Its a hard one to navigate isn't it! Because your gut is often telling you no don't give this guy a chance, but its influenced by the past trauma. Definitely don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable, but you could definitely give him a go, you don't owe him your life just from casually dating. If your gut tells you to stop and you're not feeling it follow that too.
I am used to love bombing intense men and now when people are normal and take things slow I'm like ew this is terrible, but then if you asked me what i am looking for I'd describe exactly what they offer. I have decided to be conscious of that and try and remember it when I start freaking out about someone showing me basic levels of human decency