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jawidjanqndn
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It’s the same f1 Sunday prompt every day
Usagisakura90
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Sorry its a long one
When generally is the best time to ask someone to be in a relationship with you?
Me and this guy have been talking all day/night in between working and other priorities, we have been meeting frequently having sleep overs, days together, spending lots if time together. He's mentioned me to his friends etc.
I know when I was there the other day he got a bumble notification and I wasn't sure if it was a someone has liked your profile or if it was a someone has liked a message you sent one. I deleted my bumble quite early not for him but I figured I was talking to him, I had alot to get on with work wise etc so it was good to just see what happens. I mean he is entitled to have the app and he maybe didn't get any likes for ages or whatever. But I can't stop thinking about it however innocent it may be.
We have spoken about seeing other people I said I really liked him and he said he likes me too and doesn't want to see other people, and would be upset if the person he was seeing was having sex with multiple people.
But he also says he scares easily, it's like I understand we have both been single since April/May with the breakdown being a few months before. And whilst i don't want to ask yet for him to be in a relationship with me yet, I don't want to be waiting months and months worried il scare him off but I also want to commit to him as we are really good together there is alot of chemistry.
He is 38 so you'd think the being scared easy is something someone younger would say, and whilst I am happy taking it slow it's also confusing for me messaging all the time, spending days/nights at each others houses and alot of the stuff we do is very relationshipy like we act like a couple always holding hands kissing touching talking about everything and anything infact being with him is easier than anything iv been in before.
So should I be content with how we are now?
We started talking meeting etc over a month ago and it's been a constant thing.
When generally is the best time to ask someone to be in a relationship with you?
Me and this guy have been talking all day/night in between working and other priorities, we have been meeting frequently having sleep overs, days together, spending lots if time together. He's mentioned me to his friends etc.
I know when I was there the other day he got a bumble notification and I wasn't sure if it was a someone has liked your profile or if it was a someone has liked a message you sent one. I deleted my bumble quite early not for him but I figured I was talking to him, I had alot to get on with work wise etc so it was good to just see what happens. I mean he is entitled to have the app and he maybe didn't get any likes for ages or whatever. But I can't stop thinking about it however innocent it may be.
We have spoken about seeing other people I said I really liked him and he said he likes me too and doesn't want to see other people, and would be upset if the person he was seeing was having sex with multiple people.
But he also says he scares easily, it's like I understand we have both been single since April/May with the breakdown being a few months before. And whilst i don't want to ask yet for him to be in a relationship with me yet, I don't want to be waiting months and months worried il scare him off but I also want to commit to him as we are really good together there is alot of chemistry.
He is 38 so you'd think the being scared easy is something someone younger would say, and whilst I am happy taking it slow it's also confusing for me messaging all the time, spending days/nights at each others houses and alot of the stuff we do is very relationshipy like we act like a couple always holding hands kissing touching talking about everything and anything infact being with him is easier than anything iv been in before.
So should I be content with how we are now?
We started talking meeting etc over a month ago and it's been a constant thing.
Captainmouse
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Can’t spell, what’s a yatch home?
BettyBeau
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How do you find their name by pay pal I’m chatting to a guy who seems just to good to be true. I can’t work out if he’s a shit texted or has a girl.
BettyBeau
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Get some sexy underwear on stuff that makes you feel hot and let him catch a glimpse
EndofInfluencers
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I tried bumble the night before & was disappointed beyond belief so got hinge thinking surely it will be better. Maybe I need to give tinder a go then! I have already hidden myself on hinge
pbontoast
Active member
I’ve been chatting to a guy who I met on Hinge. I feel like we really get on (over message). Lots of back and forth chat. Haven’t met up yet (arranged a date for Friday this week) but last night he said that in past relationships he’s always been very “casual”. I’m very much looking for a relationship and this has thrown me a bit because to me that doesn’t sound like he wants the same thing as me. Should I meet up with him on Friday anyway, or is this a warning sign? Part of me wants to meet up and see if we do actually have a connection, but then another part of me thinks that he’s been upfront about casualness and that isn’t something I want, so it would be best to cancel the date and stop talking.
What do you think?
What do you think?
Do you know if he's dating other people? Or did he say it to get a reaction? What was his reaction when you said you weren't interested in that?
Usagisakura90
Chatty Member
Just bare in mind the train strikesThank you!! I just quickly searched Camden street food on Instagram and it looks insane! I’ll research more tonight
Aww yay! Great mindsI will feel less alone knowing there’s another dating tattler there
Tazmundo91
Active member
Update please. Did you kiss him?
Thank(space)you
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And how was the sex?Keep it classy Eddy
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I love the nails!! They're very celestial and have a fairycore vibe
I got my nails done yesterday, mine aren't as classy as yours, they look like Barbie vomited on them.
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They're not darling I promise. It's a bit of a waiting game anyway, I had hinge for two years and only went on ONE date in that entire time
Morleybbz
Well-known member
I mentioned the hypotheticals of how I'd fit in with his friendship due to a comment by @katyazamo (I think) mentioned how I'd fit into things/him making time for me in the theoretical situation.
Might seem like I've planned it all out, but I've had an ex who lived in his town so have done the trains etc all in the past
as well as its just generally being a place to visit locally!We do usually share pleasantries before the conversation takes a debatiourous tone
Our conversation wasn't really generic because it all did link back to when he came over the other night. If it had just been generic chat I'd have been more skeptical as to why he's popped up again but it was certainly deeper chat from him than we had previously - it's difficult with a forum not to post too much identifying information so I understand some of the confusion coming across.I mean, it works both ways doesn't it? From our recent conversation I've not given him any indication that I want to see him - I've just responded to a conversation he started
I think my heads basically stuck between 'if you don't ask you don't get' and 'if he wants you..'
In regards to your last paragraph - I'd pondered in my first post - no reply/ignored or a vague answer is a definite answer even if he didn't intend to! It's just a case of getting my big girl pants up and taking the plunge
Point is I DONT want stronger feelings if I'm sat around waiting to see if he's going to message me again, I don't want to waste my energy on that
or be in a good place and have him message and it throw me off.The what ifs would bug me. But then I am working within the law profession so that makes sense
As much as I wanted to message him before he had me, I was telling myself to give a few weeks till like august to explore the apps etc then see what I wanted to do
Again, thank you all for your advice
Same friend yeah, ghosting wasn't straight away after sleeping together. Was good communication which went shit, a few days ghosting but then a really positive response to conversation then this 2 week one...@Morleybbz Wait, is he the same 'friend' who ghost you once a while ago? And wasn't he a douche with a girl he just slept with? Sorry if it's the wrong guy, but if not, he doesn't seem like a nice person or a good friend
I wouldn't have given him the time of day if his explanation for what's going on didn't seem pretty legit
my friends seem to think it's reasonable anyway what he saidThe girl he slept with would be what I'd call a placeholder after learning that word today
his distain with her was more with her pestering him when he'd just broken up with his ex.But this is another reason why I dont wanna sit around and find out if I'm a placeholder cause that's what I think he's done to that girl since school I just couldn't describe it properly!
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Fledgling Psycho
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Do we all agree with the last sentence? Or is the poster clueless in cloud cuckoo land?
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EddyDarling
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Nah I totally agree with him if someone asked me after 6 weeks I would totally say I'm not ready and it's too bloody early!Sorry but I think your little guy is full of shit
Edit: If you don't want a serious relationship 'right now', you should say you don't want a relationship, no 'buts' or 'maybes'. Saying 'you can't promise a relationship' leaves open the door for some hope that 'maybe one day...'. Men know that, they use it to to be able to 'date' because, let's be real, lots of women would not sleep with guys who would plainly say they just want sex. (I say that as someone who doesn't want serious/long-term relationships so it's not a judment on not wanting a serious relationship. Just be honest and don't play people). Also, how long is a woman supposed to wait until the guy decides he is finally ready?
It's then up to the woman if she decides she's happy to wait and see or if she wants someone who is immediately ready IMO