thanks I know I’m totally in limbo, I was slightly tipsy off the night before when I agreed! I’ve said to him I’m not sure, he thinks we shouldn’t say anything just yet but I really don’t want to be a crappy mate.
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Agree!! I keep everyone at arms length and I’m picky what I tell anyone.. people move real funny sometimes and it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them
Why?!? Surely this is the kind of chat you’d have with someone only OF, or someone your seeing, so seedy! I’m not matching anyone who has anything to do with sex on their profile lol
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the complete laziness of writing “3some” too! (hope he put more energy into the actual event)
Omg I was about to comment this too! Slow clap for the extra 2 seconds he saved from typing out the word 'three'urgh
Hahahah that’s true! Like why share that personal info. The next profile said ‘something I want to try with you - karma sutra’ my eyes rolled so back into my head. If you wanna talk dirty there’s plenty of web sights and phone chat lines for it! A dating app should mean DATES or am I just naive lolurgh
@DollyDiamondxo I think I recognise that profile because I rolled my eyes when I read something like that on a profile when I was using Hinge (unless more guys are putting that in this section of their profile 
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No amorous updates from me: I deleted my account off Hinge, have been coming out of a depressive episode (work has been very stressy lately), focusing more on my health and planning little days out (and in) with things that make me feel happy, inspired and fulfilled. I am enjoying single hood, time with my family and friends. I still talk to the guy I mentioned in the last thread, but less so because he only messages/replies to me super late at night (he's in the same city as me, so same time zone) and tbh I got a bit bored. Plus my sanity relies on me getting enough sleep; no guy is worth me sacrificing my sleep/downtime
).No amorous updates from me: I deleted my account off Hinge, have been coming out of a depressive episode (work has been very stressy lately), focusing more on my health and planning little days out (and in) with things that make me feel happy, inspired and fulfilled. I am enjoying single hood, time with my family and friends. I still talk to the guy I mentioned in the last thread, but less so because he only messages/replies to me super late at night (he's in the same city as me, so same time zone) and tbh I got a bit bored. Plus my sanity relies on me getting enough sleep; no guy is worth me sacrificing my sleep/downtime
@wafflesnwings Im glad you’re having a good time focusing on yourself. That’s what’s important - that we feel fulfilled, dates or not!
I have a date lined up for tomorrow evening in a nice bar - a guy off tinder. He seems nice so far…not getting my hopes hugely up, seeing it more as an opportunity to put on more make up that usual tbh
I’ll keep you all updated!!
I have a date lined up for tomorrow evening in a nice bar - a guy off tinder. He seems nice so far…not getting my hopes hugely up, seeing it more as an opportunity to put on more make up that usual tbh
I’ll keep you all updated!!Well I am back to feeling completely awful. Me and the guy I've been chatting to have had a deep conversation tonight and he basically told me he is gender fluid and does crossdress which is not at all what I was expecting. None of his profile or our conversations have alluded to that at all. I have been respectful but explained to him that it really isn't for me. I'm now sat absolutely gutted because I really thought that this had potential. I also feel I've let a barrier down because I've said aloud that I want someone to love me which is something I haven't done for many many years.
I wonder if it’s the same charming guy or the quote is just doing its rounds on hinge! Glad your feeling happier, them down episodes are awful and it’s good that your focusing on yourself rather than doing what a lot of men do as previously discussed and using someone as a therapist! You will get bored if it’s only a late night thing, I’m the same hate sacrificing my sleep!@DollyDiamondxo I think I recognise that profile because I rolled my eyes when I read something like that on a profile when I was using Hinge (unless more guys are putting that in this section of their profile
No amorous updates from me: I deleted my account off Hinge, have been coming out of a depressive episode (work has been very stressy lately), focusing more on my health and planning little days out (and in) with things that make me feel happy, inspired and fulfilled. I am enjoying single hood, time with my family and friends. I still talk to the guy I mentioned in the last thread, but less so because he only messages/replies to me super late at night (he's in the same city as me, so same time zone) and tbh I got a bit bored. Plus my sanity relies on me getting enough sleep; no guy is worth me sacrificing my sleep/downtime
Wow I bet that was abit of a shock! Although fair play to him for being so honest and not hiding it! (Not that he should have to but it’s a very taboo thing to openly admit) and yourself aswell for breaking down the walls and admitting what you truly want
This is how I see it! If the dates a fail, atleast it was an opportunity to get out get dressed up and socialise/go to a new place. I went on a date once and although there never was a second (again he didn’t want a relationship and I didn’t see the point meeting again) I had a great time! One of the best nights out I’ve had because we had similar interests and taste in music. So I didn’t regret it it was also the first time I properly dressed up after lockdown so it also helped me feel somewhat girly again lol@wafflesnwings Im glad you’re having a good time focusing on yourself. That’s what’s important - that we feel fulfilled, dates or not!
I have a date lined up for tomorrow evening in a nice bar - a guy off tinder. He seems nice so far…not getting my hopes hugely up, seeing it more as an opportunity to put on more make up that usual tbh
My vagina has just crawled up inside itself. 
Well…the guy I’m supposed to be going on a date with tomorrow hasn’t messaged me since 2pm today. I get that we haven’t met yet and that it’s Friday night but it’s just a bit deflating!
I don’t think I’d care about this usually but I’m just feeling the loneliness tonight and keep checking my phone
I don’t think I’d care about this usually but I’m just feeling the loneliness tonight and keep checking my phone
Ooh that's not a nice feeling. Make other plans if you haven't heard from him, you'll feel good about it!
I had the same on the first date with the guy I'm seeing, he didn't text all week and then the morning of the date, messaged suggesting he pick me up in three hours(!!). It felt good to set a boundary and say "No, I have plans with a friend now" and we did end up rescheduling, and he hasn't pulled any last-minute shite since then.
how you getting on @Mr Sparkle? Did you manage to have a chat with your bloke?
I think guys are a lot more spontaneous with plans than us. So they don’t mind like not letting us know until the day what the plan is and if the dates still on. Where as we like knowing what we’re doing more so we’ve time to mentally (and physically prepare shave our legs etc lol). I agree though make other plans or have some backup plan so your not sat in feeling lonely and crap about it
Sorry if I’m missing something, but @millsymilsean did hear from her date the day before…she’s just annoyed he didn’t message again at night? I’m not sure what the issue is…if you wanted to speak to him again then you could always reach out yourself.
Well it was more that I asked questions and stuff that weren’t answered haha.
Anyway he replied this morning and it’s all on! I’ll let you all know how it goes!
Good luck!
How exciting! Good luck @millsymilsean, hope it goes well x
Going off the topic a bit, but what do you ladies think about attachment theory? For those of you who are not familiar with it, here is a link to a rather neat article on it https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/attachment-theory-and-the-4-attachment-styles. Your attachment style is basically the way you form relationships and relate to other people in them and is shaped by your experiences as a child. It’s crazy to think how many of our issues stem from our childhood.
Going off the topic a bit, but what do you ladies think about attachment theory? For those of you who are not familiar with it, here is a link to a rather neat article on it https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/attachment-theory-and-the-4-attachment-styles. Your attachment style is basically the way you form relationships and relate to other people in them and is shaped by your experiences as a child. It’s crazy to think how many of our issues stem from our childhood.
I absolutely believe that issues stem from childhood. It’s been proven so many times and from a self awareness side I know why I think and feel the way I do
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