Thank you Spangly for you thoughful reply. I have calmed down a little, since I wrote that post. Reading some of the other posts in this thread, makes my irritations sound somewhat trivial. I do sympathise with anyone who is really struggling. My best wishes to everyone.Thanks everyoneI'm back on a semi-even keel again now! Lol....this is how it is at the moment, stressed, then calm, then anxious, then stressed again. I must admit, trying to be on a diet at the same time isn't really helping. Chocolate buttons and jaffa cakes are usually my go to cure all!
Sorry to hear about your workplace @Rockin' Robinemployers that don't appreciate their staff, usually end up with a high turn over! You are right, it's just the little things and simple words that make all the difference.
I know that you shouldn't need to, but maybe you could do the cheery greeting and see if they reciprocate?
Sorry to hear about your difficult situation @Damita - the only thing you can try and do is remind yourself that this situation won't last forever and keep avoiding the narc as best you can. It must be a real strain - is there another family member that recognises the effect that this narc is having on you, that you could talk to about it?
Sleepless night are the worse times for worrying and anxiety and because you feel like. Shit the next day it just magnifies everything . I think when you can regain your sleep pattern you will be able to cope again.About to move into my third week of dealing with one of the worst bouts of insomnia I've ever had, which is so bad I'm considering ringing my GP surgery and begging for some diazepam, which has helped a bit in the past when I've been like this.
It's all been triggered by having to attend an extremely important, high pressured family function. I got through the day itself okay but the aftermath in particular has been horrendous for my mental health. The main issue is the cluster of relatives who are raving narcissists and being forced to be in close contact with them for any length of time is really, really harmful. Going "no contact" is not an option and won't be for the foreseeable future, and I can't afford therapy anymore which did help when I was able to pay for it during a short time. Not even bothering with NHS mental health treatment these days since I've been there, done that enough times to know it's useless...they really need to accept that CBT does not work for every condition.
Insomnia is one of those things where I forget how horrific it is until another flare-up. I know I'll eventually recover and go back to sleeping better at some stage but in the meantime, argh!
Ah so now I know where you have been lurking,
Thank you Chita so much for your kind words@spangly @shazbev @Damita @Rockin' Robin
@Facehugger
I think I've managed to tag all of you who posted since I was last in here. If ive missed anyone please forgive me 'cos im doing this on my phone and its not as easy for me to navigate as when on my laptop.
You all deserve medals for putting up with all the shyte life is throwing at you.
Your strength of character is amazing.
You take the kicks and you get right back up again.
I dont think any of you realise just how strong you are.
You are all an inspiration.
Oh and thankyou for the baby goat video.
Cant beat a nice goat.
And I love all the corgi pics, especially that last one.
Bless you SummerI like the honesty of people on this thread so here's a little about me. I will try and keep it as brief as possible.
I was born into a household where there was a lot of anger and violence. I was never shown any love from parents. There was always a lot of secrets and lies.
I have been bullied my whole life, at school and as an adult. I just cannot find the strength to stick up for myself.
I have no self confidence so haven't achieved much in life as I am scared to attempt anything as I don't think I will be any good.
I have no self esteem and dont think I'm very pretty, even though people have told me I am.
I'm constantly feeling scared and only remember feeling really happy twice in my lifetime.
I'm a good person who lives a quiet life. I would do anything to help people and I am very generous. Unfortunately like most of us, I have met a few bastards who have abused that generosity.
I hate my job so I can relate to you @Rockin' Robin. There is a lot of bitchiness in my place of work.
I cry a lot and I'm a mess but hey, that's me.
Thank you, I think that is a great idea. I can always give it a try to see if it helps ehBless you Summerwhile nobody can change their past, horrible as it is, would it help to write down every day if anything, however small, has made you smile a bit or something you have done has made someone else's life a little brighter or made them smile? Then when you are really down you can look back at it and know you are a good person who helps others xx
You won't lose anything by trying, call it your 'Smile Diary' and however small the thing is that's made you smile, write it down. Then when you're feeling really bad, have a read back, pick out a couple of little things and do them again, see if it helps you feel better.Thank you, I think that is a great idea. I can always give it a try to see if it helps eh. I have nothing to lose by trying it so will certainly give it a go .
Smile diary, I like thatYou won't lose anything by trying, call it your 'Smile Diary' and however small the thing is that's made you smile, write it down. Then when you're feeling really bad, have a read back, pick out a couple of little things and do them again, see if it helps you feel better.
Thank you shazbev. I'm emotional writing this because you have no idea what your advice and Facehugger means to me.@Summer house .....that tip from facehugger is spot on...a few years ago I went through a period of self doubt and low self esteem and found that writing down all the negative stuff I'd encountered that day helped put it into context and felt I could park the bad stuff in my little book and forget about it and move on. I haven't had to use it for a while and came across it in a clear out recently and was surprised how much better I felt about myself now compared to then. So do give it a go ...you'll be surprised how cathartic it can be. Meanwhileto you , you seem to be a sensitive soul and there's nothing wrong in that!
You sharing your thoughts and our replies might help someone else just reading, so don't worry about hogging anything lovelyThank you shazbev. I'm emotional writing this because you have no idea what your advice and Facehugger means to me.. I AM very sensitive and always have been so can't see that changing anytime soon. Ha ha.
I will definitely give the smile diary a go
I don't want to hog the conversation by going on about me too much but I am feeling better today and my mood should improve over the next day or so. Thank you for your concern
Yes @Summer house - you have shown strength by writing all of that for strangers to read.You sharing your thoughts and our replies might help someone else just reading, so don't worry about hogging anything lovelyhugs to you and wish you some brighter days ahead xx
Thank you ChitaYes @Summer house - you have shown strength by writing all of that for strangers to read.
Thats a big thing.
Remember, there might be someone reading who hasnt yet plucked up the courage to post anything and your words might encourage them.
And as we have learned sometimes discovering someone else feels the way we do can be a great help because we find that we are not alone.
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