We’ve spoken about it now. We’ve both agreed that we need to be more considerate of how the other person feels when it comes to dealing with things. I told him it wouldn’t make me anxious if he said ‘I need some time to cool off, can we speak later?’ because I would know where I stand. It’s the saying everything is fine and it isn’t that creates the issue. I actually like time to cool off too after conflict, although it doesn’t sound like that
He said he knows that blanking me mid conversation would make me anxious and unhappy, and he had the full capacity to give me that heads up, but he only thought of himself and his feelings in that moment. He said also he was being passive aggressive when we were trying to work through things the next day and he apologised for that because he knew it was counter productive and purposely dragging things out. I said I tried to give him space for the day and then just wanted resolution before bed, and i apologised because drunk isn’t a productive way to do it. When he wouldn’t speak to me i then did something I knew would make him mad because i only cared how I felt. We addressed the comment he made and me checking the date already so didn’t go back to dwell on them things, we tried to focus on why the chain of events escalated from a thoughtless comment, to a load of nonsense. And it is simply because neither of us know when to leave it. If I’d dropped it after his comment, or he’d dropped it after mine, when it was a non issue, we’d have just said bye normally that morning and got on with our days. We just need to work as a couple vs the issue, not me vs him. I’m looking forward to the counselling session too to work on resolution techniquesThe no caller id thing is such a difficult thing to explain to someone out of the situation
. My boyfriend knows about this too, which we kind of laughed at when talking it out. Me and my friend wanted to check in with someone we are friends with from our hometown who we were friendly with in college, we haven’t seen him since a the break between lockdown 1 & 2, he is neurodivergent. I don’t want him to have my number because he rings me about 5 times a day if he has it so it’s easier to check in with him without caller id. I asked him not to call so much but he doesn’t understand the social que. One of the first things my bf said when I had to change my number was at least you can limit the calls to as and when now. I agree obviously I don’t expect him to see no caller id and then automatically think that’s why
is this yet another addition to the list of reasons why i’m single.
and you've come home to the sun which makes it easier x