Hi Ladies
I haven't been on this thread for a while but I'm back to learn some tough love.
So I stupidity got involved with a guy who I now know never ever cared for me and I'm left feeling dumb.
I'll fast forward the story a bit,so met him online and due to work and other things we ended up chatting for two months until finally meeting last week.
Now during this time I kinda got to like him and I know I shouldn't have because obviously we hadn't met yet and I was only seeing what he wanted me to see. He also told me he liked me which I know was a lie. But I got swept up in it. He also said stuff to me that he should have never said but now I know he was love bombing and future faking me. I feel like such an idiot writing this.
I saw the signs a few times, the veil slipped with him but then he would keep messaging me all this nice stuff and I'd forget my doubts again.
I now see he's prob a narc but does that make me feel any better no. I feel so stupid. I sometimes feel I was this mission of his just to use me and hurt me. It's hard for me to understand it because I'm so sensitive and generally a nice person and he knew this and I just can't get over the cruelty involved.
So in the time following up to the date he was mad messaging me all sweet things now I know just so I'd meet him. So I did and we got on well etc, we kissed and anyway he wanted me to go back to his again stupid idea. So I know I shouldn't have as I just didn't trust his intentions at this point, so basically I didn't end up sleeping with him because I just felt he was out to use me when all along he projected a different image of himself,it was then I saw the real him.
Now I've no problem with a casual hookup if it had been spoken about beforehand but he led me to believe he wanted more than that and I feel so stupid, embarrassed you name it.My self esteem,self worth, boundaries must be so low that I didn't listen to my gut about him.
Anyway next morning he was cold as ice towards me and I've heard nothing since from him and i won't. I won't message him either.
I dont even know why I'm writing this but it's just to vent probably. I've had an awful few days since beating myself up but also knowing he's worthless and has done this a countless number of times to other women. And then I see the other side that even if I had slept with him I'd still be feeling this way because that was his plan all along.
I'm just trying to come to terms with it all. I'm just at a loss