I’m in accountancy and wfh most of the time. It is handy but I would rather be in the office more. I don’t want to spend the next 30 years at home on my own talking to a screen!
I do feel as if my boss has it in for me and this is just a way to control me.Uhm, what @User_name_100, your company specifically designs an area that you can use if you need quiet and your boss decides that's not for you to use? duck it, I'd probably be at HR about that. Those spaces are usually a public area for anyone to use, for example to get away from micromanaging tossers.
(I loooove the quiet area in of my companies' offices. If I worked there, I'd live in that area).
basically anything in an office will have hybrid/remoteCan I ask what sort of jobs you do that is WFH? I’ve never had this option but would like to do it
That's the fuckin pits and absolutely cruel - I hope you can find something, anything, to get out of there ASAP. No one deserves that.It's 3am and I'm up applying for jobs.
There is nothing crueler than your boss sending you a message on Teams at 5pm saying they don't think you'll last much longer in the job and that they will be making a decision on your future with the company next week, then logging off for the weekend without even giving me a chance to respond. This message came with no warning whatsoever, on a Friday night in such a cold and direct manner that I'm simply shocked.
Yeah first time he's ever brought up the subject of probation etc. He's never happy with my work but it's more his own personal opinion on it, rather than anything actually being wrong. Everyone else seems OK with the work I produce etc.That's the fuckin pits and absolutely cruel - I hope you can find something, anything, to get out of there ASAP. No one deserves that.
And what if he's kind enough to keep you on? Competency procedures or something? Was this the first you'd heard of it?
Best of luck with finding something new, stat. I'm glad you've got support and you recognise that this is a pattern of garbage behaviour from him culminating in a deliberate attempt to duck with you in your own time.Yeah first time he's ever brought up the subject of probation etc. He's never happy with my work but it's more his own personal opinion on it, rather than anything actually being wrong. Everyone else seems OK with the work I produce etc.
I can't believe the way he did that too, very sudden on a Friday evening and I swear he skipped offline the second he sent it.
I know now I have to leave. He's acting like God playing around with my livlihood. No decent manager would do it on a teams message on a Friday afternoon, with no prior warning or even offer of a face to face meeting. They also wouldn't have wrote it in the most coldest, direct and non personable manner ever. Even my partner, who is never shocked at anything, was dumbfounded at the way he did this.
Thank you for listening to me. I feel very alone and to be honest my confidence and morale are now in the gutter.Best of luck with finding something new, stat. I'm glad you've got support and you recognise that this is a pattern of garbage behaviour from him culminating in a deliberate attempt to duck with you in your own time.
If you can face it, I think that this behaviour is definitely the sort of thing that is worth speaking with HR about because is it is just so far outside of reasonable professional conduct. . Understand if you're just completely done though.
Let us know how you get on![]()
It's just not worth it - your confidence and morale, especially in a professional capacity, are so, so valuable and difficult to build up again once someone's knocked you down.Thank you for listening to me. I feel very alone and to be honest my confidence and morale are now in the gutter.
Thank you so much for your message.It's just not worth it - your confidence and morale, especially in a professional capacity, are so, so valuable and difficult to build up again once someone's knocked you down.
Moving on to even just a stop-gap role to give you breathing space to apply for something great is worth considering.
Against my better judgement and advice I stayed in a role for 3.5 years under a manager who was methodical and systematic in bullying and breaking me down, personally and professionally. I've never been so low in my life and 5 years and a couple of roles/promotions on and in a much better place in every way, I'm still haunted by self-doubt and mistrust in my own ability and fear of being fucked with by managers/ superiors that she instilled in me.
Don't do it to yourself, don't let them do it to you.
He is actually a bleeping coward as well.Thank you so much for your message.
I'm absolutely gutted as I enjoy the job, just not the boss! Thought I was finally getting on the right path in terms of career etc.
I'm so bleeping angry (excuse my swearing) that I'm using that anger to push forward and have re-wrote my CV and have sent out four quality applications this morning.
I would have more respect for the bloke if he actually did it in a professional way. Face to face, with prior warning given to me and not on a Friday last thing before he skipped off into the sunset for the weekend. It is indeed cowardly and has ruined my entire weekend. I didn't sleep at all last nightHe is actually a bleeping coward as well.
I have had the bad announcement made at 5 on a Friday, to avoid discussion. Unfortunately for the person who decided to do that, I am a festerer. It added to my anger. And I totally made his life a misery after that. I paid him back with interest. If he had just had an honest and adult discussion it would have been different. He ended up more damaged than me.I would have more respect for the bloke if he actually did it in a professional way. Face to face, with prior warning given to me and not on a Friday last thing before he skipped off into the sunset for the weekend. It is indeed cowardly and has ruined my entire weekend. I didn't sleep at all last night![]()
Are you in the UK? Probation periods should be specified in your contract of employment.Yeah first time he's ever brought up the subject of probation etc. He's never happy with my work but it's more his own personal opinion on it, rather than anything actually being wrong. Everyone else seems OK with the work I produce etc.
I can't believe the way he did that too, very sudden on a Friday evening and I swear he skipped offline the second he sent it.
I know now I have to leave. He's acting like God playing around with my livlihood. No decent manager would do it on a teams message on a Friday afternoon, with no prior warning or even offer of a face to face meeting. They also wouldn't have wrote it in the most coldest, direct and non personable manner ever. Even my partner, who is never shocked at anything, was dumbfounded at the way he did this.
This really, really sucks. I'm so sorry it's all worked out like this. It's super demoralising.I work in hospitality quite high up. I came back off maternity leave 8 months ago to find my previous deputy has now taken my job, higher ups are convinced we can 'run it together' but i now work less hours and feel over stepped.
however i would not get my salary for the days i wanted to work, with no responsibility (because the other guy is currently taking it all on), i thrive on responsibility and LOVE my job, but i am not being appreciated for what i can do and feel cast to the side since i've been back off maternity. Ive spoken to my boss and my co-worker, but i feel like im getting nowhere.
do i just stick out til LO is in nursery/school and find another job or do i push for more?
One thing I've learned from being in a male dominated industry is not to take any tit. It might just be that I am naturally a bit like that because the men listen to me.Like my job, hate my colleagues. I am a woman in engineering. I work mostly with men. There isn't a day I'm not mansplained even though I have more experience and knowledge than most of them.