Does anyone hate their job? #3

[AlwaysSummer]

For some reason it’s not enough to be polite respectful and generally friendly at my work. My colleagues are always oversharing, trauma dumping and none of us have worked together that long. They expect you to overshare and if not theyll ignore you (when I’m being polite) ir met with a cold shoulder as though you’ve done something so terrible. Is this normal in work spaces. I do not want to overshare my personal life and I certainly don’t want to people please, which is something I’ve had to work on in the past. I just find it all draining and fake to be honest

It’s so common these days. Years ago I quit Facebook when my then line manager sent me a friend request. When the lines between work and private lives become blurred, you end up in teams of people who fake-know each other and feel comfortable to over share. I’ve had a colleague share in a great detail about her marital struggles without any prompt and asking me for advice. Completely inappropriate given we’ve never socialised outside of work.

My line manager regularly does trauma dumping. I’ve learned to just nod along and try and move the conversation back to work. I don’t need to be more than civil with anyone at work and my privacy is far more important than trying to impress John from accounts with my colourful social life. Feels so good people can’t stalk me on social media either as I’m not on any.

 

[TheGlossy]

I spent the last 2 days doing copy & paste of screenshots and the two days prior making sure sentences were aligned properly in a word document. I’m about to lose my mind as to how I’m literally doing the job of an intern.

Honestly, with 10 years experience, I should be doing something a bit more substantial than this. Absolute waste of skill-set and potential.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Could you raise a datix, it’s obviously not confidential but if it’s a patient safety issue then at least it’s logged and the more of a picture they get of these tin gods the more chance they will see a pattern.

Just an update - I merely mentioned the name to a senior member of my team today and they told me they're compiling evidence as this consultant is notorious for being vile towards almost everyone (including their own team). So I've sent an email with details in to them, and it'll go to the chief of medical staff soon.

 

[LifeOfMog]

I am really so desperate to leave, the more I'm here the more down I feel, and I'm just not waking up with the passion I once had Trying so hard to find something new and creative but it's so hard at the moment !!!

 

[Codiaeum]

That company I had the initial screen with a week ago and that would "get back to me early next week" hasn't gotten back to me, yet. But I did get an automated email from them asking to rate their application system. I've no idea what that means is this the mailthey sent everyone a week after the screening call? Or is this an oblique "You're out but thanks"?
I'll give it another few days, this week and next week both have bank holidays in them so it's very possible that people are on vacation and the company is really small, they might only have one or two people doing interview coordination.

One of the other companies sent a rejection, after three weeks, which is okay I guess, better then the third one I applied for where I again only get crickets but of course the listing is no longer online.

 

[Codiaeum]

I was invited for round 2! It was that compnay had I had the intial screening call with and which I complained about in my last post about not quite meeting the timeline they had given me. Well, they've asked for tomorrow, if that would be okay for me, which suits me just fine as I'm off tomorrow anyway, so I'll just take that. If anything, it's a good practice opportunity and it's also not like I've anything else lined up thanks to companies simply not responding.


Does anyone know whether there's evidence for this sort of behaviour? I'm obviously posting about it here and many others here also have experienced the same thing, a recent Financial Diet video also talked about it, but I'd like to know whether there's anything backing us up or if it's a "felt truth".

 

[Codiaeum]

I had the call and I think I will not proceed with this company. Can't quite put my finger on it, but the conversation was a bit odd, I was asked questions that made little sense to ask and overall the person talked a solid 15 minute of a scheduled 45 minute call so that it all felt very one sided.
Obviously haven't heard from them yet but I'm ~90% solid that I will decline further calls in case they offer.

 

[LifeOfMog]

I had the call and I think I will not proceed with this company. Can't quite put my finger on it, but the conversation was a bit odd, I was asked questions that made little sense to ask and overall the person talked a solid 15 minute of a scheduled 45 minute call so that it all felt very one sided.
Obviously haven't heard from them yet but I'm ~90% solid that I will decline further calls in case they offer.

Go with your gut, if you feel theres something off 9/10 times it usually is xx

 

[EleanorRigby]

I had the call and I think I will not proceed with this company. Can't quite put my finger on it, but the conversation was a bit odd, I was asked questions that made little sense to ask and overall the person talked a solid 15 minute of a scheduled 45 minute call so that it all felt very one sided.
Obviously haven't heard from them yet but I'm ~90% solid that I will decline further calls in case they offer.

Always go with your gut on these. I once didn't and seriously lived to regret it. It was as completely toxic as my gut said but my head overruled that. Never again!

 

[LifeOfMog]

Go with your gut, if you feel theres something off 9/10 times it usually is xx

I'm still really struggling finding anything - does anyone know of any digital design agencies or how to find them? Just feel so lost in this job and need out asap</3

 

[Codiaeum]

Thank you, @LifeOfMog and @EleanorRigby - I will! I regret not going with my gut in my current job, when I felt during probation period that something wasn't quite "it", but ignored it, told myself that I was prejudiced coming straight of out Big Tech - shouldn't have ignored that feeling.


@LifeOfMog - I'm not in the UK and not sure where you are but my company has worked with https://kota.co.uk/agency for a few projects (I haven't worked with them myself, so can't say how the interactions were) and the things always turned out beautifully. Not sure how to go about finding agencies beyond googling them, tbh.

 

[LifeOfMog]

Thank you, @LifeOfMog and @EleanorRigby - I will! I regret not going with my gut in my current job, when I felt during probation period that something wasn't quite "it", but ignored it, told myself that I was prejudiced coming straight of out Big Tech - shouldn't have ignored that feeling.


@LifeOfMog - I'm not in the UK and not sure where you are but my company has worked with https://kota.co.uk/agency for a few projects (I haven't worked with them myself, so can't say how the interactions were) and the things always turned out beautifully. Not sure how to go about finding agencies beyond googling them, tbh.

You'll find something that is worth it's while soon I'm sure, and it'll make you realise all the choices you made!

As for the agency, I am in the UK and they're in London so brb off to shoot my shot xx

 

[keepyourpeace]

So I asked my managing director something and he agreed with what I was saying then loudly announced look what happens when you think for yourself and then my manager chimed in with but would she have done if you didn't agree with her? And laughed.
I'm not stupid I've got nearly 10 years experience across this industry and this was to do with our biggest client. Now I'm sat crying on the train home because It's just bleeping horrendous.

 

[TheGlossy]

Even on their way out, my manager still doesn’t fail to remind me that I’m not promotion material in this team and that I should essentially think of other teams. This is the 3rd time I’ve heard this from them in less than 6 months.

 

[tomato_paste]

Even on their way out, my manager still doesn’t fail to remind me that I’m not promotion material in this team and that I should essentially think of other teams. This is the 3rd time I’ve heard this from them in less than 6 months.

Well fuckem - when are they gone?

 

[TheGlossy]

Well fuckem - when are they gone?

Only a few days left.

 

[jojida]

My boss called me in for another chat today about how sloppy my work is and that she doesn't think that I allocate my time accurately (I do admit I struggle with this).

I changed to this role after working as a secretary for the company for nearly two years and my biggest regret is ever leaving that role. It was quiet, I could do other things on the side and I was never stressed whatsoever.

I had a meltdown today and literally just admitted that I don't get it and that I struggle with my time and my boss agreed that it's the biggest thing people go wrong on when they first start this role. I just feel tit, I feel overwhelmed and I do SO much overtime to try and catch up on work. Just want my old job back but there's no way I can get it back.

Had a look at other jobs in my area and nothing can even come close to the salary I'm on. Just feeling like I've completely done myself over by ever changing in the first place. I have a mortgage to pay for and I can't believe how tit I am at this new role, constantly feeling like I'm gonna lose my job and panicking all the time. I go in a cycle of being okay, going mega downhill, coming up again and then repeat. Just think I need to keep an eye on indeed for something a bit more like what I used to be doing.

 

[Grizzlybear]

My boss called me in for another chat today about how sloppy my work is and that she doesn't think that I allocate my time accurately (I do admit I struggle with this).

I changed to this role after working as a secretary for the company for nearly two years and my biggest regret is ever leaving that role. It was quiet, I could do other things on the side and I was never stressed whatsoever.

I had a meltdown today and literally just admitted that I don't get it and that I struggle with my time and my boss agreed that it's the biggest thing people go wrong on when they first start this role. I just feel tit, I feel overwhelmed and I do SO much overtime to try and catch up on work. Just want my old job back but there's no way I can get it back.

Had a look at other jobs in my area and nothing can even come close to the salary I'm on. Just feeling like I've completely done myself over by ever changing in the first place. I have a mortgage to pay for and I can't believe how tit I am at this new role, constantly feeling like I'm gonna lose my job and panicking all the time. I go in a cycle of being okay, going mega downhill, coming up again and then repeat. Just think I need to keep an eye on indeed for something a bit more like what I used to be doing.

Are they not doing anything to help you resolve this? Some use your boss going “yeah everyone goes wrong there,” maybe the common denominator here is the weighting of the job or the way it’s managed? I manage a very large, busy team who do very complex work and quite a few are not neurotypical and it is very much my job to work through all of the above so my team are happy in their work at a pace and load that suits us all (with flex!)

 

[viggle]

Used to love my job and workplace but it’s been getting progressively worse since about a year ago thanks to a restructure and seems to have peaked at the beginning of this month - we’ve now crossed over into absolute hell. I get upset most days and feel like it’s robbing me of any joy in life because I’m too burnt out to be happy or care about anything.

I have an interview today for something I’d genuinely enjoy and I’m terrified. It’s not just the ‘I need a job’ pressure, it the fact this is a real opportunity to get out of my situation and improve my mental health again. I need this.

Think I just wanted to vent as I haven’t told many people IRL!!

Well. I didn’t get the job, then on Monday I was signed off with stress and anxiety for 2 weeks. I feel a bit better already just having the space from it, but already dreading going back. 🥲
Just going to try and focus on getting myself back on track. Job is just a job, but we’re people who deserve to feel like ourselves! Hope everyone’s doing ok.

 

[LifeOfMog]

Well. I didn’t get the job, then on Monday I was signed off with stress and anxiety for 2 weeks. I feel a bit better already just having the space from it, but already dreading going back. 🥲
Just going to try and focus on getting myself back on track. Job is just a job, but we’re people who deserve to feel like ourselves! Hope everyone’s doing ok.

Sending you lots of love, the market for jobs is so stressful at the moment!
It seems every company needs people but you need about 20 years experience and expect to be paid minimum wage for it