Someone said ages ago that they reckon she uses a long soak in a bath on an evening to stop her bingeing on food, and I think that now she’s become so accustomed to them and reliant that she feels she deserves them over everything else. And I get it, I love a bath too, I have 1-2 a week. But I always have one after my daughter is in bed, and usually on a night when football is on so my OH can watch it and I’m not bored. If you want to prioritise self care on those nights, fine, but do it at the expense of the other things you’d be doing, not at your children’s expense (and on his birthday!)
I’ve also said it before about the sleep thing. H waking up at her age isn’t unusual, she just needs to learn when she does wake up she’s safe but it’s still time for sleep; that’s why most parents will sit with them until they fall back asleep or will lie with them. But because Emma doesn’t, all H has learned is that when she gets up it’s time to spend with mummy watching tv. Of course she’s going to kick up a fuss when that doesn’t happen