I was thinking this too. I don't think there's a way to tell if they've purposely gone to your page to view your story or if it just automatically followed on from another story they viewed. I wouldn't give it a second thought personally.
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I don’t know how the web browser version of Instagram works, but if you mean the row of stories that always appears at the top and it just plays all stories you haven’t watched then I don’t think it’s weird at all. I think if someone is taking their views that seriously they need to reevaluate their lives, it’s just social media at the end of the day and you can block, delete, restrict people from viewing your content. The only time I really care who’s viewed my story is when I’m seeing or dating someone and I want them to see my selfies
I don't know if it is true about the fellow Tattler on this thread (I guess it is just speculation at this point), but I recall hearing about this blogger "mother of daughters" you signed up and contributed to her own thread, drumming up sympathy and praise for herself. She also commented negatively on other bloggers that she knew in real life.I’m too busy taking nudes to have more than one online personalityI’ve seen it happen on other forums where they’ve actually replied to themselves.
She got exposed (I don't know how) and I thought that this must be so embarrassing.
Coming back to dating, I also heard about people setting up fake profiles to check on their crushes, exes, partners etc
A friend of mine had a fake profile and was flirting with the guy she was seeing to test his fidelity etc
I never had a fake profile, but it seems not unusual? I guess (not on here, it is an anonymous forum anyway) if you have a fake profile to tempt your date/ partner it is also a kind of breach of trust.
I heard about MOD.
As far setting up fake profiles to catch out a partner.. That’s just a new level of trust issues.
Right!! There’s so much on tv, YouTube, Netflix, work, and books to read to sit and make multiple accounts! it’s like I never know how the catfish on catfish show do it either. Very bizarre but I didn’t find them too badSounds like a lot of effort really don’t itI’m too busy sweeping up my tent for me to do that
preachy but not too bad!Haha I don’t have fake dating profiles but I do have a finsta account...
I don’t know how people can have the time for fake accounts. If you’re setting up a separate profile and messaging to try and catch your partner out I think therapy would be the next step.
So following on from my string of unsuccessful dates, I decided to take a break from the apps (bar one guy who I’m chatting to, because of life reasons we’ve agreed to check in 2 weeks and see where we’re at to possibly meet) and guess who slides in my insta dms last night 
the smoker who I ended things with last week. He said he heard a song and it reminded him of me, and then sent a few sexually suggestive messages so I called him out on it because honestly it’s clear he’s horny and after sex so how else was I supposed to take it!? I decided to be honest with him and told him my heads abit of an emotional scramble right now and I’m not in the headspace to date anyone, and because of aforementioned life reasons don’t plan on dating anyone for the next few weeks. He was so blunt and said ‘we’ll why couldn’t you have told me this in a message’, he called me! After we exchanged a few messages he called me out of the blue and I said this to him over the phone - in hindsight I was quite direct but I just felt it’s better to be honest
the smoker who I ended things with last week. He said he heard a song and it reminded him of me, and then sent a few sexually suggestive messages so I called him out on it because honestly it’s clear he’s horny and after sex so how else was I supposed to take it!? I decided to be honest with him and told him my heads abit of an emotional scramble right now and I’m not in the headspace to date anyone, and because of aforementioned life reasons don’t plan on dating anyone for the next few weeks. He was so blunt and said ‘we’ll why couldn’t you have told me this in a message’, he called me! After we exchanged a few messages he called me out of the blue and I said this to him over the phone - in hindsight I was quite direct but I just felt it’s better to be honestTo be completely honest my mom/friends would do an intervention BUT my finsta isn’t to chat to guys literally so I can Instagram / save / pin stuff a bit like Pinterest in peace and I couldn’t do that on my one but since Instagram removed the “so and so liked this photo or followed this account option” I haven’t used it. Can’t have everyone see I was constantly liking quotes and interiors
But I agreee with everything else regarding fake accounts especially on tattle
@mehere always better to be direct but mute/block messages if it gets weird or sexual. I hate sexual stuff
But I agreee with everything else regarding fake accounts especially on tattle
@mehere always better to be direct but mute/block messages if it gets weird or sexual. I hate sexual stuff
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You don’t have to explain anything to these men. Next time just say duck off I’m not interested.So following on from my string of unsuccessful dates, I decided to take a break from the apps (bar one guy who I’m chatting to, because of life reasons we’ve agreed to check in 2 weeks and see where we’re at to possibly meet) and guess who slides in my insta dms last night
No point in complaining or explaining to some men - they’re like Teflon when it comes to accepting responsibility. If it makes you feel better to get it off your chest by all means do it, but don’t be expecting any thanks for your honesty and openness.
I’ve spent ages in the past crafting messages to explain how I feel, my worries, concerns, questions and the response has most often been to ignore it all or to tell me that I’m wrong. Feels like a huge waste of time and effort.
I’ve spent ages in the past crafting messages to explain how I feel, my worries, concerns, questions and the response has most often been to ignore it all or to tell me that I’m wrong. Feels like a huge waste of time and effort.
Yep and THIS is a perfect time to ghost his
The best thing you can learn to do is to not respond to anything you don’t like. I love sexual stuff through, it probably makes up 90% of my conversations
And just this morning I cut off another match who got sexual a few minutes in! I love sex, like honestly it’s up there with eating cake in bed for me () but I just tire so much of the guys who think they’re so original with the sexual crap literally minutes after matching. The guy this morning (only a part-time farmer this time!) leads in with ‘oh are you a 
’ (code for am I a filthy witch which I am….when I actually know someone mate!) and then followed up with how excited he was from just talking to me 
and he could ‘only imagine’ what kind of tent he’d be pitching if we went out in person.
And when you rebuff him?! Oh square_spoon you’re sooooo serious, do you not have a sense of humour, I bet you’re a prude…….. no dude, I just hate strange men talking to me like this! Forever alone, and no farm for me.
) but I just tire so much of the guys who think they’re so original with the sexual crap literally minutes after matching. The guy this morning (only a part-time farmer this time!) leads in with ‘oh are you a ’ (code for am I a filthy witch which I am….when I actually know someone mate!) and then followed up with how excited he was from just talking to me and he could ‘only imagine’ what kind of tent he’d be pitching if we went out in person.And when you rebuff him?! Oh square_spoon you’re sooooo serious, do you not have a sense of humour, I bet you’re a prude…….. no dude, I just hate strange men talking to me like this! Forever alone, and no farm for me.
I cringe at some of the essays I’ve written in the past
I should have just written them as a therapeutic thing for myself rather than give some head the satisfaction that I cared enough to write an essay in the first place. Idiot 
I'm exactly the same. If someone starts the sex chat before the first date then I know its not going anywhere for me. I'm no where near a prude, so far the opposite if I know and trust someoneAnd just this morning I cut off another match who got sexual a few minutes in! I love sex, like honestly it’s up there with eating cake in bed for me (
And when you rebuff him?! Oh square_spoon you’re sooooo serious, do you not have a sense of humour, I bet you’re a prude…….. no dude, I just hate strange men talking to me like this! Forever alone, and no farm for me.
. I just don't want to sex chat with 5 different men I don't know each week only to be ghosted I have a fireman on the chat now. We've been chatting on the app since Monday, he sends me big long vanilla paragraphs about the usual getting to know you stuff but only at 11pm at night. I return in the morning and he replies again the next night haha.... I'm finding it really slow going and so far he's making no attempts at securing a date or saying anything that makes me think he's interested, he's 44 has two kids, two jobs and is busy but even so this communication style is quite new to me
Me tooI cringe at some of the essays I’ve written in the past
I can only talk about sex with certain people, you either have that instant spark about it or you don’t. You just know when they’re interested or only bored.
I had a thing with someone last year that owned two business, was starting a third and was a single dad, he text me 500 times a day for 8 months
How come he only texts then? I’d be suspicious and not bother to reply.
I had a thing with someone last year that owned two business, was starting a third and was a single dad, he text me 500 times a day for 8 months
Profile age is 48…..I’d say he’s 24 at most based on the photos
I know, I was beginning to get suspicious! He's never given me a reason for only messaging at that time. Do we think he's married and his wife goes to bed at 10:45pm?I can only talk about sex with certain people, you either have that instant spark about it or you don’t. You just know when they’re interested or only bored.
How come he only texts then? I’d be suspicious and not bother to reply.
I had a thing with someone last year that owned two business, was starting a third and was a single dad, he text me 500 times a day for 8 months
He's got lots of clear pictures and lives in my town and has identified where he works so I did feel a little reassured by that?
lalalaletmeexplain is one to follow on Instagram for dealing with absolute numpties and reaffirms to me it’s a bleeping shitshow out there when it comes to dating
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