i would feel a little hurt too - is this the guy you mentioned before who is in a band? a gig style party is really no pressure, you could go with one or two of your own friends and he could introduce you as the night goes on - it’s not like a sit-down meal where there’s more formal need to introduce you.Hey everyone. I've been seeing a guy for 3 months steady now. It's his birthday on Saturday and he has mentioned he has arranged a gig/party and previously when I've mentioned plans for a February weekend (a friend's party on the 19th) he's asked me "what date is that on?" as if he was checking it wasn't his birthday. Anyway, he's now basically said he's busy this weekend and won't be able to see me. I am trying to be understanding, that it's his birthday and he will want to see his family/friends and not worry about keeping me company,introducing me etc.
But I am also a little bit miffed..do you think I'm right to feel a little hurt?
it may just be though that he feels it’s pressure to introduce a new partner at a party etc and would rather do it at it his own pace? i would feel the same as you but i can also see maybe where he is coming from.