Huge hug from me and you have my sympathy 100%. No sooner had one set of neighbours finished building work, another lot started. It's been non-stop building for 8 months now. We live on a normally very quiet street but at times the noise is almost unbearable with the jackhammers, drilling, etc. And then there's the endless parade of delivery lorries, skip hire trucks, the concrete mixer, etc. Both sets of neighbours are sweet and we get on well, but I'll be bloody glad when it's all over.
Why are you being horrid? I was only saying something nice? What have I done wrong?I've been watching 'Ghosts' - maybe not a good place to start. I would watch the big bang theory everyday if I could!
Hey honey by comparison to you think that I'm just probably anti-social, but I do understand the bit about noise and crowds - I avoid them as much as I can; but when I have to be somewhere through love and obligation (as much as it terrifies me) I usually have a good time - it's the anticipation that shreds my nerves.
Baby steps - a small walk near your house?
Lots of love to you xxx
Boo - are you for real? Nobody needs toy bears here
Chit chat
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What the f**k!
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I am just angry with the RF doing fuck all to put the Call Cuntshow in its place it's so bleeding shi t this week so I am staying away.I catch up later today
Hot weather gone at last, alot cooler now
I brought everyone an ice cube today...if I did last week it would have melted by the time everyone got one
I couldn't anyway as this thread weren't around then lol
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Beautifully said. I feel the same about my cat.Tatty, your beautiful Finn wasn't 'just a dog', never think that. I have a dog and to me he isn't just a dog. He is my life, he is my family, the family I never had. He is my everything, my whole life
Sorry everyone this is really boring ..
. I've been feeling a bit guilty because I reached out to you all for support when I was in a dark place a few weeks ago and haven't commented since. You were all brilliant and gave me good advice 
. Please don't hate me, I just needed to tell someone
thank you.No, in my opinion you are not overthinking it.
It definitely sounds like she is panicking over hitting the 'big' 30.
Next time she brings up the age thing, in whatever way, just laugh and say, "Honestly X, you need to get over the age thing. Soon you'll be be 30 and then after that I'll be 26 and that's just life sweetie (or whatever endearment you would normally use for her)." If you laugh it off by facing the thing head on she should back off. She wants reassurance that you can't give, which is sad, but taunting you is unfair.
Set yourself a tiny goal each day. Or every other day. Or even once a week.
Today I will clear those dishes.
or Today I will do just one load of laundry.
or Today I will eat a light meal and I won't let it upset my tummy.
Been there and honestly, watching the things around you go to pot only makes your mind set worse. I found that seeing small tasks completed helped me feel "Well I'm not as useless as I thought. " .... and they build up until eventually you've caught up and got a sort of routine. It might take ages but it's a goal.
It's this fucking covid crap. Everything is messed up, especially our heads. You truly aren't alone, honestly. Good for you recognising the rut, that alone is a positive.
I'm so glad you have a dog. Cuddles and petting and walks are all good therapy. And music. Seriously, make a play list of your favourite bouncy songs, put your head phones on and just get lost in the moment. I really found music great for getting through my head fog and giving me just a tiny teeny spark of "Yes!" and a smile.
Try not to think of your friends' burdens. Focus on you. Just you.
That kindness was so very much what I needed today. I’ve stuck a note on my mirror with my goal for today, and put on a nice blouse for work. Thank you. My great grandmother always said "I'm rich, I'm rich" her husband died aged 40 and she had to bring up her kids on very little money. But she was rich in health (almost 100) and rich in family that loved her.
even though he looks down his nose at plebs like me 
Be satisfied with what you do have, a lot of people are trotting around in their fur coats without a hope of buying any knickers on their maxed out credit cards!
I always cry alone because I hate crying in front of someone else. I don't know why but I just don't want to go there. I don't like sharing stuff with friends either. I'd much rather talk to my doctor or a therapist because at least they're getting paid for it. And @Chita is right. Ultimately it comes down to you. You are the only person who can manage you. You are the only person who can manage your triggers. You are the only person who can make a difference in your life. I say this with love and it's based on the lessons I've learnt in life.
Omg. 'I will say one thing' and then go on for another 50,000 wordsI always cry alone because I hate crying in front of someone else. I don't know why but I just don't want to go there. I don't like sharing stuff with friends either. I'd much rather talk to my doctor or a therapist because at least they're getting paid for it. And @Chita is right. Ultimately it comes down to you. You are the only person who can manage you. You are the only person who can manage your triggers. You are the only person who can make a difference in your life. I say this with love and it's based on the lessons I've learnt in life.
If you have a cry, make sure it's a good cry. Really go for it and get it all out. Crying is very good for you. It releases endorphins and helps calm stress and anxiety and a hundred other good things. And don't feel bad about crying. It's good for your health.
Just make sure you don't wallow in misery. I was guilty of this for decades before I wised up. Then I realised that it was something I learned from my mother. A lot of what we do is learned behaviour.
I write stuff down too. Writing is my go to tool for when times are bad. It has the added benefit that you can look back at it and remember how you got through it and what steps you took. Even if you didn't take any steps, you still got through. That's really helpful for the next time you're in a bad way because you can keep telling yourself that it will pass. You will come out of it. Sometimes you just have to ride it out.
Sending lots of love and hugs to you.
I'm turning into Meghan Markle Quick! Someone! I need help here 
Glad you are feeling a bit more positive. You hit the nail on the head when you said ‘Nothing lasts forever’. Take every offer of help that you can, don’t cripple yourself with guilt if you feel you have come up short. Don’t punish yourself if you feel resentment and anger. Remember, at the moment , you are putting your life on hold for another person , doing things you don’t want to do, putting on a face. And probably receiving nothing in return. I have been through it, so I know how hard it is, and as I sit here with it all behind me, I cannot believe that I am free. Not free from guilt, that is harder to be free of. But I did my best, you are doing your best. Look after yourself, because when you are free, you want to be fit and ready to get your life back. One day…………Thanks everyone
Sorry to hear about your workplace @Rockin' Robin
I know that you shouldn't need to, but maybe you could do the cheery greeting and see if they reciprocate?
Sorry to hear about your difficult situation @Damita - the only thing you can try and do is remind yourself that this situation won't last forever and keep avoiding the narc as best you can. It must be a real strain - is there another family member that recognises the effect that this narc is having on you, that you could talk to about it?
