Hello lovely ladies; hope you don’t mind if I derail the thread with an essay for a sec - just need some other peoples opinions on my situation.
(Some of you may remember I posted in one of the earlier threads months ago about how I was an super late to my second date with this one guy and his phone had died and we couldn’t find each other and he got annoyed and left and I was devastated!)
Anyway a month or two after that we rekindled and I’ve been seeing him ever since. We went on our first date when the Eu were on - not sure what month that was though. However I don’t live in London and he does, but we’ve been hanging out pretty consistently.
He told me on our second date he was moving to the US in the new year and as a result we’ve both kind of ruled out being in a relationship (at the time I’d only been single six months - with my ex for three years and wasn’t fully over him, so having something that I knew was going to be a bit more low-key was exactly what I wanted).
I ended up going on holiday with this guy pretty early on (we’d only been on three dates!!) but he was going abroad and his friends had all pulled out one by one for different reasons and he was going to go alone. Last minute he asked if I wanted to come and I thought fuck it why not. We spent a week together and it was loads of fun and pretty romantic.
He was pretty upfront on our first couple of dates that he was seeing other people. I wasn’t because I’d had all apps deleted months before I met him, but the fact he was wasn’t a massive issue for me because of how I was feeling towards my ex etc. After our holiday I got the impression he stopped seeing other people because of how much time we spent together and things he would say - but I never outright asked.
A couple weekends ago he asked if I wanted to hang out with his friends and I spent the weekend with them. I had a great time but the one thing I felt was highlighted was that he actually liked me a lot more/was more serious about me than I thought based on things his friends would say…
We couldn’t see each other the week after that as he was really busy with work.
When he’s apologising over text for being busy, he asks me what I’m up to and I tell him my birthday is coming up and I’ve got some fun things planned for that. Now I hadn’t invited him out to celebrate with my friends and I because he’d told me prior that he was away that particular weekend watching the rugby. And I had checked with him to make sure. Anyway he reads my text mentioning my birthday and HAS NOT REPLIED SINCE.
It’s been over a week now. Maybe I shouldn’t have, but I messaged him again today because he is notoriously bad with his phone and part of me was hoping maybe he’d just got distracted and needed a nudge. This time he hasn’t even read it.
I’m just shocked for him to ghost out of nowhere. We’d been having such a nice time together and the whole time it’s been very chill. He normally is quite good with expressing his feelings so I’m surprised if something was wrong he wouldn’t have just told me.
After spending however many months with this guy, going away together, meeting his friends, do I have to really just accept that he’d ghost out of nowhere one day?? Has anyone got any theories? I know ghosting is common when someone meets someone else they like better, but he had told me obviously as he’s relocating to the US in two months dating new people is a bit odd and a waste of time…so I’m just at a loss as to what has happened here