Dating after Lockdown

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Woolmercardington

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Happens so often. I do think a lot of men do get genuinely excited when they meet a woman they like and go overboard with keenness. But then when reality and practicalities kick in and the initial excitement wears off, it's a different story.

I think a lot then fade out because they just can't deal with any form of confrontation or they have some stupid preconceived notion that the woman will go "crazy" if they break it off.
 
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Clover123

Agreed! Some like the chase and then get bored and I agree that lots can't deal with confrontation. I've been appalled at how cowardly so many men can be, and how deceptive. Leading girls on and giving them false hope and then lying about their feelings while setting up another girl to jump to... it can really make you lose hope but there are still good ones out there- somewhere!
 
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misscl4

FFS I wish I’d screenshotted before I unmatched this guy, he wasn’t that chatty and he’s not really that much of a catch, also 35 (grow the f up) but this morning got a ‘I find you really attractive but I don’t want a relationship, I just want to explore sexually’ PUT IT ON YOUR PROFILE THEN

Why is Bumble turning into Tinder?
 
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ThreeSteaksPam

misscl4 said:
‘I find you really attractive but I don’t want a relationship, I just want to explore sexually’

Why is Bumble turning into Tinder?
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OMG OMG OMG You’ve just reminded me of something. So the very first guy I ever matched with on Hinge was like this.

We were messaging backwards and forwards for a bit and then out of nowhere, he came out with the below. Obviously he’s carefully worded and crafted these messages over time and probably has them saved in his notes to copy and paste to every woman he matches with. The way he tries to make “I’m just looking for a shag” sound really profound and spiritual is absolutely hilarious We still rinse him in the group chat to this day.

 
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lalalanded

Yeah, I'll give it a miss Rico Suave!!! It's so funny when they're just basic fuck bois but try to make it spiritual!!!
 
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ThreeSteaksPam

lalalanded said:
Yeah, I'll give it a miss Rico Suave!!!
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That’s what I told him in not so many words I just said I appreciated his honesty as it saved either of us wasting any time but I wasn’t interested in the slightest. Then he thanked me for my “self awareness” and off he went, presumably to try his luck in one of his other two countries What an absolute turnip.
 
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lalalanded

There was a period in my life (and there may be again) where I was just looking for sex too, why not just be up front about it? Some of them know so little about women they think we're all looking for marriage. Please!
 
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misscl4

Oh and now the other guy I am talking to wants to argue with me & hide it as his dry sense of humour. I think I need to give up now.
 
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Woolmercardington

I remember hearing this saying, "One woman's prat is another woman's prince." I think it's true.
 
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leapricot


Little update if you guys are interested.
We chatted a bit last week and agreed to meet up on Monday just gone. On the Sunday, we planned what we would do on the Monday evening and he seemed enthusiastic. Then on the Monday around midday, I got this text
"I'm really sorry, I feel awful but I don't think we should meet later. I'm not feeling myself at the moment and meeting up isn't the right thing to do. I need to lay low and focus on work and stuff til I'm in a better place. I hope we can be friends, if not then I apologise again for messing you around. Hope I haven't really pissed you off or anything. Sorry man x"

Am I not worth more than a " SORRY MAN KISS"?

Anyway, I think his excuse is utter bullshit. I was right to be a bit wary.
As some people said, it seems that there is a pattern where guys are super keen before a first date, even during the date, then they completely vanish afterwards. Cowards much?
 
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Clover123

I'm so sorry! He's not worth it at all, that's a really bs excuse. I suppose at least you can comfort yourself that you dodged a bullet early on, but that really sucks and I hope you're not too down about it
 
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leapricot

Clover123 said:
I'm so sorry! He's not worth it at all, that's a really bs excuse. I suppose at least you can comfort yourself that you dodged a bullet early on, but that really sucks and I hope you're not too down about it
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As you said, I'm glad I got this text early on and we only had one date so I'm not too down. But I feel like my dating history is Groundhog Day.
Here's to hope once we are allowed back out. I am sure nice men will also be going out of their caves
 
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yankydoo

Definitely dodged a bullet. Delete him out of your life and move on. Hope you're ok!

leapricot said:
As you said, I'm glad I got this text early on and we only had one date so I'm not too down. But I feel like my dating history is Groundhog Day.
Here's to hope once we are allowed back out. I am sure nice men will also be going out of their caves
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I hope so too!
 
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HitchhikingGhost

leapricot said:
As you said, I'm glad I got this text early on and we only had one date so I'm not too down. But I feel like my dating history is Groundhog Day.
Here's to hope once we are allowed back out. I am sure nice men will also be going out of their caves
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Also hoping for this too
 
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Ls2991

The thing that would annoy me about this is why did he wait for you to ask him? Like why don’t they just be up front and say ‘look the distance is a factor after all, I had a really good time/it was really nice meeting you, but I just don’t think it’ll work’. Why do we constantly have to push them to respond?
 
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HitchhikingGhost

Yeah that's what annoyed me too. I could tell something was up but he was like oh everything's fine. Then proceeds to ignore me until I was like let's just call it then and that's when he said about it. Sigh
 
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yankydoo

Went on a date in mid March with a guy. We got on well and arranged a second date. He postponed as he got ill but continued the convo for a few days. He then went quiet and I messaged him asking if he was feeling better. He read my WhatsApp and did not reply. I messaged him the next day asking if he is ok and same again.

I deleted him and moved on.

Last night I got a message from him saying his pet (I don't want to say the pet just in case it he reads this somehow ) has fallen ill and is due to be put down this week.

It's very sad but I did not reply. Just think it was rude to ignore me completely for all this time. Maybe I am being harsh but I feel the moment has completely passed now
 
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misscl4

Nope not harsh at all, he could’ve told you at the time and said I need some space
 
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chanandlerbong

Not harsh, the fact that you double messaged and he still ghosted after cancelling the second date makes me side eye the initial 'ill' excuse. Tbh I'm not sure why he's messaging you about his pet being put down anyway? I'm thinking because he knows he's fucked you off and you were likely to ignore him so wanted to say something to tug at your heart strings and encourage you to reply. It's a no from me
 
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