Thank you so much. You’ve made me cry (in a good way).So sorry to hear that this is happening to you @amalah and you deserve better. I can only speak from my own experience with my daughter who had suffered from panic attacks and anxiety for years and when she has these she also has major gastric issues. She has even been hospitalised on more than one occasion and had all the cameras, up and down, scans etc and nothing was found. She was also once accused by a consultant of being anorexic and was bringing all the gastric issues on herself! You can imagine how that made her feel.
It may be that your anxiety is also causing your other health issues and it is snowballing ..... you are anxious therefore you have gastric problems, which makes you more anxious .....you read your doctor thinks you could be a hypochondriac, which makes you more anxious, which causes more gastric problems. It's a vicious circle.
This is what my daughter put up with for years and we didn't know how to help her until she finally got some therapy and talked to a specialist about her anxiety and panic attacks. I can only suggest that you try this route, it may save you months of worrying.
My daughter still takes anti anxiety meds daily and has stronger ones to take if and when needed but she has it all under control now. I feared the worse when my husband, her father, passed away in July but even when we sat at his beside for 3 days watching him slowly leave us and were with him when he took his last breath, she was brilliant. I was amazed at how well she coped and she was a tower of strength for me.
Try not to be anxious, tell your doctor you are not happy with the 'hypochondriac' comment and that it is all very real to you, even mention what I have written above if you want and ask if you can be referred to somebody who you can talk to. Doctors are busy people and sometimes just push pills at you rather than getting to the root of the matter.
I wish you all the best and hope you will fully recover and 2023 will see you back to your old self again
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Im so sorry I missed the part of your post where you said your mum passed on 6th December.
After just seeing the post @wisebutwild has written in response to you, I went back and read yours again and saw I had missed part of your first sentence.
I feel bad now because my response was a jokey one that only focused on the self-pity line.
I apologise for being insensitive.
Im so sorry I missed the part of your post where you said your mum passed on 6th December.
After just seeing the post @wisebutwild has written in response to you, I went back and read yours again and saw I had missed part of your first sentence.
I feel bad now because my response was a jokey one that only focused on the self-pity line.
I apologise for being insensitive.
So sorry you are having these health issues. My initial thought (and tell me to butt out) is to stop all medication inc HRT and start again. There are many different HRT pills and you sometimes have to try a few until you find one that suits. (That happened with me - I tried 3 - although I can't take it now as I had oestrogen related breast cancer.)
As for the notes...hmmm...they do write on your notes and they are not always flattering. My consultant wrote on my cancer notes "this lady likes to google" - just because I wanted to be informed!
Having said that, even if she is considering that hypochondria MAY be the case, she is referring you for all the right tests, which IMO is taking it seriously and a really good sign.
I would talk to her again, say you saw that description, ask why, thank her for her support and ask if it's worth starting medication again, just in case the gastric issues are related to HRT/anxiety.
I hope you get this sorted. You are doing really well. Let us know.
Lost my boy 2 days ago. Not sure if this is the right place to post but I need sympathy. He had diabetes but I don’t think that’s what got him. His blood sugar was fine, we don’t know what happened, he just suddenly went floppy and could barely lift his head. Took him to an emergency vets and his heart was beating so slowly they said likely wouldn’t make it through the night. He was put to sleep on my lap. I miss him. George “Pigeon” Boy. He was always in the way, now there’s no one in the way.
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You will find plenty of sympathy here. It must be so difficult for you, especially since Pigeon died suddenly, you didn’t have time to brace yourself. What a beautiful boy, he must have raised your spirits every time you looked at him. All the platitudes come into play here, and they can be annoying to hear, even though they are true, but the one that says something like heartbreak is the price we pay for love, seems to make most sense to me. You have difficult times ahead , very little will ease your pain. If you feel like sitting in your chair and crying, do it, look at his photo, remember all his winning ways, don’t bottle it up. It is hard. One thing is for sure though he will never leave you, because the love you had for each other will always be inside you.
So sorry. Gorgeous cat.
There are no words to make you feel better.
But often it comforts (in time) that a sudden death means they didn't suffer long term, lingering pain.
And he was in your lap so he just thought he was going to sleep snuggled up.
thanks so much for your reply - I appreciate it.
I've been on the HRT for a year or so, but have come slowly off another medication (anxiety) and I actually feel I'm doing quite okay anxiety wise - which is why it pissed me off that she wrote that on my notes.
Maybe she was having a bad day. Who knows.
Thanks again - hope everyone is having a good day today. It's New Year's Eve Eve today and I'm trying to clean the house so a bunch of teenagers can trash it for a New Years Party. Yay me
I'm so sorry you lost your George
So sorry to hear this. He is absolutely gorgeous. I feel for you so much. I've had 4 Maine Coon cats, all of whom died not very nice deaths, their lives cut short. It's devastating.
Unfortunately there is no short cut in the grieving process and you have to feel every moment of it. At the moment you are thinking about the end of his life, which was thankfully quick, but you will get to a stage where you remember the happy, funny moments. Sending big hugs.
I'm so sorry for your loss @Squittel. It doesn't matter if they are a cat or a human, they are a family member, and the feeling of grief and pain is exactly the same. I have experienced so much having to have 3 cats put to sleep in my arms over the years. They give you so much love and you love them back in return so you must remember that he had such a good life with you and, given time, you will be ready to share that love with another cat.
A vet once said to me as I held one of mine in my arms for the last time "This is the one final great act of love you can do for him. They know who loved and cared for them and are at peace in your arms."
I now volunteer at an Animal Rescue Centre and some of the cases brought in are pitiful and have never known love. They all need a caring person like you so, if and when your heart and mind is ready, perhaps you could consider adopting one of the little ones from a Rescue and feel the love once again that you and beautiful George "Pigeon" Boy shared together.
I'm really sorry for your loss. Cats can be a great comfort to a person.
So sorry to hear about George - he is just stunning. My boy Irish was white with two blue eyes and was my best friend for 21 years before I lost him. The only thing that helped, for me, was time. Much love and hugs - take care of yourself.
I apologise for being insensitive.
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No. Please never apologize. I believe laughter is the best medicine. So, here’s a punchl(ne to make you feel better. I reread my pist, yes. Mom died on December 6th, but I neglected to repeat thst it was 26 years ago. Lol. So, you see, in that respect, I feel very much like the Stoat. 26 years. Get on with it! So you see, you pist was perfect. You gave me 2 days, I’ve been holding on to it for 26 years. Thank you everyone, for making me feel better. And when January comes around, I feel better.
Im so sorry for your loss @Squittel
such a beautiful cat. I’m so so sorry. Losing our fur baby, is like losing a child. So sorry for your pain. Losing my ginger tiger, Charlie was one of the hardest things. Mom brought home another cat, hoping he would fill the void, but she wasn’t a cat person so she didn’t understand. I hope when the time is right, you can open your heart to another feline. But for now, just remember all the good times you shared, and know you’ll meet again someday. @Zippy2000 Can you see this. Come over
Zippy has succumbed and is watching horrible Harry's interview.
I'm avoiding the shite.
Im watching a crappy thing on amazon prime with Julie Andrews, Colin Firth, Stephen Fry, Emma Thompson's sister, one of the Baldwin brothers and an actress whose name Im trying to remember.
Im recording Happy Valley.
Our cat was put to sleep today, a totally unexpected outcome to what we thought would be a check up for a dental problem then bringing her home after some routine tests. Missing her so much, can't believe shes gone just like that, so shocked.
Sorry to hear that. It's a shock, but you know you did the right thing x
Oh that is so sad @Ilovemusic. I'm very sorry sorry for your loss.
Its heartbreaking isn't it when they have to be put to sleep. But obviously the tests showed a complication that couldn't be healed sadly. But she isn't suffering anymore and you will always have her in your heart together with the memories of her over the years. Those will be with you forever. Its many years since I lost my beautiful dog - a rescue at 6 months old but she lived till she was almost 15. She is still in my heart .
I'm going through a bit of a bad time at the moment. Someone started a new thread in the advice forum, called Are you really happy? I posted in it, I don't feel up to repeating the whole thing again in this thread.
I'm 58 and going through some kind of life crisis, I would say mid like crisis, but I'm too old for that. Don't you hate that phrase - "You're too old for that!" Do you stop being a thinking, feeling human being because you've reached a certain age? Of course not.
During the weekend, I had a brief glimpse into what a woman of a certain age, can expect from her life if she happened to be single again - which I'm not. It was rather unpleasant and sordid. Sorry to be a little cryptic here.
I wish I could travel back in time to my 27 year old self, and give her a good talking to. I would tell her that she was worth more, than what she was willing to put up with at the time. If I had taken that advice back then I would not be the woman I am today, someone with her self esteem on the floor. But do we ever listen, when time is on our side?
I'm 58 and going through some kind of life crisis, I would say mid like crisis, but I'm too old for that. Don't you hate that phrase - "You're too old for that!" Do you stop being a thinking, feeling human being because you've reached a certain age? Of course not.
During the weekend, I had a brief glimpse into what a woman of a certain age, can expect from her life if she happened to be single again - which I'm not. It was rather unpleasant and sordid. Sorry to be a little cryptic here.
I wish I could travel back in time to my 27 year old self, and give her a good talking to. I would tell her that she was worth more, than what she was willing to put up with at the time. If I had taken that advice back then I would not be the woman I am today, someone with her self esteem on the floor. But do we ever listen, when time is on our side?
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