways hurts when you lose a pet - they're part of your family. I have no shame in mourning our beloved family members; it does get easier in time

You have posted a lot about what you have to deal with in your every day life.
You keep going no matter how hard it gets.

I know people who whine and moan about how unfair life is and how things get them down. Negative people.
They have to deal with only a small fraction of what you have to deal with.

So, yes, you are inspiring.
And I see today's exam results have been amazing in your house.

Well done all round!
Thank-you so much, virtual hugs 💖
 
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I folded the laundry today! I did it! Even put another load in for tomorrow to catch up. Also made a real (microwaved but actual food- rice, peas, cubed tofu) dinner. I’m writing out a new sticky note for my mirror for tomorrow. Thank you for the long distance support, all.
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Bloody hell girl, you've done more in a few days than I've done all week!:eek:
That's fantastic. Hopefully it will be your new 'habit', but remember, none of that is set in stone, so if you want a "duck it" evening just chillin' in front of the telly with some crisps and pop then that's fine too, so don't beat yourself up if you fancy that. Onwards and upwards.😘🥰😘

Well, Ive chucked all my nail strengthening products in the trash.
All have made my nails split and break worse than before I tried any.

When they grow back, I will have to put up with the few that seem bendy.
Most are usually ok, just a few grow a bit thinner than the others and bend if I let them grow too long.

Now even the usually good nails have broken.
I never used to wear nail polish other than on special occasions and my nails were always great.
Then I took a notion to start experimenting with cheerful colours and my poor nails have gone to tit. :cry:Splitting and all sorts of issues.
So I'm back to nothing and hoping they recover.

Our beloved cat passed away on the weekend and his little brother is really missing him. It's so heartbreaking - he's crying a lot, really clingy, and very unsettled. I don't know how to make it better and can't stop crying as I miss him too 😭
I tease the tit out of cat people on here, but it's just me messing them about. I know how those little (and big) fur babies can grab your heart and are part of the family. I'm so sorry for your loss. :( Just cry all you want, there's no law against it.
Your little guy must be so confused, so all you can do is give him extra 121 time and plenty of cuddles. Big hugs to you and lil kitty.😘
 
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I'm finding the news incredibly distressing and overwhelming just now, mainly because of the child murders that keep happening either at the hands of their own parents/families and then yesterday's horror in Plymouth.

I never used to be such a news junkie as consuming too much of it has always affected my mental health but since the Covid outbreak it has become a bit of an obsession to "keep updated" with any and all developments.

Going to reinstall Leechblocker on my laptop web browser and stick to keeping the most triggering sites blacklisted until I feel better...I find in times like this, if I must check the news, a brief glance at the BBC website is enough and anything else is all just excessive misery porn. Very grateful that such apps exist, because the internet sure does like to push the worst news in your face every single day. Even checking your email exposes you to horrific headlines when it just shouldn't.
 
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How's everyone today?
Fine thank you Cassandra333. Hubby went off to visit his elderly dad and I relived my teens by watching Saturday night fever 🕺this afternoon. God I loved John Travolta and disco in 1978 and not afraid to admit I ran a bit wild at 15 so it was wonderful to relive my youth. Happy days ❤.
 
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I'm having depression. The Prince Andrew discussions on the other thread aren't helping because I don't know whether that lass is telling the truth or not, but ppl are blaming her and what not. I'm an abuse survivor and it's kind of triggering. I used to have to smile in photographs too, but behind the scenes, it was hell.
 
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I'm having depression. The Prince Andrew discussions on the other thread aren't helping because I don't know whether that lass is telling the truth or not, but ppl are blaming her and what not. I'm an abuse survivor and it's kind of triggering. I used to have to smile in photographs too, but behind the scenes, it was hell.
I tend not to get involved in that chat, no one knows who is telling the truth. I skim past the PA stuff, I hope the truth comes out one way or the other. You can report posts for being off topic if you feel strongly about it, or ask in the thread that it be discussed in an appropriate thread... I am sure people will understand.
You have been through a tough time , it is understandable that you would like to avoid the subject. I hope you are being kind to yourself ❤
 
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I'm having depression. The Prince Andrew discussions on the other thread aren't helping because I don't know whether that lass is telling the truth or not, but ppl are blaming her and what not. I'm an abuse survivor and it's kind of triggering. I used to have to smile in photographs too, but behind the scenes, it was hell.
Hugs.
I did politely ask if the PA stuff could go on the Royal Family thread instead because it’s off topic but most people appear to want it to stay.
I can’t ask again because it will be classed as moderating.
I‘m doing a lot of scrolling on there at the moment. :(
 
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Hugs.
I did politely ask if the PA stuff could go on the Royal Family thread instead because it’s off topic but most people appear to want it to stay.
I can’t ask again because it will be classed as moderating.
I‘m doing a lot of scrolling on there at the moment. :(
Could you ask for it to be behind a spoiler?
 
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Hugs.
I did politely ask if the PA stuff could go on the Royal Family thread instead because it’s off topic but most people appear to want it to stay.
I can’t ask again because it will be classed as moderating.
I‘m doing a lot of scrolling on there at the moment. :(


Its easy to go off at tangents and end up off topic which is why I started this thread - a "tea room" to discuss anything so that the H and M thread can (try to) remain on topic.

@shazbev - my coconut nail oil has arrived today.
It smells lovely!
 
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Hi everyone, hope you are all well 💓. I've been feeling a bit guilty because I reached out to you all for support when I was in a dark place a few weeks ago and haven't commented since. You were all brilliant and gave me good advice 🤗
Just to let you know, I have been keeping up with what's going on here - the happy and sad 🙂
I also want you to know that irl I'm a very private person and after I posted that night I felt really uncomfortable. I had told you things that no one that really knows me knows and that is so unlike me.
I just want to add, because I didn't mention at the time that since lockdown I know I have been drinking too much. Ive had a few (probably too many) drinks tonight and just felt I wanted to share that with you all because I know I will not be judged on this thread.
I know its not the answer to my or anyone's problems but its where I am at right now. 😔. Please don't hate me, I just needed to tell someone 💓
 
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