The bleeping audacity of these men. People keep telling me to get my ex off his pedestal but I think I paid for dinner two or three times in our entire relationship, not for want of trying.
There's been a couple of people in this thread that have told you this - including myself.
Him paying for your dinner throughout your relationship means
duck all after what he's done. This sentence alone highlights to me that you do still have him on a pedestal.
I really hope this gets better for you soon. Please lick your wounds as much as you need, I'll
bleeping join it too but please stop giving him credit when he deserves
duck all.
(How old are you btw? No problem if you don't want to share
)
You do realise these men use this as a code for sex ? They invite themselves over under the guise of coming to cook you dinner or to have a coffee... it's concerning to me that your first reaction was that he's being tight rather than the fact you don't invite strangers into your safe space that you've met on a dating site. You don't know this man and keeping yourself safe should always be your first thought.
100%. If a man suggests first date at his or yours, he's only in it for sex. Can't even be fucked to take you to a restaurant for a plate of food before being utterly audacious.
It's the way they test your boundaries too. See how "easy" it'll be for them to get you into bed. First green light is agreeing to have them over or to go to theirs. This is what I was saying about Mary - some people in the thread were irritated by what I said but this is what they do. It's not a reflection on us nor was I judging mary. But pointing out the calculated ways men try to work our how quickly or slowly we'll let them into bed with us.
I don't let men round mine until after
weeks of dating and even then they don't stay over nor do I sleep with them - I've been burnt too many times to do otherwise now. My boundaries are solid now. You can come for two hours and then
duck off - I need to sage the place.