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Yay! I have the same news myselfaw everyone I got news! The guy I've been seeing recently and clicked so well with asked me to be his girlfriend
Yay! So pleased for youYay! I have the same news myself
Clearly the there's some love dust in the air
Amongst the ghosters, the flakers and narcissists, posts like those of @Gairlfb and @hereforthememe always give me hope 
I look forward to hearing everyoneās āofficialā news in the future!! 
I look forward to hearing everyoneās āofficialā news in the future!! Bah humbug to all the good news 
I jest. It's great to hear positive stories
I jest. It's great to hear positive stories
I may have a date this week. I'm not hugely arsed which I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing? Like seriously beyond not bothered.... if it doesn't happen I won't even give it another thought not arsed. Maybe this is the universe saying nah not yet 
Why aren't you bothered about it ?I may have a date this week. I'm not hugely arsed which I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing? Like seriously beyond not bothered.... if it doesn't happen I won't even give it another thought not arsed. Maybe this is the universe saying nah not yet
I honestly have no idea. Maybe because I'm genuinely not looking for someone really. If it's arranged then I'll go but I guess it means my expectations low because I know I'll be fine regardless.
I'm all grown up!
This is probably the best way to be! Get going
He works nights so won't hear much if ever during the days anywayThis is probably the best way to be! Get going
I seriously have no expectation because I have a splendid week planned with stuff on my own that I'm most excited forHow did you meet and how come he asked you out?
Never mind. He might prefer faces or boob to bums.
I do have a good sized derriere
Good old Hinge. He's a voice note/telephone person though which I am not lol
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Oh, I thought you wanted to take a break from dating? Has that finished?
Oh Iāll check those out! Here are mine in varying price ranges haha:
- Georgio Armani: Si
- Body shop: Moringa
- Santal 33
- Maison Francis Kurkdijan: Baccarat Rouge 540
- Vilhelm Parfumerie: Fleur Burlesque (getting myself this for Christmas!).
I really wasn't fussed before my 1st date with my boyfriend but we clicked and it was one of the best first dates I've had so definitely go and just see. You have nothing to lose!I may have a date this week. I'm not hugely arsed which I'm not sure if that's a good or bad thing? Like seriously beyond not bothered.... if it doesn't happen I won't even give it another thought not arsed. Maybe this is the universe saying nah not yet
I just saw this on TikTok and it really resonated with me after my recent experience. I thought it might help others.
Agree with a lot of what sheās said but I donāt like āitās him or someone even betterā - the constant thought that there could be someone even better waiting round the corner, or available to swipe the next time you log in the app is what is stopping people from really evaluating the person who is in front of them, taking time to get to know more about them, and often treating them like a real human being with needs and feelings and thoughts.
Itās a disposable culture whereby itās fine to just cancel a date at short notice or ghost someone before or after meeting because there arenāt any consequences - plenty more fish in the sea etc. In reality the dating pool isnāt that big even if you live in a big city and thatās why you see the same people on the apps when you come back from a break. Thatās why the ghosters will reappear and try and act like nothing happened (usually coinciding with a WhatsApp photo change
).I think saying āitās not just him, there are other optionsā is more accurate.
Mini rant over
I think, from my point of view, that she was saying if he treats you like crap, thereās red flags, heās not responding to messages, you donāt just have to stay because it is the first reasonable date in a few other ways in a few years. That you donāt have to just settle.Agree with a lot of what sheās said but I donāt like āitās him or someone even betterā - the constant thought that there could be someone even better waiting round the corner, or available to swipe the next time you log in the app is what is stopping people from really evaluating the person who is in front of them, taking time to get to know more about them, and often treating them like a real human being with needs and feelings and thoughts.
Itās a disposable culture whereby itās fine to just cancel a date at short notice or ghost someone before or after meeting because there arenāt any consequences - plenty more fish in the sea etc. In reality the dating pool isnāt that big even if you live in a big city and thatās why you see the same people on the apps when you come back from a break. Thatās why the ghosters will reappear and try and act like nothing happened (usually coinciding with a WhatsApp photo change
I think saying āitās not just him, there are other optionsā is more accurate.
Mini rant over
I totally agree with what youāve said. I just donāt understand some peopleās attitude, if they have found something goodā¦ great! Everyone wants to get off the apps
sucks that some people just are so wrapped up in the likes and validation.Yeah, you shouldnāt stay because heās the first one who has shown you any interest, because there will be someone else. Although it can be years between finding someone you find attractive and have genuine excitement about and itās more misleading BS and platitudes to claim otherwise.I think, from my point of view, that she was saying if he treats you like crap, thereās red flags, heās not responding to messages, you donāt just have to stay because it is the first reasonable date in a few other ways in a few years. That you donāt have to just settle.
I totally agree with what youāve said. I just donāt understand some peopleās attitude, if they have found something goodā¦ great! Everyone wants to get off the apps
You imagine that everyone would want to get off the apps, but for a lot of men who arenāt looking for commitment or donāt know what they want, the apps represent a way to get attention, possible sexting (and photos/videos) and sex at their fingertips. They want to sign up to more!
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