I used to follow him religiously but found he became increasingly annoying and I couldn't deal with the faux American/ cockney twang thing he started doing...my favourite at the moment is Acemetaphor on Instagram..he's a straight talker and just makes sense to me. He a bit exuberant in the way only Americans can be
but I like him.
he’s so worth it and I’m so happy when we’re together but sometimes we go 3 weeks without seeing each other at all and it’s rubbish and not how I ever imagined a possible relationship to be. Need to do some thinking about whether it’s something I’ll be able to deal with long term..I feel you, but this is so harsh towards yourself. Would you ever tell the same to a friend?
What a rubbish situation to be in! Meeting someone who’s right for you but having an obstacle in the way. I like my own company but it’s different when your with someone and just can’t see them because you also have to deal with missing him as apose to just enjoying your own company. Three weeks isn’t bad now but maybe it would be down the line. Maybe speak to him about it in futureSupposed to be spending 3 days with the person I’ve been seeing at the weekend, the longest we will have spent together buuuut I’ve just tested positive for covid. Unless I recover and get 2 neg tests very quickly I won’t be seeing him. The distance is starting to be something I’m struggling with and I don’t know what to do about it
If you’d of settled for him you’d be unhappier than you are now guaranteed! I’m sure you already know that but with these things being thrust in our faces all the time (I don’t as much as I’m not on social media anymore) it wraps your way of thinking lol. Social media isn’t real some of them ppl be miserable asf in real life I’ve seen it myself. It’s a facade a lot of the time obvs there is people who have been lucky and found someone special but not all of them. I hate when people don’t believe when I say I don’t wanna get married I think more women are becoming ok with not vbeing married. I love that for us. I just want a loyal companion who loves dogs and texts me back, screw a husband lol
Sorry to be a ditz but who is this comment aimed at ??
haha me
Ah ok! Now the comments by @doodlebug make sense, but your post doesn't because you are in a relationship or has that changed since we all chatted to you a few days ago ??haha me
Yes I am, nothing has changed this week - just it’s only going to be a short term thing. I’m emotionally all over the place at the moment and seem to go from one extreme to the other. Sometimes I don’t want any more to do with him and other times I really like him and think maybe if things were different we could have a future.
I would probably say from what you have shared here that you don't really like him enough, if at all and that if you are staying with him hoping he will change or think things might be different if x y or z happens you are just prolonging the inevitable heartache that you are already feeling.
No I completely agree and that’s why I ended things with my ex. Just to clarify it’s not me who has decided it’s a short term thing, there’s some stuff going on that I can’t really go into detail about on here. If I knew it was something that had a future I would be much more invested but I guess I’ve kept him at arms length as a defence mechanism and looked for reasons why I don’t like him so it’s not as painful when it ends… which I know sounds insane. I don’t want to meet someone else
I think when things end with him I will be single for quite a while, men just cause so much anxiety and heartache for me.See above, I’m the one being strung along unfortunately
Then why are you staying in the relationship?See above, I’m the one being strung along unfortunately
I know, I just don’t want to because I’m living in a fantasy land where I get a happy ending even though I know it’s not going to happen. A lot of it is related to my low self esteem and MH issues too. Maybe I will have another chat with him about it but it’s hard to end things with someone before they have even done the thing you’re worried is going to happen? I just know I’ve never felt this low about myself or anxious. I’m used to stability and I know I need to work on not becoming attached to people and being able to cope with change/
I'm trying to find some positives in what you are saying but my biggest take from this is why are you doing this to yourself? Why are you settling for less than you deserve? Why are you allowing a man to dictate the course of your life ? Sounds like he's in control of this relationship, its on his terms and you are just plodding along for the ride and are clearly miserable?No I completely agree and that’s why I ended things with my ex. Just to clarify it’s not me who has decided it’s a short term thing, there’s some stuff going on that I can’t really go into detail about on here. If I knew it was something that had a future I would be much more invested but I guess I’ve kept him at arms length as a defence mechanism and looked for reasons why I don’t like him so it’s not as painful when it ends… which I know sounds insane. I don’t want to meet someone else
See above, I’m the one being strung along unfortunately
Yeah I guess? I don’t think it’s deliberate on his part - he’s been quite clear from the outset and I thought I could handle it but now I’m in too deep. My own fault. I know there’s plenty of fish in the sea and I’d meet someone but at the moment I can’t imagine meeting anyone else I want to be with… I only ever fancy guys who are way out of my league so what I “deserve” I don’t usually want. Not sure how I get out of that conundrum.
