I’m not a parent, but I understand that parenthood is a full time job and that it must seem relentless at times, especially with little ones who are more or less completely dependant on you. That being said, she must have realised this before making the decision to have children, especially if she’s got friends/colleagues or other family members who can tell her firsthand what it’s like. She must have also realised that it would change her life and her marriage having children involved, and that she and John would have less freedom to do what they want. A couple who live across the road from my parents didn’t go out as a couple again until their eldest was about 14! I can sympathise with her up to a point that life can be difficult sometimes, but how there seems to be a dig about the kids every single day, especially when she called James’ behaviour “vile”, has really made me dislike her. If life is that hard, she probably needs to speak to somebody and get some help!