Each to their own - I always prefer the mature approach but we are all different
I agree with this, it’s always best to treat people how you would expect to be treated. Just because we have been victims of ghosting doesn’t mean we should do that to others. But that is just my personal opinion.Instead of ignoring him, just politely say you don’t think you are compatible and you can both move on…1. That’s the respectful thing to do and 2. He’ll most likely be in touch again otherwise
Just popped back onto this thread...and this really resonated with me and thinking about my friend who's in the abusive relationship...you've worded it so wellPlease remember to choose yourself first no matter what. No one is ever worth disturbing your inner peace, your stability, your emotional core and sense of self. It is never too late - or too deep - to remove yourself from a situation that will cause you harm
Oh my goodness I'm sorry they are in such a relationship it's one of the most awful and heartbreaking situations to see a friend or loved one be in - I really hope they are able to overcome any trauma bonds, coercive control and fear to safely leave it as soon as they can - hugs -Just popped back onto this thread...and this really resonated with me and thinking about my friend who's in the abusive relationship...you've worded it so well
I’m not immature I just don’t feel I need to explain myself to someone who has sent me 5 texts in a week lol if he can show me that little interest I owe him nothing..Each to their own - I always prefer the mature approach but we are all different
I don’t understand how im ghosting someone who has sent me five texts in a week he’s had chance to show an interest and he hasn’t really.. as I’ve said if we’d of been having a proper conversation or actually met up I would say something but to text someone ‘sorry I’m not guna talk to you anymore cos we’re not compatible’ the guy probably won’t even notice lol. It’s not like I’m dumping the guy and it’s rele not that deep but like whoever said above each to their own lolI agree with this, it’s always best to treat people how you would expect to be treated. Just because we have been victims of ghosting doesn’t mean we should do that to others. But that is just my personal opinion.
Also you can’t call someone immature whom you know nothing about just because they have a different approach to you I thought this was a none judgemental space lolEach to their own - I always prefer the mature approach but we are all different
I spat my tea out at the hello trouble did he actually expect you to continue as normal after 3 months of no communication exactly I’ve done my time with effortless people! Why settle for crumbs when you can have a whole cake? It does just fizzle out you can’t build something without trying. I get sometimes they don’t try because they have things going on but you don’t get to reserve someone for later lolI agree with the once a day texts: absolutely pathetic. I experienced that when I was a bit younger - once I stopped messaging him first, it fizzled out and I forgot about him, until I got that dreaded post-three month message of 'hello trouble, how's it going?' (the unsexiest message in the world and a true sign of a f*ck boy). Also: it's a well-known fact that most people now come with a smartphone firmly attached to their hands - unless this man is the world's top brain surgeon or works for the CIA, one text a day is really shoddy form. We deserve a banquet; not crumbs! Good morning, good night texts and phone calls are all ways of building and maintaining intimacy - it surprises me how that gets overlooked and branded as 'clingy behaviour' when really it's a sign of someone caring and choosing you every day.
@Mr Sparkle I am so happy for you!! I think my smile rivalled that of the Cheshire Cat's while reading your posts! It's so good he's including you with his friends and that you're bonding with them too - I have always felt that it's a very positive step if your love interest shares parts of their life, such as friends, with you. Onwards and upwards!
@Pixipoppy I want to give you such a big hug. I am so sorry to hear you are going through a painful time, and I hope that it passes quickly for you. Please remember to choose yourself first no matter what. No one is ever worth disturbing your inner peace, your stability, your emotional core and sense of self. It is never too late - or too deep - to remove yourself from a situation that will cause you harm. You will find someone worthy of standing next to you - love doesn't belittle or shame/humiliate or dilute us; sh*tty people and their behaviours do. Unfortunately, we seem to be living in a time where mass narcissism is rife. When it comes to how people behave - especially a love interest - believe what you see; not what could be (it's easy to fall in love with potential, which makes us so vulnerable). I remember hearing this poignant line somewhere ages ago (I think it's from a song), which says something along the lines of: 'I love myself far more than I love you' - this came to my mind when I read your posts. I hope you're taking time for yourself (whether that's reading a book, doing a face mask, going for a swim or dancing about in your room to music that lifts your heart). A book that helped me to come to terms with a very, very painful moment in my love life, is called All About Love by bell hooks - I'd really recommend reading it; for me it felt like a balm
I mean if he text me mentioning the date I would then respond politely explaining why I wouldn’t ever stand someone up without explaining. But other than that I wouldn’t contact him. I do appreciate people see things differently that’s the thing about dating I guessEach to their own - I always prefer the mature approach but we are all different
You do what works for you. I send the closure text for me..just because they don't bother doesn't mean that I have to be the same way. If it's not working for me I will send a text wishing them all the best with their search or just wishing them well. It takes 30 seconds to type a text. I guess we all have different ways of dealing with these situations but we can't then complain about men ghosting if we do a similar version of it ourselves? But that's just my opinion!I’m not immature I just don’t feel I need to explain myself to someone who has sent me 5 texts in a week lol if he can show me that little interest I owe him nothing..
I don’t understand how im ghosting someone who has sent me five texts in a week he’s had chance to show an interest and he hasn’t really.. as I’ve said if we’d of been having a proper conversation or actually met up I would say something but to text someone ‘sorry I’m not guna talk to you anymore cos we’re not compatible’ the guy probably won’t even notice lol. It’s not like I’m dumping the guy and it’s rele not that deep but like whoever said above each to their own lol
Also you can’t call someone immature whom you know nothing about just because they have a different approach to you I thought this was a none judgemental space lol
I spat my tea out at the hello trouble did he actually expect you to continue as normal after 3 months of no communication exactly I’ve done my time with effortless people! Why settle for crumbs when you can have a whole cake? It does just fizzle out you can’t build something without trying. I get sometimes they don’t try because they have things going on but you don’t get to reserve someone for later lol
Different strokes for different folks, right?You do what works for you. I send the closure text for me..just because they don't bother doesn't mean that I have to be the same way. If it's not working for me I will send a text wishing them all the best with their search or just wishing them well. It takes 30 seconds to type a text. I guess we all have different ways of dealing with these situations but we can't then complain about men ghosting if we do a similar version of it ourselves? But that's just my opinion!
People respond differently and however they choose to - I feel it's really important to give grace to ourselves in that sense. I've ghosted men in the past because I honestly couldn't handle how manipulative they were or the emotional guilt trip they would try with me - and even if I had communicated that to them, they wouldn't have understood or respected my thoughts. There's a therapist I follow on IG called Nedra Tawwab and she did a small post about ghosting - it gave me food for thought as I still feel quite muddled about ghosting, because it's awful to experience and I feel guilty about ghosting guys myself.I’m not immature I just don’t feel I need to explain myself to someone who has sent me 5 texts in a week lol if he can show me that little interest I owe him nothing..
I don’t understand how im ghosting someone who has sent me five texts in a week he’s had chance to show an interest and he hasn’t really.. as I’ve said if we’d of been having a proper conversation or actually met up I would say something but to text someone ‘sorry I’m not guna talk to you anymore cos we’re not compatible’ the guy probably won’t even notice lol. It’s not like I’m dumping the guy and it’s rele not that deep but like whoever said above each to their own lol
Also you can’t call someone immature whom you know nothing about just because they have a different approach to you I thought this was a none judgemental space lol
I spat my tea out at the hello trouble did he actually expect you to continue as normal after 3 months of no communication exactly I’ve done my time with effortless people! Why settle for crumbs when you can have a whole cake? It does just fizzle out you can’t build something without trying. I get sometimes they don’t try because they have things going on but you don’t get to reserve someone for later lol
I mean if he text me mentioning the date I would then respond politely explaining why I wouldn’t ever stand someone up without explaining. But other than that I wouldn’t contact him. I do appreciate people see things differently that’s the thing about dating I guess
"I love every type of person"... Lists 3 types of people he doesn't want to match in the sentence before that.Absolute catches
The first guy's IG handle is showing so you may want to scrub it out. Must admit I just stalked himAbsolute catches
Definitely needs sorting as his children are on his Instagram...but then again why would you put that on Tinder ! He's definitely one for the bin!The first guy's IG handle is showing so you may want to scrub it out. Must admit I just stalked him