Well in Gareth’s case he lives in Warwickshire I live in Staffordshire so exactly bang on in the middle is birmingham, lots of choices of places to go etc...men just have a way of making me feel not good enough. I think you’re right in that if I’m willing to go that far then maybe I come off a certain way. I wish there was some way to meet people in real life outside of the apps. I’m just not the girl people ask out, I don’t have any sex appeal, IM very awkward in real life and I think that’s probdbly not very attractive xxIs there nowhere closer to home you could go, to make the first meeting in a more neutral environment? Not sure how rural your location is but I’d never make a big journey for a first date. My counsellor said the way you conduct yourself in regards to the first impression with a guy sets the precedent going forward. Maybe if you’re always the one to put yourself out of the way and go to them, they expect you to pander to them through message too? It’s a tricky one! But once you’ve established your boundaries and self esteem in your mind you should be in a better position to date. It should never leave you feeling confused or upset.
I met the guy I’m currently dating in person, when he swam up to me in a spa in London and asked me out, he’s a little bit younger than me but we’ve really hit it off and I haven’t once felt insecure or confused about anything like I had done with other men. We’re not official because it’s early days but the level of comfort between us is really nice.
It was after I’d put anya out, so I’d say a good hour and 15 after date endedI thought the guys were not making an effort to come your way to see you, but it's actually because you don't want them to come to where you live? I think if you're actively saying to them that you want to go to where they live, you can't really expect them to be forever thankful for it, because it's what you want. Everyone gets dressed up for dates etc too, again I don't think they're ungrateful if they don't acknowledge that, as they have probably made the effort as well.
I get that it's nice to receive a text asking if you got home okay...I do that with dates even if there is little interest as it is just polite. But from the screenshot you posted before it suggested that you told him you were home. Was that a couple of hours after the date or was it soon after you arrived home?
Also still angry about him kissing me, you have to be so careful these days about those things. If the person is standing 3 feet away from you they aren’t giving you the signs they want to be kissed yet xx