First date, sushi place, his suggestion.
The bill comes, he looks at me and says “what do you want to do? Go halves?”
Well of course now I can only say “of course”.
I am mortified when the waiter returns and is informed the bill is being split.
What I would expect: if he suggests the date, he pays for the date. I would pay for the next one. If there isn’t a next one, then that’s just the price you pay for dating.
I paid for the last first date I was on. Because it was my suggestion. It’s nothing to do with gender roles. It’s just etiquette I think.
During the date he made clear that he doesn’t have any financial concerns so it’s not like it is a budget issue. He was otherwise lovely but I’m now worried he’s a scabby bastard.
Thoughts?!
I experienced the same situation a few times!
It is unfathomable to me that someone who suggested meeting for lunch at a certain place and was handed the bill after the meal then put it on the table and forensically examined it and when I said "shall we split" exclaimed "yes!".
Likewise, a well-paid engineer in a managerial position pointed to me when the bill came (we had coffee and cake)! Again, he suggested the date.
ETA: I actually recall him getting up to look at the cake and when I asked him what was on offer he said he could only recall the one he chose and when the waiter came to ask if we wanted another drink he shook his head instead of asking if I wanted another one. No manners!
There were a few others that I can't even recall properly, it is not worth letting them take up space in my memory.
I never saw any of them again, even if they wanted to.
It is such a turn-off for me, inconsiderate and ungenerous and maybe even a reflection of how they are in bed (I know the last bit was mean, but frankly: they don't seem to be givers or gentlemen).
