Hi everyone. I’ve been enjoying the wonderful weather! Hope you’re all ok. I’ve had a quick read through and a lot seems to be going on! @LaBlonde get well soon
I’m sorry to read you are feeling this way@candyland_ too many new posts for me to go back and find yours to quote it haha. I just feel worried, frustrated and sad tbhIt’s so hard not to take personally even tho I know it isn’t personal at all. And it’s probs just a case of riding it out and it’ll be better again in a few weeks
Just seen this, seemed relevant!
It’s just quite a bad combo of personality types unfortunately haha. Like he’s more inclined to be introverted etc anyway and enjoy quiet time anyway. If he’s down then he wants me around (or so he says) but there will be very little engagement. And I’m a crazy over thinker who instantly reads that as ‘he’s bored of you.’I’m sorry to read you are feeling this way
How are things at the moment?
Snap..It’s just quite a bad combo of personality types unfortunately haha. Like he’s more inclined to be introverted etc anyway and enjoy quiet time anyway. If he’s down then he wants me around (or so he says) but there will be very little engagement. And I’m a crazy over thinker who instantly reads that as ‘he’s bored of you.’
Haha I think that is me too. Like I’ll go round and I can instantly tell he’s having a down day. And he wants me there but has openly said he just feels a bit trapped mentally but it helps to just sit there silently side by side or whatever. But my mind just screams ‘he bloody hates you you boring prick’Snap..
I often worry about not hearing from mine for a couple of days but it’s such a minor complaint and nothing to how he is with me the rest of the time.. He will treat me like a dream but as soon as he needs some quiet time I start thinking he’s lost interest.
I’ve came to the conclusion that I’m spoilt and need 100% attention at all times
Never call yourself stupid, your emotions and feelings are always valid but ..always a but, you can't attach relationship emotions to a situation that from his pov was just sex. Nothing you posted here indicated that he was interested in you for anything other than sex, I'm really sorry you are hurting but in this instance you really do need to listen to what he said and how he behaved towards you. Draw a line under it now, absolutely no point continuing to message him as he's made it very clear he doesn't care. Hold onto that dignity gal and move on.I over thought it way too much with prison guy. I messaged him asking what he was up to and he was like “laid in bed you?”
I just saw red. I basically said oh cool. Let’s just forget about seeing where it goes.
And he texted back going “why? X” CAUSE YOU DONT MAKE AN EFFORT IN SEEING ME OR TALKING TO ME.
So I kindly said “I think we have different expectations of seeing where it goes” and then I texted him about my feelings.
and guess what?!! He didn’t reply and I still haven’t heard from him (yet!)
amd I just feel so sad and stupid for a number of reasons
You honestly don’t need to feel stupid in any way, take it as a lesson learned, next time match their energy text by text. You’ll soon weed out the ones who are a waste of time.I over thought it way too much with prison guy. I messaged him asking what he was up to and he was like “laid in bed you?”
I just saw red. I basically said oh cool. Let’s just forget about seeing where it goes.
And he texted back going “why? X” CAUSE YOU DONT MAKE AN EFFORT IN SEEING ME OR TALKING TO ME.
So I kindly said “I think we have different expectations of seeing where it goes” and then I texted him about my feelings.
and guess what?!! He didn’t reply and I still haven’t heard from him (yet!)
amd I just feel so sad and stupid for a number of reasons
I’m a firm believer in saying fuck it and going for what you want.. Drop him a text asking how he’s doing?Sorry to just dump this in here without contributing much. I always feel like a bit of a fraud. I’d been seeing someone, that I mentioned in these threads. He was/is wonderful. It finished nearly 2 months ago, due to both of us being overwhelmed with our life circumstances/mental health. It’s all been respectful and understanding.
I just miss him so much. I joined Tinder for about 5 minsbut I know that’s not the way to go and to be honest, nobody really compares. I feel like a pathetic 14 year old mooning over a crush. I’m fortyfuckingtwo! Gah. I haven’t really spoken much to anyone about it because I’m embarrassed I think. Thank you letting me vent!
Yes especially as it ended so respectfully.I’m a firm believer in saying fuck it and going for what you want.. Drop him a text asking how he’s doing?
Has he ever been good at texting or keen to make plans to see you?I over thought it way too much with prison guy. I messaged him asking what he was up to and he was like “laid in bed you?”
I just saw red. I basically said oh cool. Let’s just forget about seeing where it goes.
And he texted back going “why? X” CAUSE YOU DONT MAKE AN EFFORT IN SEEING ME OR TALKING TO ME.
So I kindly said “I think we have different expectations of seeing where it goes” and then I texted him about my feelings.
and guess what?!! He didn’t reply and I still haven’t heard from him (yet!)
amd I just feel so sad and stupid for a number of reasons
I don't think he wants to relocate and after 6 years living away from my family (i'm moving back home) I'm not wanting to settle here either. We've kind of just said it'll be what it'll be, we'll see each other when we can and if things work out then great but we aren't putting any labels/pressure or anything like that. just going to enjoy it for the 2 weeks and see what happens but I'll be super sad to say goodbye.@prinnygrace 2.5 hours away doesn't seem a massive problem if it's as great as you say? Weekends until he decides to move to where you are. Will he make that effort? It seems a shame if you both get on so well.
Sorry if I missed it but is he still with the gf?
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