I've said it before and I'll say it again but I think it's quite insane. There are so many ways you can choose the wrong partner and like you said, sex is one of the few things you can actually work on.The sexual compatibility stuff really jumps out for me too. Sex isn't exactly... Difficult. Obviously some men are lost causes. But if you're in a relationship with someone, you work at it and improve. Usually
Not sure what I'm trying to say here but basically, there are other more important things when it comes to a relationship such as your values, morals, goals, and so on... Sex is part of it yes but I agree it seems to me he's using it as some kind of test.
Yes, it is good that he's being upfront, it allows you to assess how you really feel.this is the thing. he is an honest guy, i will give him that, but this weekend fully knowing my boundaries and still acting super coupley with me lol. i mean i know i could have just not gone, but it is a bit strange if he's really concerned about hurting me in the long run.
doesn't matter now anyway. i want more control of this situation, and i want to protect myself, so i will slowly remove myself from the situation.
The sexual compatibility stuff really jumps out for me too. Sex isn't exactly... Difficult. Obviously some men are lost causes. But if you're in a relationship with someone, you work at it and improve. UsuallyAh @triesherbestI think this shows a difference between (some) men and women...that he's happy doing coupley things but without any coupley intent. It doesn't mean he wants more or even that he will want more at any future point.
Maybe because I'm an old lady of 51 and because sex has never been that big a deal to me, I don't like the way he seems to view sexual compatibility as some kind of important test that you had to pass to be worthy of his time, that gives me the ick straight off. I feel like if you'd not had sex with him early on he might well not have pursued things or seen you again and just kept seeing the other person instead that he slept with after you, but also kept dating/ shagging others because clearly that's where he's at, he isn't wanting a relationship, he just likes company and sex.
I think you deserve much better, but also a good break from all of it will probably help![]()
I hate to say it, but faceless guys are usually married.My faceless guy has been busy all day so decided I should really be keeping my options open for when i discover he's a minger.
Have matched with a guy who's not what I normally go for (gym selfie) but he actually seems lovely and good craic. He's not long out of a 16 Yr relationship so not looking anything too serious but equally he's not just after a quick shag. He's given me his number so i might add him on WhatsApp tomorrow. I think he's quite fit so im glad we matched, I usually avoid the muscley gym guys as the most lifting I do is my prosecco...
yep. slow fade it is. i never thought i'd be the one doing this in any situation, but honestly i'm worried about my mental health at this point and can't get heartbroken again. right now it's early enough to avoid that, i will get over the disappointment. and i mean at least it was a fun fling. thank you <3Im saying this with love, as I’ve been there myself, but you’re not going to change him. He’s been honest with you and deep down I think you want him to realise that you’re good together. 99% of the time it doesn’t work like that, and you’ll be his placeholder.
He’s having fun, and if you are too, and are mentally strong enough to be ok when he meets someone else, then go for it. But I think about doing a slow fade out of his life for your own sake.
Oh no! I absolutely feel your pain, it's horrible when you let yourself get butterflies and it all comes to nothing. I am not the person to give advice but if he can't communicate properly it was a road to nowhere . Still shit though, sending hugs xNeed some words of strength. Not dated anyone since 2015. Started chatting to a lovely guy end of May. Tried really hard to meet but we live in different areas. Spoke daily. Then Thursday- ghosted. Just before I'm meant to go meet him this week.
He's sent a few really short tempered replies but I've refrained from bombarding him so just given up really. No idea what i did wrong. Just so fed up that after all these years I get excited then it's for nothing. Why bother?
I hate to be this person tooI didn't want him to use one either, I hate condoms.. when it's with someone I like and I'm really into it. Sorry I'm a dumbass..... I need to go on the contraceptive pill really relationship or not if I'm gonna be sexually active like this
"Scared of being hurt" is such a pathetic excuse - up there with "I'm not ready for a relationship". Dating and new relationships are scary but you take that risk because you like that person and want to see where it goes.you are not to be used to pamper his ego, and doing a little boy lost i’m too scared of being hurt again routine while simultaneously hurting you is pathetic. and you’re saying there were women at his house too?! nope.
His "can't be arsed" mentality and the trauma dumping are red flags! Sorry but "watching TV" as a second date? Imagine how little effor he'll put in a few years down the line?Went on a date last Wednesday and it went well. He was chatty but I do feel like I’m the sort of person that can get on with most people.
Anyway last night we were chatting about meeting up again next Sunday and he’s suggested watching tv.. I was like watching tv?! He then said I don’t know what to suggest for a second date. He also told me some other stuff about his mental health because ‘we’re getting closer’, which is fine but it still feels a bit early.
The tv thing has really given me the ick. I’ve always been pretty chilled with dating and what we do, but I’m fed up of half arsed dates like this and all my previous boyfriends have been so lack of effort. I’m 30 years old, I’d rather watch tv on my own on a Sunday night in peace!. Also feel like I’m stuck now with him opening up about stuff.
Hinge is so dead where I live in the midlands.
"I'm looking for someone to get along with, some romance, with an eye to the future. Anyway, piss on my face!"happily chatting away…joined tinder exchanged numbershere’s some Monday amusement for you
I blocked him
This loser was 5”6 wasn’t he? Add that to your mantra..Thank you again everyone, I spoke to a male friend about it yesterday and his advice was to say a wee mantra about it everytime I start to think about him: “he messed up, it’s his loss”. This friend is a trainee clinical psychologist so maybe there’s something in that
I can’t lie though, I’m still in absolute shock and feel like the wind has been taken out of me. Had been on such a high since I’d known him to now be feeling such utter despondence. Feel so humiliated and naive by thinking he was different.