I don’t hate my job but the culture doesn’t seem to fit my personality.
People enjoy being in people’s business all the time. People over share and some do not respect boundaries. Everything you say or do will be fed to the next person. They do everything together (lunch/breakfast/afternoon tea and even exit the office together in the evening).
If we turn our camera off for 5 minutes during a large conference call with 300 or more people, we get a pinged being told ‘please keep your camera on’.
Apparently, there’s also been talks about people being encouraged to have lunch together as an effort to socialize. Lunch is an unpaid hour and therefore should be off limits.
If you join a generic call with about 20 other people and you don’t ask questions, the host of that call will inform you manager that you haven’t engaged during the call even if you’re actively listening. Then your manager will start asking you why you didn’t ask questions.
I was told today to be more ‘open’. I’m very professional and to the point, but apparently I’m not open enough (i.e, don’t spend my time making small talk and cracking jokes).
These are minor examples, but I feel this is like a frat in the workplace and is disguised micro-management. They’re making me feel bad to be who I am (professional but private and not a cling on).
I’m contemplating looking for a new job but I don’t really know what to do.
I think what follows is the last straw and shows how some managers can let power and self-obsession get to their heads.
At the end of last week, we were asked when we’d be in the office this week. Each person gave their days. We have a flexible schedule, no fixed days.
I said: ‘
I’m going to be in on X days. These are usually my preferred days, but I’m happy to switch to fit everyone else or when need be’.
I pick the same days each week and it seems to be working fine as they always overlap with the rest of the team.
Today, I walk in at 9am and my manager is on a call with someone else in our team. My manager then proceeds to say ‘
If anyone should say they have preferred days, it’s me because I have the highest workload. I’m the busiest one and I never said I have preferred days. If set days need to be put in place, it’s for me to decide, not her’.
I’m honestly in shock my manager thinks it’s appropriate to b*tch about one of heir reports to another one on an open floor for everyone to hear (not the first time).
Not only that, but my manager completely twisted what I said. I never asked to have fixed days note did I ever say people had to follow the same days as me.
The days I pick every week overlap with everyone’s. I honestly don’t see any rationale for my manager to get worked up over this.
Absolutely inappropriate behavior (not the first time).